are black women haters?

United States
March 19, 2012 11:29am CST
Is it just me or do black women hate on each other. The reason I decided to write this is because it bothers me that i would build a friendship with a black woman only to have her get jealous about somthing and start ignoring me. I feel like this is not the way for people to live and its disturbing to me. It has happened to me so many times that i've decided to sit down and write about it. Prime example is a few years ago i befriended someone who was going through hard times. I was going through hard times too but i felt that as women we have to stick together. Somtimes when she needed financial help i would offer it and likewise she has helped me out too financially but overall i helped her more than she helped me (much more) anyway i assumed we were good friend but due to the pressures that we were both facing in our marriages at the time we became distant in short i may have snapped a few times on her and she stopped talking to me. Anyway we recently started talking again which i was happy about because i missed her friendship. Anyway, we were getting along perfectly until i started telling her how happy i was with my new guy and that i had ended my marriage and was moving on to a happier and less stressful life with my new guy. She acted like she was happy for me but now she has expressed to me her resentment and the new guy in my life because she does'nt feel he's a good person or whatever and then she ignored me all weekend to the point where the only way i got her to talk to me is by leaving her messages that i have a job offer for her when she finally responded i noticed that she had already deleted me from her instant messenger list and come to find out she did all this because of the anger she is feeling towards my new relationship and the fact that she is still married to her husband who has recently left her. This is not the first time ive experienced similar situations I could actually write a book about this because it is somthing i have experienced my entire life so my conclusion is i wonder if im the problem or are black women just haters?
3 responses
success1625
@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
20 Mar 12
To the others posters, as a woman of african descent, while I could go into a lengthy debate with y'all about who is who and what is what, here's the bottomline. Yes jealousy,anger,hatred,and whatever else exists among women of ALL races, however as someone who's of african descent,as someone who's been making observations of how people interact with each other,as someone who is on the outside looking in, I can say without a doubt that women of african descent are found to be more aggresive,outspoken and probably a little to liberal in their behavior than women of other races. This is a fact so telling that men of african descent, would rather date women outside of their race, and what I'm relaying to you is what I've been told, by the "brothers" because women of african descent are to violent,agrressive, haters, gold diggers,quarrelsome and the list goes on. I was watching a show today and the depiction of the women of african descent emulated who the narrator of this story wrote about. Mind you this was a show created by a man of african descent. Facts are facts, I think the narrator should have been a bit more sensitive as to how she labelled and worded her discussion, but nothing she has said is far from the truth and it really doesn't help to hide our heads in the sand about the issue. I was really peeved watching that show today, and I honestly wish that this issue which is indeed prevalent among women of african descent would stop.
Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Mar 12
I agree with Stowyk. It has nothing to do with race at all. Women are women no matter what their race... Anyway, it sounds like she is jealous and immature for acting that way. I choose not to hang out with people that act that way. I do not need nor want drama or negativity in my life. I hang out with uplifting people. If they are not uplifting and positive I go the other way. All people get jealous sometimes but most people push it away and learn to be happy for the other person. If I were you I would find better friends.
mensab
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
i could smell jealousy in this discussion. they way i read it and based on your narration, she might not be happy with what happened to you - finding a guy who makes you happy. i may be wrong in my reading, but that's the theme i see. just move on with your new guy and be happy as you should.