Bread winner of the family.
May 29, 2012 2:45am CST
Being an eldest among four siblings comes with a bigger responsibility. With parents having no stable financial income could be a lot more to think of taking the whole risk of becoming a bread winner of the family. Is there someone could tell when to stop these duty , or it has to be faced whole life without any complain at all ?
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1 Sep 12
being a bread winner, i think it's not a responsibility, or a duty or even necessary for you to do even if you are the eldest, it's already in your heart, it's your nature, actually if you will notice, no one is forcing you to do it,...you can stop anytime you like to stop, but the question is are you prepared to accept on how your family will react at what you do,? truly it easy do something but it takes a lot of courage to decide on what to do.
1 Sep 12
Sometimes i was thinking to just take of my self , my own life but it is also difficult to decide such things when you know many people are after and independent of my support financial most importantly.
2 Sep 12
yeah i know the feeling in a situation like that, i thought i can escape the situation by marrying, but my suppose to be a solution to the problem turn out to be another problem, my sister and mom got jealous of my wife, then instead of thinking about hoe to solve the problem i just relax and go with the flow, i mean i took sometime just to wait and see,...i believe it will take a long process for the situation to be solve, but please don't take yourself off no problem will be solve by doing that...
6 Sep 12
I am have now a baby, and unfortunately i am a single mother... Sometimes i was thinking how could i start my own family and think about them alone if i am still carrying responsibilities on my shoulders... I am not really complaining about me being the bread winner... I was just wondering, when will be the time that they will also tell me to take rest and think of my own... I doubt it will happen ever, since i was the eldest of all i just feel that i have to bear all of this...
28 Sep 12
Welcome to mylot Gracia Here most of the families are combined families, where you can find 3 to 4 generations live in same house together peacefully, each member shares his/her responsibility as far as practicable. Eldest kid has definitely more responsibility to share
28 Sep 12
You are really right! Eldest almost take all the resposiblity on the family, but i believe not every family has a same situation like me which the parents don't have a breat source of income. Somefmily are lucky that they are aboundant and iwas not. But i hope one day my siblings can also help me support on our living.
26 Sep 12
You are such a good daughter providing for your family. You know what these duties will never stop until you get married and have a family of your own but I have a hunch that you are sacrificing your own personal happiness right now because you are afraid that if you will get married, there is no one left to support your family. You are in a very tough situation my dear but I hope you will find the strength and endurance to face this battle everyday.
• Pune, India
10 Sep 12
Hi, You are very kind and care for your family. You want to help your parents. You are doing your duty very well. It is obvious that some times you feel tired and boring by working many days. But it will not be possible for you to not to help your parents and siblings. Be happy and make others happy.
28 Sep 12
Thank You friend for the response, i have this mind set of helping them, only sometimes i was thinking also when can i have a time to take care of my self and do things as i want, sometimes it' imposible for me to buy my own wants because i am afraid i will not keep a budget to support them all.