Does Advising Others Enhance Your Own Life?

@dubbc3 (125)
United States
May 3, 2012 6:51pm CST
It's interesting that advice givers sometimes find it difficult to advise themselves. I am asked for advice at least 2 to 3 times a week. People somehow trust my opinions and advice. I enjoy the moments when I advise someone, and I realize the advice I gave seemed to be intended for me! Giving truly does have rewards. Taking time to help others make choices is a beautiful feeling. I don't always have perfect advice, but my wilingness to help gives me a sense of purpose.
10 responses
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
4 May 12
I agree with you. I think that are life is enhanced when we know that we have helped another person with their life. Whether it is in a small way or big. When we give advice it's good though to make sure that we are giving them helpful suggestions that are in their best interest. This way they are making the decision themselves. This way we aren't responsible for things that may turn out wrong or bad.They've to have the options and what's available to them but they need to make the decision.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
Exactly. The decision is still up to those we advise. Advice is just opinions and/or ideas. I like getting advice. I don't seem to get much of it from my family. Never really have.
• United States
4 May 12
I to like receiving advice.I'm always looking for ways to improve my life or better myself. So I like reading books and hearing others opinions that I can apply in my life. Sorry to hear that you didn't receive much advice from your family. Sometimes we do have to figure out things on our own even when family should be a great resource for helpful advice. I plan to share with my family and my daughter whatever helpful information that I know or come upon.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
4 May 12
It's always easier to give advice than deciding what to do with our own lives. I mean, when we give advice to someone else, we know what's right and wrong... but when we face these problems, we're either too comfortable or our views are distorted becuse of our emotions.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
I experience this feeling more than I care to admit. It's human nature.
@plekenut (365)
• Indonesia
4 May 12
Yupz, i think some advice givers have a complicated personality,hehe.. I mean they confuse where they get an advice, sometimes. Like me, i often give someone an advice but not with my willness. They come to me (usually they're girl) to tell their problem. In giving advice, i just want to be there when they need. Helping people is the most interesting act that i can do. Just... Sometimes i really complicated, where should i go when i need an advice. Most of them (people that i give advice) doubt about give me an advice. They said, 'i doubt we can give advice as good as your advice.'
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
I understand. I have a son like you. So many women ask him for advice. I guess they see him as a good guy. He knows a lot about women from watching me. Advisors usually don't ask people if they need advice. People look for you to advise them.
@ehlsie27 (49)
• Philippines
4 May 12
Yes. I am not good a t giving advice but people always ask one from me. I always try my best in giving advice because it feels good when they look happy after a talk from me. I am a better listener, though.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
Listening is just as important as advice giving. People need to vent their fears and frustrations without others interrupting them. So, that's good ehlsie!
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
4 May 12
i don't know if i love to give advice, but people come ask for it from me often. i guess they must trust my opinion. better yet, what i think they like about me is that i am non judgement. i allow people to feel what they are feeling and not criticize. you seems to have the same qualities. lol. i too, find myself needing to take alot of my own advice sometimes.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
Yes! There's nothing wrong with not knowing the answers ourselves. I'm not judgemental either. I'm just down to earth and try to be as real as possible, without hurting anybody's feelings.
• Philippines
4 May 12
It still depends... Sometimes, people who are good in advising to other problems are not good in handling their own problems. It's case to case basis...
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
Yes, it's case to case. But, that's what I said earlier. Advisors sometimes find it hard to advise themselves.
@allknowing (65211)
• India
4 May 12
During my school days classmates used get help from me to solve maths problems. I used to cull out those which I found difficult to solve myself but when I started to help my classmates I found that I was able to solve them.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
That's good allknowing. That's the return I'm talking about. When you help others, youre really helping yourself!
• Philippines
4 May 12
I love giving advises too, to my friends, family, and my girlfriend, but I really don't know if I also have a problem I can't advise myself, i mean i can't think of a good way or satisfying way to solve or best way to solve it. I sometimes go to my friends and ask them if they can give me advise. They always told me that I'm the one who's good in talking and yet I'm asking them to give me some advise.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
There's nothing wrong with asking for advice when you usually give it. People respect you when you do that. It just lets them know, you don't think you're perfect. Good for you!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
4 May 12
That is a good thing that you want to help other. And it's also good that you get to be asked for advice. It just means that people trust you and your judgment. I, too, am happy when I could be of help to other people. Sometimes, they don't even know that it's good not only for them, but for me, too. I hope that you continue to be this person. One day soon, people will look back and will be thankful for your advice. Actually, sometimes, even just listening to them means a lot already.
@dubbc3 (125)
• United States
4 May 12
Thank you gloryacam. I just like to connect with people. I don't call myself an expert. I'm not always right about everything, but I give advice according to my experiences.
• United States
29 Aug 12
You've hit the nail on the head! When you help someone in need, it feeds the soul with something that everyday occurrences cannot provide. We as humans are not an isolated species, so helping others strengthens our spirit. Although, some who give advice don't usually follow it, nor do they serve as great role models, some actually are wise because they look at the world with an open mind, and open heart and without filter. Those are the people that give great advice!