Go or not?

@ryanong (9697)
Vietnam
May 9, 2012 9:37pm CST
He and I are in friendship not for long time yet, we meet sometime for coffee or i go to his showroom to visit him. It is very nice to talk with him also. Yesterday he asked me go to the disco bar in this Friday night. I know he likes to go to the disco because he works hard from 8 am to 9 pm everyday and take only Sunday as a day off, he feels so so relax whenever he went to the disco for dancing. However the disco is opened quite late, from 10 pm to 2 or 3 am. I can't drive a bike going home when it is too late because of safety then he should bring me home if i go. However It takes 30~40 mins for driving a bike to bring me home and 30 minutes for him be back to his home. Then it is too late for him to sleep and so tired when driving a long way like that. Currently I really don't know i should go or not...
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@freqspaz (220)
• United States
10 May 12
If you are uncomfortable about crashing on the floor, or making him give up his bed and him sleep on the floor, then tell him so. Don't make up any excuse though, just tel him the truth and let him know that you're uncomfortable about staying there since you guys are just friends. There will be other chances to go, or maybe you can save up the money for a cab, then he can pick you up and you then can take a cab on the way home. Personally I think if he is a good guy then sleeping for a night on his floor wouldn't be a bad thing.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Yeah, i am thinking of taking a cab for going home because he will pick me up at my house. Then he doesn't need to bring me home and i can go home safe when i choose a good taxi company...
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
10 May 12
Good luck with that, I always go with whom ever is first in the phone. Book. I figure for all the ways to die or whatever, a taxi driver is the least of my worries. Have fun at the disco! I've never been to one before, and I don't even think there are any disco bars near me.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
I have no experience of going to there also. And if i go, it will be the first night i go home late like that. Normally i have to go home before 11 pm.
• Philippines
10 May 12
if your friend could offer you a place where you could sleep then go but if not, better stay since it's so harmful for you to travel back home so late with just a bicycle :))
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
No, we drive a motorbike. It go by bicycle, it takes a long time more. He has only 1 bed in his room only. So that i can't sleep in his place (his house is near the disco).
• Philippines
10 May 12
if i am in your place, i won't go to disco with your friend.. i am thinking of you taking a long ride just to reach back home.. i bet your friend could understand if you would only explain to him clearly =]
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
13 May 12
Thank you so much for your advice. I am thinking like you too. It is not easy to go home when it is too late...
@cloud31 (5811)
10 May 12
You try to think of 3 things here: First what would your friend reaction or feel if you refuse his invitation? Second would you take your time going with him and never mind about the distance on how you will manage to go home by yourself. Third: How can both if you separate ways without bothering each sides. I think of idea that if he will send you home then why not try to ask him sleepover to your home and and be safe and not to sleep late.And be home in the morning. Both of you will be safe and enjoy each other company.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Thanks for your concerning. - I really don't know how he feels if i refuse his invitation yet. - Going home late is the problem. It is not safe for me to drive a motorbike at home late. But if he brings me home and then goes to his home after that, it will be so so late for him. - If i go home by myself, i think i won't dare to drive my motorbike going home too late. Umh...he just gives me a suggestion that we can sleep in the hotel if too late...but i am still thinking because i haven't got any situation like this...
• India
10 May 12
Maybe he can go out with the friend with whom he shares the house. I mean its far to your house and to cause trouble for both , like you travelling alone or making your friend drop and then himself returning. Maybe you shouldn't go. But I'm thinking, if it's just a day, losing a little sleep won't do harm much I hope I have a friend who read a story book till 4am from night and came to school at 10!
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Yes, it is just one night and i don't mind about going to the disco. But i am still worried about where i sleep if i don't go home, and if i go home, how i can go when it is too late.
@tabatha7 (189)
10 May 12
I'm thinking maybe not, if you have to ride a bicycle to get there. It could be dangerous to be on a bike late at night, especially on a Friday or Saturday night because of drunk drivers. It sounds like it would be a lot of fun, but the method of transportation sounds somewhat dangerous. Also, if he were to try to pull something, you would be pretty helpless on a bike. And you said you hadn't known him for very long. I would really think about this before going through with it. But that's really nice that he asked you & I hope the two of you can have fun & be happy! :)
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Yea, it will be nice if i can go, i think. But i am worry the things after that, how to go home late or where to sleep. If i say no now, i think i regret about it...
• Philippines
10 May 12
well friend, both of you can decide what to do with it my friend. if he really wants you to be with him in the disco then maybe he can also help you what to do during closing time of the disco. its either he really should give you a ride back or help you find some place where you could sleep. and not to give him more trouble than that. :)
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
Yes, i really don't want to bring him troubles also because of far distance. I want to accompany with him to go to the disco too. I will talk more with him to find out the good ways for both if we go. Thank you so much for your concerning.
• United States
10 May 12
This is one party I would not go to. I would wish him well and let him go on his own you could always go someplace when the time is right for both of you.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
hihhi, i don't know yet, i can't say No immediately yet...
@Cale2012 (115)
10 May 12
Oh,is your friend a dependent man? and do you trust your friendship? If yes, you could talk to him and make a better decesion for you. Sleep your friend house in couch or maybe he coule manage to other ways help you rest.If no, you need to think about this appointment and arrange back home after end disco. you can't image result you can consult your parents and other close friend suggestion about this friend and date comment.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
I also talk him about my considering...but we haven't find out the good solution yet. You are right, we can't imagine the results yet then i have to think carefully before i agree to go with him. I still have a time to think today, but i have no good idea for it yet,
• India
10 May 12
I never used to miss such enjoyable moments with my friends. I used to make use of such incidents. I mostly used to stay in my friends house if it is loo late and it is not better to travel alone in the late night. Dangers are still alive in the nook and corner of the darkness. So, why can't you stay at your friends house by seeking your mothers permission ?
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
10 May 12
yes, i wish i can do because i want to go to the disco too. He shares a house with his friend only and there is only 1 bed in his room, no room for guest sleeping at all.