...really, i am supposed to worry about that?
By jeanneyvonne
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
Philippines
March 30, 2012 3:20am CST
Call me a Scrooge or anything that you want but I feel particularly irritated when my cousin told me to bring something from my short trip. She always does it - she asks for this something, which she knows I will not buy because it is not part of my purchases (usually it's food). Then, when I come home, she insists on getting it or rummaging with my purchases to find it. I told her time and time again that I didn't buy it nor didn't think of buying it. why is she so insistent that I buy something for her when I can't even buy some things for myself? What best to do with these kind of people?
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6 responses
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
8 Apr 12
I think you did well. Don't give in to their demands because once you do they will continue to depend on you and annoy you. Hopefully, they will get tired asking you for things.
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@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I am trying hard to be a total and complete Scrooge to them once in a while. I really don't like it they demand things like these and they think they can do so and are entitled to because they are family. I do give them reasonable favors once in a while webcast they are very close relations but it doesn't mean that I will put up with these demands or abuse without complaint or comment. I do hope they will lessen their demands,e specially when I'm trying to do many things at once.
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@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
That is usually what people ask when other people go to other places.. You can just tell her nicely, that you couldn't buy it for some reason- you became busy or it wasn't in the budget. Maybe she'd understand... some people are just like that..you just have to be patient.
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@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
Well, i did tell her that once in a while but sometimes, she gets on my nerves when I'm having other things to think about. I usually communicate in a nice and polite way but sometimes, I can be easily annoyed when I have my own set of problems. And sometimes, her constant nagging doesn't help. I guess, i will try to be more patient when she gets with that act.
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@marguicha (215805)
• Chile
11 Apr 12
Does your cousin bring you things when she goes elsewhere? I don´t think so. So don´t listen to her or tell her before the trip that you will not bring anything to anybody. Period. When I travel, sometimes I buy souvenirs (the kind that cost $1 each) to give away. But I will not accept chores of any kind.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
I have met people like that- I got impatient once and just said no when she kept asking and asking... I think she stoped because of that. But i think you should just tell her nicely or just buy her stuff once in a while- not really all the time.
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@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I guess giving in her request once in a while won't really hurt my relationship with her. I just hope that she won't except things to go her way all the time. I have my own priorities and I have my own budget to think about. I guess that giving in once in awhile will get her off my back and I will be less likely annoyed by her.
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@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I do tell her once in a while, i just don' know if she wants to hear it form me. I don't always have a long patience for this kind of things which often leads to an escalating episode. Sometimes, I try to understand her but I also want understanding in return.
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@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 12
Well, many people actually want something from someone they know if they had the trip to somewhere. Sometimes they just don't know what to ask but insist on getting something because it will make them happy, maybe to be thinking that those people actually thinking about them while they were having their trip. My advice for you to do with these kind of people is simple, tell them nicely that it's not that you don't want to buy it, it's because you can't even afford to buy them on your own or stuff that you want in those trip. If they still insist and didn't understand, i would just ignore them.
