Sometimes it is hard being onself
By ats_gemelle
@ats_gemelle (23)
Philippines
March 18, 2012 9:15am CST
It has always been a motto in my life that I would always be myself, of course at the right place,time and situation. But despite this, there will always be people criticizing you because being yourself is not good enough for them. I've been through this already so many times in my life and what I end up doing is not being entirely my true self. I tend to project an image or attitude that somehow pleases them and every I do this, I tend to get low self esteem and end up sort of hating myself. Every time I encounter experiences like this in my life, I tend to rewind it over and over again in my head and keep on asking myself, "How am i ever going to push through that motto in my life when i keep on allowing myself to give in to what people want?" I sometimes wish that everything in this world was not that complicated. I wish that people will accept you regardless of what you want yourself to be. Don't you think it would be easier that way?
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7 responses
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
29 Jun 12
I do not know how to say this nicely. But if the people you are hanging out with don"t know the meaning of appreciating someone, then they are simply jerks. If you really want to be yourself, then just do it. Because after you do it, you will feel good inside and automatically be yourself after it. Sometimes, people will talk behind your back or make fun of you, but then you wouldn"t care because you are yourself.
@averygirl72 (37746)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
What a nice post! I actually feel that way too at times. However, I discovered recently, I would be happier and feel greater freedom by just being myself. I want to know which type of people would accept me for what I am and who cannot stand me.
I want them to see the real me, sometimes it is hard to pretend. 
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Just know that you can never please everyone. There will be a time when you will realize just how much of yourself you are losing just to try to make somebody accept who you are or what you do. I have been in this situation oftentimes, and although I know I should practice what I preach, I also know that for whatever reason, I just can't I have this problem where I really just can't say "NO" to others. I am not proud of it but I am not ashamed of it. There are lines I don't cross and boundaries to this, of course, that goes without saying. I think that it is both a skill and a curse. I have learned to adjust myself to this behavior and to the conditions I put myself in.
@shaieen (257)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Life's like that, people will always have something to say about you. That's nature. All you have to do is be yourself, and don't mind what others are telling you. As long as you are doing good to your fellow, you don't hurt their feelings, you don't do bad or anything that could cause them to stay away from you then everything's fine. Just be nice and be you. Later on, you'll find friends that will accept you; that would be the time when you don't need to impress everyone(because you already have friends whom you can lean on, share your happiness). Good luck! I know adjusting takes too soon, but I know you can do it! Just don't be over-conscious okay? And whatever hurt feelings you have, always pray them to God. He listens and answers our prayers.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
19 Mar 12
"Grow up!", "Behave your age!", "You are not a child!" I have not accepted these, maybe well intended advices from family and friends. Because I have not accepted them for what they are! They may be successful, serious and wise. What they say maybe is good for them, That doesn't matter to me. I want to do something that is good for me.
Go ahead and do what is good for you, just enough for you not to be the castaway, if you want to live with human contact!
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Hey!. If you believe in your motto then by all means follow it. Do not let the haters get into you. In this world we cant please all the people. Just show who you are to others and if they do not like what they see in you then it is not your problem anymore but theirs. You know, a person who does not appreciate you does not deserve you too. It should be mutual to have a harmonious relationship. Do not be embarrassed about it as long as you are not violating other peoples right. If you do not fit in then do not force it. Maybe they are not the right group for you that is why you are having a hard time being yourself and proving yourself.If people will simply accept us for who we are easily that would be fantastic but I think would be boring too. It will not allow a person to grow. Because with difficulties you learn and by learning you become tougher to be able to survive in this life.
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Your are making an opinion towards being true to all and be just yourself but you tend to do the other way around which is very wrong to all perspective in life that you make your life miserable but not doing who you really was.You need to explain to all your friends that you tend to do all things just the ways you like it under who you really are.This is all your fault so you have to face the consequences then try to make things right and people will surely adjust and know you better than pretending to them who you are.I wish you could do what you wanted to do.I will cheer
up for your success.
