Think! Don't talk!

@toniganzon (53346)
Philippines
April 15, 2012 11:55pm CST
How many of us are guilty of jumping the gun before thinking? How many of us have allowed our emotions to rule over our actions and do things we tend to regret in the end? How many of us just talk a lot but never think of what come out of our mouths? I have been guilty of this. But lately i have learned that to be able to do things to your own benefit, think and don't talk. Well, it doesn't mean you really have to shut up, but it means you have to think first and consider everything before opening your mouth. This is another wisdom i've learned in life.
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14 responses
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
i am also guilty of this it's a great think to think before we talk. i have been thinking about this too, and i sometimes would just rather be silent so to avoid even more conflict.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
Sometimes silence is the best answer.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
4 Aug 12
I think most times just walking out might help when one feels tension or want to talk back.
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
hi, yes indeed,its more nice to think rather than to talk because talking will never help us to think,we should put in our mind that we must think first before we talk a sensible words.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
7 Aug 12
Yeah and by doing that we would lessen regrets that we might make someday.
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
ive learned my lesson well about this before. usually i talk and talk without considering the consequences of the words that come out of my mouth. but learning about thinking before leaping, ive told myself to always consider the words to talk and to know when to say it so that it wouldnt harm or hurt anybody.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
It's nice to learn from our own mistake. It means you have grown into a better person.
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• Philippines
17 Apr 12
I usually don't have problems with this because I'm not a talky person. I am a person who doesn't talk a lot and if I do, I always make sure that what I am saying is relevant. My friends always think of me as a quiet and silent person. But they don't know that I have so many things in my mind and when I talk, I just say only the important things.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
The silent ones are the most dangerous ones.
• Philippines
18 Apr 12
Hahaha. They always say that. I guess that's true as there are always a lot of things running in my mind.
@amoyube1980 (2233)
• Somalia
17 Sep 12
And it's a very good lesson to learn. The Bible tells us that the tongue is a double edged dagger. Little, but leaves a wound that does not easily heal, perhaps never. I have always been a very cautious person. Before I make any decision, I already have this visions of what might happen if I think this road or I take the other. Sort of like a glimpse into the projected future of each decision I make. Sometimes it could become a liability as I sometimes end up in a limbo of decision making, sometimes I decide to not take any decision at all. Eventually though I learned to become spontaneous when doing the things that I know will not change my life suddenly and irrevocably. But if something does have a potential of changing everything in my life, I think more than a hundred times before making any decision. I also try not to use words that can hurt people no matter how angry I am. I used to think I was weird because I almost never get angry. I realize now that it's probably part of me being a Christian from very little. I grew up learning to forgive and forget quite easily.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Thank you for letting us get a glimpse into your personality. That's a nice trait.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
4 Aug 12
I also think it is good to think before you talk. It happened to me a lot of time in life that I talk at first and regret after that and feels that I should not have talked. Thanks for the tips and now onwards I will try to think first and then talk the second.
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
You are most welcome and thanks for sharing your experience. It's good that you recognise that and try to change. It's still hard for me sometimes but i do try my best. Cheers!
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
when we are at the height of our emotions chances are the brain don't think that right so we tend to talk without thinking and end up regretting those words we just said. i have read a story about a stay at home mom who attended a reunion. she had waited for her friends for like two hours only to know there don't reserve yet for their lunch. she asked them why there is no reservation yet and one of her friend careless say, "i am busy at my work, you should have done that because you just stay home." then the stay at home mom just kept quiet to not spoil the supposedly happy reunion. that friend of her did not know that by carelessly saying those words, she just hurt this mom who chose to stay at home to care for her family and for her son. does she know what this mom is sacrificing for. words are powerful so when you are unsure of what you will say that better shut your mouth same with you don't have something nice to say. as the saying goes, less talk less mistake... so think before you talk. happy mylotting!
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
17 Apr 12
Yes and that's called maturity.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
16 Apr 12
For sure we have to think before speak out. But not many people can keep that habit, especially when being in hot temper, just talk and talk till tired and we may regret about what we told in bad temper. I am one of these people, and even i told to myself many time that, pleas think a lots first, but still get that mistakes. We are human being, and we just try to be the best as we can only, can't avoid mistake in our life. Then i try forgive for myself and just try to be better
@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
At least you are trying to improve yourself for the better. You're doing a great job.
• India
16 Apr 12
Those ones are quite simple lessons which help us to tend towarads the sucess. In my opinion all the ones including me should adopt this simple method in us so we don't hurt others. Thinking twice before telling it to others helps us to implement a good personality inside us. This personality will be loved by every one, which implies we wil be loved by every one. This will give rise to new good relations, which finally drop to the sucess of life.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
And i hope i am doing that well.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 12
Hi sis!! Even if I always remind myself to think first before start to talk but sometimes I admit that I let my emotions control everything. Then I will feel regret and should do the opposite. So apology comes after what I did tell others..I am just a human and sometimes we do make a mistakes~ Lately when I don't feel like to talk as I am afraid I might hurt their feeling but on their side they thought that I am looking for an excuse to start a fight with them~haihhh~~~~(^^)
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
Oh those people are confusing you. There's always room for is always room for improvement and you know that you will improve in time. As long as we are aware of our own mistakes we could always learn from that and not to do the same thing again.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
16 Apr 12
To me, I've always been told before speaking, I have to count to 10. And I must say that to me were these words of wisdom. In fact, at times, and this happens to all of us, we risk talking without realizing that what we say, could hurt our listeners. This, we must make sure that never happens. I understand that sometimes it is difficult, perhaps in a long dialogue, avoid speaking out of turn, but in my opinion, a good vocal training, we can minimize this risk. Then we must also consider the fact that we do not know the reaction of someone who, perhaps inadvertently we offended.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
It's good that you've been told about this. I told the same thing to my son.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
OH Yes i am still learning the art of thinking first before talking... so i cannot comment much on this as i have made so many mistakes because of this
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
Learning is good then.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
16 Apr 12
Thats good to learn , I think we everyday learn something new in life. I think we have to think is the words we are going to say are going to hurt someone or not, or how do you feel if you hear that from another person , we have to wear his or her shoes . I also when I learn something I am so exited to tell everybody and thats not good either because the exitement can be just for a while and then I dont finish what I started, so , is better to keep it inside until is done or it has results , I am still learning , . Live an intense and lovely day my friend.
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@toniganzon (53346)
• Philippines
16 Apr 12
WE all are learning. Life is all about learning. If we don't allow ourselves to learn more, it means we are foolish.
@Cale2012 (115)
16 Apr 12
For me, I will think completely before do everything.Actually, I often give up to do after I compare between weakness to benefit. In my mind, most things wil be accidient, when you think too much, do you have enought courage to continue. and in usual days, I also don't how to stop doing something and immense into can't help myself.Stop!Stop!Stop! but I can't do it, then I dispressed and sad.Unwisedom living style is fiiled with my space.Although, our words are not same meaning. That your word just open my mind.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
15 Sep 12
I always it is good to think and then to talk next.