Self centered people
By trisha27
@trisha27 (3494)
United States
March 31, 2012 8:48pm CST
Some people can be so self centered and only care about themselves. Like this one lady at work. She takes advantage of me I guess. I work in a store and sometimes we associates have to cover lunches for her and breaks or whatever. Well...sometimes when covering her lunch she will take forever to leave (Like okay I have all the time in the world to stand and wait for you to leave and then wait for you to come back. I have my own work you know.) And then she will take longer then allotted for our lunches. Like we only get an hour lunch, and she will take a 2 hour lunch. Knowing that the associate that is covering her has to leave in 30 mins or knowing that they need to take a lunch or a break. She likes to take advantage of people and forget about mentioning to management, because they do nothing about her anyway.
Today kind of broke the last straw for me. I went to her ahead of time and was trying to figure out when she was going to lunch letting her know that hey...I leave at this time and I need to clock out on time, I've been going over on my hours and I don't want to get in trouble. (Our company stopped on overtime.) So I was like when are you going and hey I can't cover the whole hour because I have to leave so I'll do a half and someone else needs to cover the other half. Well...I was like so what are you going to do. She shrugs her shoulders and continues on with her work saying she was going an hour before I had to leave. I know she would be coming back late and I don't want to take that chance of clocking out late or whatever. What does she do she calls me at 7:00 and says I need you to cover the whole hour lunch. I was like well who is covering half cause I already told you I can't do a whole hour. She shrugs her shoulders and says you are covering the whole hour. She calls another associate over to tell her something...not to ask her to cover a half. I was like to the other associate do you mind covering half her lunch cause I have to leave at 8. The associate didn't mind. But you know what it is not my job to go and find someone to cover your lunch you know what is going on I already told you when I leave and she pulls that on me. All she cares about is herself. Sorry you guys I guess this is mainly just me venting. But you know what I am now learning that hey no one is going to watch out for me and its time I start watching out for myself and worrying about me and knowing what I need to do and not let people walk all over me.
Do any of you out there gone through this or know some self centered people. Share your story and what did you do about it.
5 responses
@06MLam (620)
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1 Apr 12
I think the best way to do is to ignore these self-centred people and do what we should be doing. If you are only allowed an hour lunch, just leave in the time period that you are allowed and ignore your collegue. Therefore, if the management ask for reasons, you just mention that you have already followed the rules set by the company and hopefully you won't be in trouble and get your other collegues to do the same with you so that that self-centred person can have nothing to do but to follow back the rule of the company or what the others prefer.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
1 Apr 12
I will definitely try that and follow with what I am supposed to do and just forget about her. Because I know what is supposed to be done and I will do that. I'm not going to care if she follows or not because most likely she won't and she'll only get herself in trouble even more I'm sure. Management will eventually see what is going on and hopefully take action. If they come to me...then I will let them know what has been happening and I have my other co-workers back me up because they feel the same way as I do.
@offkey (313)
• United States
1 Apr 12
Start telling her no when she asks if you'll cover her lunch, or breaks or whatever. Tell her No and walk away, Just do what your supposed to do, soon enough management will be tired of it, and if they ask about something she was supposed to do tell them "____ was supposed to take care of it" if people stop covering for her she'll have to face the music. It's the only way she will ever learn to stop taking advantage of people.
I hate that people get take advantage of, I do because people know that I am soft hearted and people walk all over me, I try not to let it happen but it always does and I'm on the losing end.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
1 Apr 12
Yeah I agree...I think we all should start telling her no and telling her how its going to be and see what she does. Especially me too. I am a soft hearted person as well and this lady walks all over me. She takes advantage of that and she knows or thinks that I won't say anything and do whatever she asks. Well no more. I'll be sure to mention to management too so they know what is going on as well to cover myself. Then just sit back and watch her run around with her head chopped off and wondering what to do to cover her butt.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
1 Apr 12
The world is full of self centered people. Sadly most of them tend to be those in high positions of power, whether it be bosses, teachers, or even political leaders. I had a teacher one time, who seemed to be the rather obnoxious and self centered. Granted, I've had teachers before that had their own way that they ran their classroom. I have absolutely no problem with that.
It was just that everything in the class had to be about this person. All of the students that did good, it was because of his teaching abilities, even if he was a mediocre teacher at best. And all of the students who did bad, it was there fault, because they did not take advantage of a teacher like him. Even if his teaching consisted of putting a bunch of notes on a projector and telling us to read a textbook, while giving us tests where many of the questions were not on the exam. Self centered and kind of incompetent as well. That's a really bad combination.
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
1 Apr 12
I do know a LOT of self-centered people in the office or even in my family or friends circle. Same thing happened to me, getting take advantage of and I can't do my own thing. What I said to myself is ENOUGH. If I don't want to do something I say no and give them my explanation. Time is precious dear. I understand you and you have your own life.
Just tell that person in the face that you'll leave on this time and if no one is going to cover her shift then that's her problem already. Its her shift not yours. And make sure that the management knows about this. This kind of person doesn't belong in any company since she doesn't know what being a team player means.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
1 Apr 12
I'm so sorry you have had to go through all of that at work. Nothing is worse than a self centered person to be around wether it is at work or elsewhere. I don't have any co-workers like that but i do have others who have been pretty darn selfish who act like I'm the one whose selfish instead. They are just twisted and full of themselves. I hope someone finally straightens the selfish person out once and for all somewhere down the line. No other place than here is good for venting, i do it myself. It gets to be ridiculous with some people and their selfishness, I agree. So stressful to be around them.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
1 Apr 12
It is and it just makes the day bad when that person is around. Everytime I hear that she's there I'm like well here we go again. And it is stressful something I don't need to be going through right now. I'm glad there is a place like mylot where I can come and vent.
