Friends come friends goes? or friends loss?

@bulastika (5967)
Philippines
April 18, 2012 5:12pm CST
Its been like 7 years since I have been in an outing with my friends. Back then we are all single and no bf or gf. Then one day come a friend of mine introduce his gf, After few months my other friends also introduce his gf to us their one by one they suddenly become busy with their partners that they don't have time to go out with the group until I found my own love. And since that time I'm happy to be with her also. But after when I loss her two years back my life become empty, Friends busy with their life and me, no work at home with no social life anymore. Bu I just realize that's life we enjoy our teenage life, our twenties life and now my friends are living in their 30's life with their family and I just feel alone.
4 responses
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
HI Bulastika. Friends do come and go. They are not leaving for the reason that they hate you or anything negative. They just happen to have had a change of priorities. My friends are all single (for so many years), loveless (for so many years) and while we are all unattached to a pair, our friendship is sooo attached. I guess, we would always be friends forever until the day that we die because we have shared so much of ourselves. Sighhhh... i love my friends.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
Yeah. we are to. We has so many things done together with my friends. But their partner or wife don't understand that. And I remember five years ago when my friend girlfriend is mad at me because its their anniversary but they stay at home with me because my friend is helping me with my thesis. My friend is helping me for a month doing thesis and he don't want to go and celebrate their anniversary until he finish helping me with my thesis. I feel guilty thought but we really need to finish my thesis because theirs no more time left.
• United States
18 Apr 12
man it sucks when someone doesn't allow you to hang out with your friends for whatever reason with my ex she didn't want me going out with my guys friends and then my guy friends girls didn't let them hang out with me and we drift apart slowly but surely! tough brake
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
lols. I guess she don't accept your friends as much as she accept you. Me I don't have problem with that. Most of my problem is financial problem. That's the main reason why I can't go out with my friends and the other thing is that they also have family. So its like when we are hanging out they talk about their kids and wife and I'm just smiling in the background. lols.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
18 Apr 12
I guess it depends on the personalities of the friends. Of course, we have to get accustomed to that if we have a serious relationship, we can't spend as much time with friends as we used to, especially as we may plan families and stuff. It can be really hard when we think there's no company because they aren't available that much. That may not mean that they are bad friends or not friends... it depends on situation. Do you see each other regularly? Do they always knock you off to be with other people? If they show effort, they are friends, just their lives have changed. Why don't you try taking up a hobby which is a bit time-consuming? Collecting stamps, DIY jobs, gardening... that may help eason up your solitude.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
20 Apr 12
I don't say they are bad friends or not a friend. But of course its already a different ball game. Lets face it. before we can go drink all day all night without worries. Now its only seven pm and they need to go home to their wife and to their kids. And of course in term of financial they have more money but they only spend less because of their family obligation.
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Oh don't fret.I'veloved my friends the same way you did.Well,everyone's busy now since we're all working & some already have a family on their own.We do miss each other & we schedule a get together when everyone's ok with the date.You're not alone.You still have other friends & family & your dogs too. :)