Are there different expectations for sons and daughters?
By bessyjanmayi
@bessyjanmayi (278)
Philippines
April 26, 2012 11:21pm CST
Do you have brothers or sisters? or are you a parent? Are there different expectations for your brother or son, sister or daughter? In my family, we only have one brother. My parents really expect him to be a good student so that he can get a good job in the future. They expect him to be responsible for his sisters and family in the future. Even though our parents are also expecting us to be good, to be a better person yet it's really different on how they motivate my brother to be good. sometimes mu brother got annoyed. He doesn't like to study anymore. It seems that he got so pressured on those expectations. He just wanted to live the way he wants it to be. He wants to do the things that make him happy, not being dictated on what to do to his life. In my opinion, he has the prerogative to make a choice but he also need to consider what my parents wanted him to be. In my opinion, expectations for sons and daughters are really different. How about you guys? Do you have any stories to share? I would love to read it. Thanks!
5 responses
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
15 Dec 12
Hi friend, in this modern days both son and daughter are same and parents don't see difference between them. Previously parents thought that son will go for job and take care about the family and he must find a proper person for his sister and conduct her marriage in a good way. So they force the son to be good and study well to get a good job, i think your parents are in this sort, there is nothing wrong in their expectation, but we must avoid forcing our kids as per our expectation
@marguicha (215470)
• Chile
13 Dec 12
I only had daughters, but I have grandkids of both sexes. I don`t think there are different expectations depending on whether they are boys or girls, but depending on their talents and wishes. In fact, I love my children the way they are, although that does not mean that we won`t have discussions once in a while.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
27 Apr 12
..yeah sure.. sons and daughters are two very distinct and different individuals.. they have different vision or dreams in life.. well, for parents, there is always the discrimination of sons and daughters since they believe that the son will become the head of the family and that he really needs to do good and be responsible with his life.. but these times, i think daughters are also trying their best to show what they are capable of.. many women are handling their family singlehandedly so I think it's just fair ta say that sons and daughters should be esteemed fairly..
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
27 Apr 12
If I'm gonna have kids, I wouldn't like the have different expectations of them-of course, to some extent I'm gonna have, like I wouldn't really let my teenage daughter out at night alone, but just because of fear what could happen to her, a boy could defend himself more easily.
In our family, I was expected to do way more household chores, even if I was sick or tired... and when I told my mom my brother could do something, my momwas like I'm so lazy and I don't wanna help her. Just because she's bringing my brother to be like all those boys who don't do anything round the house and eypect their girlfriends/wives to do everything.
And in our family, I was the one who was expected to be the star student, my brother could get away with thousands times more awful grades...
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
17 Oct 12
I am a parent, and I have two sons and a daughter. There are different expectations for sons and daughters. For our daughter, who is the first child we expect her to be the model of her younger brothers. She is also expected to take good care of us when we grow old because she is the only girl. For the two boys, we always tell them to protect their sister and be man enough to finish their studies.
