Motherhood and Babysitting........Not an easy thing really!
By jewelsam
@jewelsam (38)
Philippines
April 23, 2012 1:13am CST
This morning, I woke up at five . Prepared the things needed for my kids' breakfast and do all the household chores as fast as I could before the kids would woke up. While cooking, I arranged the things in the kitchen. After that I mopped the floor, put on the kettle and prepared their milk. Being a mother is multitasking. We should not only focus on one thing because our time is running very fast. I tried having a babysitter before but its no use at all. I still did things for the kids on my own because she can't do it the right way.
There are times, when the kids gets tough and fight against each other(esp.mine are all boys), I would first warn them and then after a minute or two and still they don't listen to me, I would just go in the bedroom and help myself calm. Can someone tell me, what is the right way to be a good mother? I am just a young mom, still don't know the right thing, the right way to discipline my kids.
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5 responses
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
who says it is easy? nothing is.
I do have a nanny who makes my life a bit easier..she takes care of my kids well and that is all she does, i do the household chores myself and i am not complaining as she keeps the kids at bay when i am cleaning...
what is the right way to be a good mother? no one can tell my friend... only time when they are all grown up and see them as good parents too...
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
i think there is no right way to be a mom. just follow your instinct and everything follows. we cannot set standards because we can always end up breaking those. i think you are doing the right way and i am salutinh you for beingh a hands on mom. i admire you for being patient because moms should be patient and you need tons of patience. you are right by calming your self and just don't forget that you also need a me time or a time alone so you can be a better you and a better mom.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
I agree with you, that being a full time mother is very difficult. But what you are doing is the best a mother could do to her children. Nowadays, we could seldom find mothers who stays at home to manage her household and her children. Your job is the most rewarding job i should say, because it is a joy to see them grow, kids fighting and having tantrums is just a part growing up. They fight because they interact with their siblings and they have different wants and needs. Just be patient and understand that they are still kids. Explain to them in a nice way that what they are doing is bad and it might hurt them. Those are the challenges for a full time mother. Just keep going.
@shwetat195 (628)
• India
23 Apr 12
i have a 1 year baby boy and i see myself doing all the core jobs as i dont trust others for my house and about raising kids. babysitter is complete no no....i dont trust them at all.
i always fall short of time and look for means to calm me down when things just wont go as i planned.
i always used to wonder if all mothers are facing the same thing or is it me doing something wrong. after reading your discussion point, i pacified myself and felt that others are on the same platform as well.
thanks for starting this discussion. it would be of great use for me for my future.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
23 Apr 12
Hi jewel, everyone can be a mother, but its not easy to be a mom. I, too, had doubts on my motherhood skills. They always say, things will just come out naturally, and there's not formula to be a good mother. When I was pregnant with my first baby, I went online a lot to find references and guides on becoming a good mother, but I really couldn't remember everything I've read. Until, I gave birth, and I was just amazed that I was able to do the job, well, with no training, whatsoever. I believe in mommy instincts. Your love and affection for your child will bring out the best in you and it will show in how you interact with them each day. Im pretty sure, you're doing a good job as mother and homemaker. What we do each day, is no joke, at all, and it's priceless.
