What are the necessary components to have a lasting relationship?

Pasay, Philippines
April 8, 2012 5:13pm CST
I keep on thinking about the past few days about those crappy relationships that I have. I'm trying to recall what are the things I've done and what are the things that I could have done. I don't even make them feel bad in our relationship and they're still leaving. I'm trying to ask them why but they wouldn't even bother giving me exact details. Sometimes I wonder if what are the necessary components to have a lasting relationship. For those who can give any advice or thoughts about this; I'm welcome. Experienced-based thoughs about this topic are also welcome.
11 responses
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
hi there, i think just as long as you love and trust each other. communication and patience are really very important also. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 8 years now and it has been pretty tough since we are so far away from each other. we are just trying to work it out and be patient. we are planning to get married and settle down in 2 years. hopefully everything goes well.
• Pasay, Philippines
10 Apr 12
WOW... That's really nice. maybe it really takes time and effort to keep a relationship alive then. Experiences may also help and thanks for sharing your thoughts about this with me then
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
yeah, i really hope everything goes well. it is just hard to let go of each other, we love each other and we have been through a lot, and everything is just so special for us because we are each others first girlfriend and boyfriend. you are welcome and i hope all is well with you
@SarahAlyx (181)
• United States
8 Apr 12
There are many things that make a relationship work. But compromise is a huge one. If a couple can't compromise on anything then it really isn't worth it. But among compromise, there should be honesty, loyalty, and compassion. If they're leaving you just simply ask them why and that you deserve to know. Life's not fair as I'm sure you've learned and some people won't give you the time of day. Jealousy is something that breaks many couples. Along with deceit. Be honest with each other and don't bottle up how you feel. Because if you have unexpressed feelings towards each other and you bottle them up eventually one of you are going to explode. That's not good. Some people don't know why they do the things they do. Some people are afraid of getting to involved and love scares them. So don't always feel like it's your fault. Above all keep your self happy and be your self. Don't turn into somebody you're not to be somebody they want. If being your self makes you happy and keeps your partner happy then I would say they are keepers. So keep your eyes open and don't try to hard!
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Apr 12
Thanks for the reply. i will consider that =D Maybe I'm having thhis self-pity of not keeping a relationship last that long as if it has to. Maybe I'm worrying too much. Thanks!
• South Africa
9 Apr 12
Well maybe you are having self pity yes but again, maybe you are not. I have come to realize that love or relationships just fails, half of the time you just never know why. I mean I also sometimes want to scream because I just don't know why it had to end, I end up asking why did it have to start if I have to cry or hurt like this. Good luck.
@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
hello! I've never been into a relationship but I've been an adviser to my friends when it comes to their relationships. To have a lasting relationship, you must be always open to each other. Communication is very important. In a relationship, you have to be honest with each other too. You cant love a person whom you never trusted so if you love that person, you can trust him/her. And most of all, love the person with all your heart and be loyal to him/her as well.
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Apr 12
Yeah. I agree with you. Communication do helps. Maybe lacking of communication does kills relationship. But I don't know. when I'm being verbal in my feeling they tend to stray. I tried different approach already. Maybe I need more definition about the communication-thingy
• India
9 Apr 12
Relations are very important and quite common but it is very difficult to last them for a long time. We people add many chemicals like vinegar and salt to the pickles to last them for a long time. Like the same, We need some chemicals like trust, communication, love, respect, sense of understanding. These are the some of them which we people need to add in our relations. This will help us to last the relations to last them for a long time. Happy mylotting
• India
10 Apr 12
Hey stowyk, you are very true. As he mentioned these are very important
@Extourmed (191)
• Bulgaria
9 Apr 12
Well, like almost everyone said, trust and loyalty are the most important thing in a relationship. Without any of those two the relationship is going down. And about your problem, why do you think that the problem's in you. Everyone wants a different thing from their relationships. For example there are a lot of guys that the only thing that they want is to lay in bad with you, of course there are guys that wants a stable and trustful relationship. Women are the same, so don't worry, you just can't find the right one for you.
• India
23 Jul 12
Top on the list for components that make a relationship last is trust. You can not be in a relationship with someone that you don’t trust. Checking up on someone all the time can be exhausting. Compromise is another component that goes in to building a lasting relationship. You can’t always have your way. Love is what holds everything together in every relationship that is to last.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
9 Apr 12
I think it's commitment, because we can always think 'I can find someone better' but the truth is relationships might have crisis and we will have that with anyone just because humans are very different from each other. We need time to adjust, time to give in, to break the wall of selfishness and beging to work not as one but at the same side.
@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Apr 12
It all depends on what kind of relationship lots of relationship require different things from you. But the basics of all relationships I feel you need trust, respect, communication that is a big one of course.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
8 Apr 12
You should have a good deal of communication, sense of understanding, sense of humor and not be abusive. Then of course in no particular order love, courtesy, thoughtfulness and a sincere heart. No cheating or being obnoxious.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
For me TRUST is the most important. If you have trust, you are both worry free and have peace of mind.
@Teep11 (7674)
• United States
9 Apr 12
The necessary components to have a lasting relationship are God, communication, trust, and love. If you really love the person you will work at the relationship. If you are afraid to communicate your thoughts or express yourself with that person than problems will arise. You want to be open and respect one another. The relationship will need some space at some point but that does not mean that it is in trouble. Prayer must be apart of the relationship and the relationship will last.