how do you handle quarrel or misunderstanding with your partner?

Philippines
April 18, 2012 8:18pm CST
hi mylot readers, how do you handle quarrel or misunderstanding with your partner or with your husband,boyfriend,girlfriend? being in a relationship,we can't deny that we encounter misunderstanding with our partners, and sometimes this will end up with a broken family,broke up for those who are boyfriend/girlfriend. For me, i am married for about 10 years, and i can't deny that sometimes we had a misunderstanding,what i did is that when my husband is mad/or not good mood,i will not speak until he is not finish talking, i let talk and talk, and i say nothing,after an hour, when he is cold enough thats the time we talk what happened,and we both solved the problem we give in take, be patient and understanding all the time. how about you?
4 responses
@SIMPLYD (80299)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Of course, married people or those in a relationship will have misunderstandings, because that's part of how the relationship grows. Without them, both of you will not discover what are those that would really make you mad. Just like you, when he is angry, i just listen and be silent. I let him simmer and when he has simmered down, that's the time i would talk with him about it. Sometimes, i just would sleep and the next day, he is already calm. And when i am angry too, he keeps silent and just let me vent.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
What you're doing is admirable, i hope my wife could be like that, lol! i think it is the other way around, she do all the talking, and i just listen. When she is done with her ranting and all that anger stuff, i hug her and try to talk my way through to calm her and we talk things over. If for anything unresolved issue, then we try to compromise.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
We just had a fight last night, another misunderstanding. I am always the hot tempered one and he is always the prideful one. Wonder how that will end up? The fight will really be a big one no matter how small the issue was. I honestly hate it, that is why after every fight or quarrel, we always talk and find a solution so it will never be repeated. I give it time as well to let all my hot emotions evaporate my thinking things out and not talking to him, not answering his calls and logging off from skype (where in a long distance relationship by the way). After I have calmed down, ready to talk to him, I call him and talk things out. It usually works well for us. No matter how prideful my bf is, he always let it down. Also, we never let a day pass if we are not in good terms,we really try to talk even if it is already too late in my country.
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Currently, I have a boyfriend. We do have quarrels a lot. What we do is that he would stop talking for a few minutes, then approach and talk to me in a calm manner. He would ask me questions, like if we should continue this argument and what should I do as a sign that I regret what I just did that caused the quarrel. That how we do it and it always work.