Do you tell your spouse or partner your needs?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
April 1, 2012 7:43am CST
Perhaps you would like your communication skills with your partner to improve. Or you would like there to be more affection. Do you tell your partner the things that you need in order to improve the relationship or things that you need to feel more loved. I think a lot of people give up on receiving what they need in a relationship. I think it's important for us to let our partner/spouse now the things we need to better improve the relationship.
3 responses
@busaboss (22)
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3 Apr 12
I usually don't do this often but I believe it is very essential to a good and long-lasting relationship. Your right that it is one of the common cause of a failed relationship because of your partner does not know what you need and you don't know what he/she need. Constant communication is a must in any kind of engagement.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 Apr 12
Yeah I myself haven't done it in a while. I think that it would be a good thing for me to do. I agree it is very important to communicate effectively. I know that we have had some hard times. But I know that he loves me because he doesn't talk about breaking up with me or leaving me. He is a good person and I love him. It's just hard to deal with changes in a person's thinking when they were different when you married them. But I'm working at it. I hope that with time I will have figured out a way to view things and to keep our relationship strong at the same time.
@busaboss (22)
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4 Apr 12
That is very true. Not all people remain the same when we first met them. I could even say the I had changed a lot since our relationship started 3 years ago. I don't know what is the main reason but maybe it is just part of the only permanent thing in the world called "change". However, we always seem to work it out whenever a problem comes up. Why? I believed it is because of our love for each other.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Apr 12
I agree when a couple really opens up to one another it draws them closer. I feel that it's important to discuss the things that we enjoy together and the goals that we have. I think it's good to be open and honest with one another but not to hurt one another by the things we say. We can say things in a tactful manner when a conversation is serious or we disagree on something.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
1 Apr 12
Give and take, a two-way street, complimenting, and probably filling in the vacuum space would really make a bondage in relationship tight. Communication really plays a vital part, keeping it open, honest and sincere, as this keeps each one aware of what really is needed to tackle any issue at hand.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Apr 12
I agree with you that it is important to give and take in a relationship. I work hard to make my relationship work and to improve it. It is hard when my husband doesn't try to make things better, or to communicate effectively. I think at times it is difficult for guys to talk about their feelings more so than for women. When we were younger it was easy for us to talk openly with one another about how we feel. Now that we are continuously encountering problems in our relationship we are beginning to shut off one another. I'm glad though that we strive our best to stay open with one another.
