Feelings & Emotions.
May 17, 2012 8:38pm CST
I am a married man, i also had another woman, i love my other woman and i love my wife but the love for my wife only puffs out when we talk to each other and when we are not, my mind and my emotion goes back to my other woman, my other woman is married to. we have similar problem and now we stopped communicating becuase of the circumstances that had occured. i miss my woman as much as i miss my wife. i never felt this way before im my entire life, i feel like i crave to be with my other woman, is this true love? i never had this kind of feeling before. like i crave to much to be with that person, like i am so much happy when i am with her. honestly, i miss her so much. my facebook account is filled with my emotions trying to get out, im eagerly wanting to be with her,to be with her arms.
18 May 12
Hi JonGilbert, I don't wanna judge you as I know we cannot control our feelings & emotions sometimes. But I do think this is really unfair for your real wife. What will happen if she came to know that you have another woman. And what will she have in her mind if she's reading your facebook statuses?
18 May 12
Hi, You send in a friend request, thanks. May be somewhere deep down some chord struck in our last discussion which perhaps prompted you to send that request. They say Proximity breeds contempt. But you say you miss your wife too. That shows what you are looking for is just variety. Love unfortunately is not a pair of new jeans, which you perhaps like, over the last one, for maybe its color or fit or whatever. It is more like a second skin. When it peels off it hurts. Right now you are thinking only of the few happy moments you had with your new muse, but if you look back you will find millions of such moments with your wife who has also mothered your children. Think of all the times she stood by you during moments of duress and extreme stress, with a smile, egging you on, telling you it is ok, you will snap out of it. How hurt would you be if she walks in one day telling you she found a better man, who is better than you in bed, supports her emotionally better than you. How strong would your ego be to know you have come second best after all this years of togetherness,sacrifice and love. Buddy, over here all of us can only conjecture but you have to take a call. Wife, family and stability OR Lover, divorce, not mentioning a totally pissed off antagonist in the form of a lover's hubby and a future of glorious uncertainties. God bless.
18 May 12
I can't judge you for loving 2 ladies at one time. Although, in my religion, it is really not good as it is against the 10 commandments. As what the other responder said, there might be something in your wife that you have choose to love another woman. She might lack something that you are looking for which you found in your other woman. But, whatever that may be, you should have also thought that you are not only trying to ruin your relationship with your wife, but you are also ruining another relationship with that of the other woman. You should have talked and tried to work things out with your wife first before even trying to fall for another woman. That goes as well with the other woman and her husband. If it doesn't work out for both of you then decide to get a divorce than trying to save something that you know will never work. In this case, no one will be hurt because both of you agrees to take a life where the other is not involved.
• United States
18 May 12
I glanced over a cpl other comments. How long have you been married? Do you have any children? I think when one has an affair they are in a rut in their life. Emotionally, physically neglected by their partner. Your finding in the other woman what your missing in your relationship with your wife. You need to remember if you left your wife and went with this other woman, a few years down the road will you be in this rut again and than cheat again? You need to figure out what your missing in your relationship with your wife and try to fix that. Seeing some one else will not fix the problem it only will make it worse. You need to take time to focus on yourself and the relationship with your wife before giving up and moving on. if you dont fix the problem it will only happen again. With the other woman I think your in the stages of puppy love, which can last awhile. Its new. Your doing things you use to do with your wife, learning about her, building a relationship, etc. Try redating your wife and see what happens. Its not abnormal to get in a rut in a long term relationship, but relationships take time and work to keep growing and going.
• United Kingdom
18 May 12
Feelings can be powerful and emotions can be highly complicated. Love is not a very easy thing to deal with. It sounds like your life is mixed with having a wife and another woman. It seems like you are in love with your other lady. It is dodgy being with two ladies at the same time. You mention your other woman has a husband. You have to imagine what the future will be like if your wife or the other one's husband finds out. Maybe you will end up splitting up from your wife to be with the other lady. Good luck.
18 May 12
HI THERE JonGilbert.. I think you are in a very difficult situation. But let me advice you to take some time realizing things. Sometimes we mistaken love for someone because they are actually new to us. Compared to the ones we are married with. Sometimes we feel like we are much interested with the 'other' because there are things that interests us the most about him/her. but, at the end of the road, when things got more complicated and when the time comes that everything was caught about that third party, and when you go into so much emotions you realize that you love your wife and your family more than you do to the other person. I won't judge your situation just basing on your post, but, I would advice that you take time to realize things.. You are married and life gets complicated when you make it to be one. As for me, I've been through that situation before, though i wasn't the one who cheated, but it was my hubby. And it super hurt me.. That the memory still hurts upto now.. Try to take into consideration the feelings of your wife. Specially if she's been a very good and living wife to you. They say men, at some point of their lives, really craves or looks for other woman, just like they wanted another dish. but, in the end it's still the woman of their lives that they come home to. Maybe you feel the lust, and not the love.
18 May 12
Sounds like you are in a very complicated situation. I am in no position to give you an advice or suggestion. I just wish you could pass this stage. If you have children try to focus on them and try not to think too much of your other woman. I know you know that this is not right so try your very best to make it right. Keep on praying and God will show you the way.
18 May 12
Feelings and emotions can be confusing. It is sometimes hard to understand what you are truly feeling. It is possible to love more than one woman. You have to be honest with yourself, with all the people in the world, you are going to face temptation and uncertainty. You have to decide if you can really actually settle down with one person, or if you want to be free to be with whomever you want when you want.
18 May 12
sometimes being honest to what we feel do not result for the better. i don't think you feel the right thing. are you familiar with the song somewhere down the road? it says that "we have the right love at the wrong time" if something is wrong, the rest is also wrong. you're married so why you let yourself to be in that situation? you cannot love both woman as equally as you think and besides you alone can fix your problem. i will suggest to end up thinking about your other girl and start again to have a family family.think about the kids and their future. it's your fault that you married your wife now and you still have the nerve to say you only love her when you talk to each other. How could you? later you will realize that you're wrong when you lost them both. better choose right now. and if you choose your wife, i think you made the right choice. Think about the feelings of your kids also, not only for your own happiness.