If anger has become a problem then what to do ?

India
March 19, 2012 12:49am CST
Anger is a normal, usually healthy emotion we all experience. But when anger gets out of hand, it can cause problems at home and at work. There are ways you can get control of your anger, instead of letting it control you. anger can cause problems. Increased blood pressure and other physical changes associated with anger make it difficult to think straight and harm your physical and mental health. If anger has become a problem then what to do?
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14 responses
• India
29 Jun 12
I agree with you, anger is a big problem. I have friend who got fired the other day. That’s like his 5th job. He always gets upset over small things and the end result is shouting at customers. He really has a problem but he never admits it. Therefore he does nothing about it.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
20 Mar 12
Thankfully there are sometimes where warning signs are there, so I distance myself from the situations and often times the people that make me angry. But all of the time it is not that simple. Sometimes it is not one big thing. It is just a bunch of little things and there is just something that there is a straw that is going to break the camel's back, there is going to be a straw that really breaks everything and busts that dam of anger. Still I do try and simmer down when I can and vent and channel my anger into more positive ways. There are times where thankfully I recognize the signs and reign it in when I can. And when I cannot, it is really a bad situation. Really a situation that many people should really steer clear of. Of course, I think that I am normally a balanced person, which can actually make it rather worse. Still I do try and keep as calm as I can, when I can.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Listening to mellow music minimize anger. I tried it when I was once very angry with someone. Later, I realized that I was not angry anymore and I was already singing with the dvd player. :-)
@wongchoiyee (7401)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 12
Hi Dineshk, Your discussion is good, I have a problem my brother always let anger control him, and he made our family unhappy one, I am seeing the comments here to learn about anger.
@TheIzers (680)
20 Mar 12
If angry has already reach the state of harm to self and other people then I suggest for seeking help. Taking anger management class or go to psychiatric. me myself when I get angry at job I usually discussed at home with my husband to get his point of view, usually I feel better afterward. But when I get angry with my husband I will ask him to leave me alone for at least one hour then I will talk to him when I feel better.
• China
20 Mar 12
i m also suffering this problem actually. my anger is too much bad. i dn;t loose my temper so easily but if i loose it then like i dn;t have control over it. but now im wid my girl so she really knw how to handle tat.. he kiss me sometimes when angry .. sometimes hug me to calm me.. so it all this work for me..
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
whenever i got angry to someone or to anything, i usually do deep breathing exercise..this way, it helps me to calm..and when i feel that anytime i'm going to burst out, i close my eyes and think of the consequences of my actions if i let my feelings overruled..this technique helps me a lot..you can do the displacement though:)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Keep calm by breathing and out or focus your attention to something else. :)
@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
19 Mar 12
i suggest going for anger management ,it really help ,alternatively the method i use is to count up to ten secretly when ever i get angry,it will help me calm down before talking or taking action
@milony (5)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
Try taking a deep breath and exhale. Or try leaving the room quickly. Or find something else you can release your anger on like punching a pillow instead of whatever you're anger with..lol
• United States
19 Mar 12
When I'm angry I have a tendency to cry it out. One thing I've learned is that is doesn't work out well to hoard that emotion or be in denial about being angry. If I begin to feel angry about something I'll make whatever changes are necessary to feel more peaceful over the situation.
@elementah (106)
• United States
19 Mar 12
Well, while the anger is still inside of me but is about to come out, I think of how I feel when someone outbursts their anger at me and it would usually stop me from actually making an outburst. If I still do it, then I become really nice and look ashamed the next second. I really hate hot-tempered people.
@sanofer (525)
• India
19 Mar 12
showing our anger if something happens wrong is nature. but if we get anger for everything and it goes extreme every time it may damage our health. so we should try to be cool always. if something makes me angry,i will sit quietly and start listening to music. after i come out of that anger,i will try to rectify what went wrong.
@SIMPLYD (81661)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
I do have some days when i can easily get cranky. I would snap at an employee about an impertinent question or any annoyable act. But what's good, is after a few minutes losing my temper, i would also suddenly realize my outburst . Thus, i would stop working and say a prayer of forgiveness for what i have done and help on how to be able to make up for it. Sure enough, when the person gets back, i would be gracious to him/her again, much to her /his surprise , i think.