does your bf/husband have any sister?

@dream_ozn (1758)
Singapore
April 27, 2012 7:20am CST
I really hate my boyfriend sister. She's just like seeking his attention everything. She herself is already married yet still act like we need to accommodate her in every thing. And i just can't stand the way she behave. Very fake and her actions are all just very sickening to me. Every thing she does really irks me and i seriously don't like her. I might be whining about her. But i have been with my boyfriend for close to 6 years and have disliked her sister since the very beginning. I just can't get along with her. I try not to talk to her cause she is just so full of herself and thinks she is very clever when she is not. What kind of relationship do you have with your boyfriend/husband's sister?
8 responses
@tashh23 (115)
27 Apr 12
I can deffinitly see why that sort of attitude would upset a person. It sucks being around someone like that, more so if it bugs you, but I don't blame you! I'm the same way when people act like that! I've had similar situations with different people in my life. My boyfriend has a younger sister, she's only 13. She's a very quiet sweet young girl. I don't think she's very comfortable around new people, maybe just shy, so she doesn't open up to me or anything, but we do get along. No issues with the sister, but with other members of his family sometimes. All kind, loving, caring people just sometimes a few issues but hey, everyone has those sometimes!! But, I do understand the attitudes you're talking about where someone just wants to be involved in everything and seem to bug you sometimes on purpose. Others, who don't do it on purpose, when they have an attitude where they come off as thinking they're better than everyone else or are completely obsessed with you/your friend/boyfriend-girlfriend is very annoying. Your case is a little different seeing as his sibling is old enough to be married and still acting like a high school student (no disrespect intended). Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and see if he has similar thoughts on her trying to be involved in everything and if he does, maybe you could kindly talk to her and ask her to give you guys some privacy and tell her that you don't always need other people knowing what's going on in your lives, or something along those lines. Who knows, maybe she'll understand and back off a bit. Thanks for sharing and giving me the chance to express my thoughts as well, lol. Good luck, I hope things work out for you!! Keep me posted if you decide whether or not to confront her about the situation. I hope it all works out for the best for everyone :) Hopefully get to chat again soon!!!
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
8 May 12
Yea. It really is irritating to be around her where she just wanna poke her nose into every single thing. Really glad that you shared your experience with me. And i am even more glad that you and your boyfriend's younger sister is a sweet girl. Do you try to be closer to her? Definitely, everybody just have their own issues, own personality own character issues that can't be avoided. My boyfriend's sister is indeed of marriageable age. in fact, she just tied the knot last December. Maybe i need to wait for her to have her own kids before she'll stop behaving this way. Sure, i hope to chat with you again too :)
@tashh23 (115)
15 May 12
Awwh! Well thank you for letting me share my experiences & thoughts with you :) And thank you, I'm glad she's a sweet girl as well lol but no, I haven't really tried being closer with her yet, mainly because we don't see her often and when we do it's usually for a supper & she'll just eat and go to her room or do her own thing. Whenever I do see her though, I try to talk to her and am always nice, never done anything mean to her er nothing. It's just kinda hard sometimes when there's nothing to talk about lol makes it sorta awkward!! She may not be opening up to me maybe because of my boyfriend's last girlfriend - She lied to her and promised her a bunch of stuff and never came through with it and just caused a lot of problems and drama - I just want her to know that I wouldn't do anything like that. She didn't deserve to be brought into all that! But that's in the past, hopefully she'll start too like me as time goes by :) You'd think your boyfriend's sister would just understand the concept that you two have your own lives and don't need people on top of you being nosey and getting into all your business. You're probably right, kids would keep her a lot busier that's for sure! But, she should still have enough stuff to occupy her life instead of bugging yours lol. I can only imagine how irrating it would be though :P I'm not really a fan of people like that, I just sort of mind my own business haha.
@tashh23 (115)
15 May 12
I forgot to mention this!! ; Sorry for the delay in responding my previous comment as well, I didn't have the chance to be online recently so I just checked my emails! Thanks for being patient and hopefully I'll get a chance to spend a little more time myLotting again!! Talk soon :)
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
my boyfriend's younger is sister is a year older than me so she is a little mature now. my only wish when she and my boyfriend were here was, i could have more alone time with my boyfriend because he only comes here once a year for 3 weeks. we just need more quality time but his sister is always there with us even on our supposed - to - be dates other than that, she is okay.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
10 May 12
In the beginning when i was first together wtih my boyfriend, i also face the same thing as you do. his sister was there whenever we were supposed to have our dates. May i ask why you boyfriend only goes over to your side once a year for 3 weeks? is it a long distance relationship?
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
19 May 12
hi there, yes it is a long distance relationship. it is really sad because i can only be with him very short he is back in the US now and i am left here again hehe. sigh. so sad
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
You are not married yet and you dislike her? see, my brother is also married and thought i do not get along that often with my sister in law i try my best to get to know her and get along with her. Why? because if i pick a fight with her or argue with her, the only one who will get hurt more if my brother. So that should be the same with you, you chose to be with your boyfriend, therefore you should also accept the people he loves including the sister. She may look like seeking attention or she might be seeking attention, then what is wrong with thaT? it is his sister for one not your rival. Maybe she wants attention because she lacks in, try to be her friend and if you succeed your boyfriend will love you more. Plus you said you dislike like from the very beginning, how could you judge that right away that she is fake when in fact from the start you have been prejudice of her. you already decided she is fake, have you even been with her to really know she is fake? if you really think she is some know it all, the least you can do is be CIVIL. or else if you and your bf will get married, you will have problems with her and your bf will be in the middle
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
10 May 12
Yea jazel_juan, i understand that when such situation arises, it will only be my boyfriend who is in stucked in the middle and he will be the one feeling hurt ultimately. I said i disliked her from the very beginning. What i meant was more of after getting to know her during the first few months of our relationship and her behavior and attitute during the following months/years added on to my dislike of her. You are right, i need to accept the people he loves including his sister. yet, on the other hand, he can't accept my parents, can't accept that my parents don't like him. it's a complicated issue. Plus, i have been civil to her. i am not rude to her, neither do i show her any face. It is just that we have nothing much to talk about :)
@tashh23 (115)
15 May 12
If she doesn't show you any respect, then you should just ignore her. That way your boyfriend won't be caught in the middle of anything and it's not like you see your boyfriend/girlfriend's brother or sister all the time or every day! Most couples/couples families have issues with either the person their kid is dating/married to or someone in their family, it's a common thing. Just be the more mature one, put up with her when you have to and other than that just do your own thing :) My mom doesn't like my boyfriend at all, and I don't think my boyfriend's mom likes me anymore either. I agree with what you've said as well as how you've handled the situation. I think what you're doing is perfect and the best/only thing you can do. You can't just stop disliking someone, if you could the world would be a better place and I know myself that not having anything to talk about makes it even harder to deal with because it's more awkward and 'tense' so as long as you're being civil and not causing any drama or putting your boyfriend in the middle of anything, that's all that matters!! That way no one gets hurt or upset and everyone gets along to a point :)
@ShyBear88 (16930)
• United States
27 Apr 12
My husband has two younger sisters. One is 16 and in high school and the other is 19 and going to be a college mommy in a few weeks. My husband and his sisters really don't get alone well. Me and the girls we are okay I don't really like either one every much. They are both get what ever they want from there parents since they got divorced years ago. The good thing is that we live 9 hours away from pretty much all of our family so we don't have to deal with my husbands sister besides maybe 2 or 3 times a year as we please.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
29 Apr 12
that's really nice because sometimes living together can create quite a few conflicts. At least you don't have to deal with such issues, you can concentrate on doing other things. I hope i'll have the chance to stay far away from them too :)
@ShyBear88 (16930)
• United States
30 Apr 12
Even though we are 9 hours a way from family at least this way if they do drive us crazy we have 9 hours to clam down about it. That and it makes sure they don't bug us too much.
• India
28 Apr 12
Hello friend, My boy friend have no sister. He have two brothers. They are very good. They are also my brothers. Have a nice day.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
10 May 12
That's really nice to hear that everybody gets along well :)
@shylade (3138)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
my husband has a sister and they are just two in their family. i can say that my sister in law is okay and i do have a good relationship with them. she is married too and have a child.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
8 May 12
That's really nice to hear that you are getting along well with them :)
• South Africa
27 Apr 12
My sweetheart has a sister and we get along very well. We send messages via Whatsapp every other day or once a week to ask how things are going, or sometimes we email one another. She and her husband live not very far from us but due to work engagements, we normally get together once or twice a month. We have almost the same personality/characteristic, her birthday is just three days away from mine and we are both Libra, so I think that plays a part. She's a good cook and baker, and whenever we go over to their place, I would secretly wish she has baked some goodies for us :D I wish you had a better a relationship with your boyfriend's sister. It could be that she sees you as a threat, somehow, and even at her age, she feels the need to compete or prove something.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
8 May 12
That's really nice to hear that your sweetheart and that both of you get along well. I really hope that i can get along well with my boyfriend's sister too. however, i realy don't know why just the sight of her makes me sad. In the past, maybe she sees me as a threat. However, she has another 3 brothers in her family (she is the youngest). Also, she just got married last december :)
@Porcospino (16434)
• Denmark
27 Apr 12
I like my husband's sister a lot. We don't see her that often, because she is busy with work and we are busy with work, but when we meet we always have a good time together. We are exactly the same age and we both work with people. She is preschool teacher and she has also worked with adults with special needs. I have worked in kindergartens, homes for people with special needs, hospitals etc, so we have plenty to talk about. She is a very nice person and she is easy to talk to.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
29 Apr 12
It's really great to hear that you like your husband's sister a lot. I do also hope that i can get along well and have things to talk about with my boyfriend's sister. but it's the exact opposite. She is very proud and thinks very highly of herself. your comment has just made me realise that all these just boils down to a person's character. It is nothing to do with whether they are whoever sister. If by nature their character is a nice one, then she will be easy to get along. Thank you for making me realise this :) Now i realise that if my boyfriend's sister would be my classmate/school mate, we won't get along well too.