Intimidating

By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
April 28, 2012 1:46am CST
As a result of my pondering on this hot Saturday afternoon, I recalled my high school days. Young, naive and immature I was! A high school friend confessed to me once how scared she was of me when we were in grade school. Mind you I wasnt loud, I was a very quiet person, a timid one! She said I just looked so intimidating she never tout of saying hi to me ever! But in high school we became seat mates and she realized that she was wrong about me. Am I really that intimidating? Do I look like one who's unapproachable?
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10 responses
30 Apr 12
No, not at all.. I find you have a very friendly face, and look very approachable and easy to talk to :)
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 May 12
Thank you dear princess. You know me well.
2 May 12
it's maybe the confident! you are very confident! you know, and like who you are, AND PEOPLE CAN SOMETIMES FIND THAT INTIMIDATING. people can sometimes be scared of confident people.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
2 May 12
Sometimes we don't know how we are perceived by others. There are some mannerisms of ours that are misinterpreted as unapproachable or mataray. A simple side glance to your seat mate would be construed as you, spying . Well, i speak through experience, because my classmate said i was that way, so she's afraid of me too!
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
10 May 12
I totally agree with you. People are fond of judging others by that.
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
29 Apr 12
well a lot of us have misguided perceptions of other people. your friend might find you intimidating because of a wrong first impression. it might be she was trying to smile at you at a time when you were having a bad day so you definitely would not be looking the friendliest person on earth. i find that most of the first impressions people have of other people are mostly not correct. everyone who knows me well enough will tell me that their first impression of me is of someone who is mean and conceited. it's just the way i look when i'm not smiling but i can't go around smiling like a fool when i'm alone right?
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 May 12
It's not that i wasn't smiling. She said i just looked scary.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 12
From you picture you look like a friendly person sis. (^^) It is normal to me if people consider me as intimidating and unapproachable person if they never try to talk to me. And I think same goes to everyone where people have their own assumptions made by just looking at out appearance. Once they know us they won't say that anymore.(^^)
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 May 12
That's true. Once they get to know us they will learn we're not what they perceived us to be.
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
29 Apr 12
Yeah, you're intimidating. I'd be afraid by standing in front of you.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 May 12
Oh! I could see you shaking right now Rick! Shaking your booty hahahaha!
@krizzy (237)
• Philippines
29 Apr 12
sometimes those who are quiet or people that doesn't talk much are not approachable in the first impression..I'm also afraid to talk to those type of people..LOL..
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 May 12
But i'm not quiet! lol nor am i loud.
@GemmaR (8517)
28 Apr 12
I had a friend at school who I was a little bit intimidated by, and I only got around to telling her when we bumped into each other years later. She was really shocked that I had thought that about her, because she had thought that she was quite shy, but it certainly wasn't the way that she came across to me when we were at school. It just shows that we should be really careful when we're acting in front of people, because at the end of the day we just don't know what we're coming across as unless other people choose to tell us.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 May 12
I was very shy when i was in grade school so i never thought that i would make that kind of impression.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
if i have me you then i can say if you are intimidating or not LOL my friends thought the same too, because i look really serious and quiet, but later on we get a long with each other. i can be serious but most of the time, i joke a lot.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
I'm not intimidating to all people. Only to that one girl.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Hi toni, i haven't meet in personal but looking at your pictures, you are charming so you're accommodating. You seem nice to me so you're cool. Maybe she as afraid of you because you didn't make friends with her. Some shy type don't look fine.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
1 May 12
When i was in grade school i was very shy to make friends with anybody but i never refused those who came near to me. Btw you won't see me on facebook because mine is fully protected and nobody will be able to see me unless we have a common friend. So just pm me your id and i will add you. Nice to see you here again.
28 Apr 12
Hello toniganzon. I think that the answer for your question, are you intimidating?, really depends on a person's perception. As humans, we all see things differently, we have our own opinions and so on. But I think, if you see yourself as an approachable person, then others will also too. You can always talk to someone and socialize, then, people will see you as a friendly and a very approachable individual. Hope that helps. Godbless.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
28 Apr 12
Hello there Lauren, you are right. What we see ourselves is what we want others to see in us. I never saw myself as an intimidating person and i've always considered myself a bubbly and friendly one.