Being single

May 31, 2012 10:44am CST
Almost all of my friends have their boyfriend or girlfriend and sometimes I feel like I'm being left behind but a part of me says that theere is no need for me to feel alone or worthless just because I don't have that special someone by my side.Actually, I can't really see the importance of having a boyfriend/girlfriend for I already have my friends and God who will always be supportive and will love me no matter what. How about you guys? What do you think is the importance of having a special someone? feel free to share your ideas.
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21 responses
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
31 May 12
Yeah there's nothing to worry.. Well i feel proud enough to say that i am single and that i am very much happy with myself and have nothing to complain. When you are in a relationship then u have to take care of it at large failure of which will lead to break ups. So make it a point of having lots of friends with whom i can spend my valuable time.
31 May 12
I love your advice. Being single isn't bad at all right?
• India
1 Jun 12
Yeah thnx for your response. Yeah being single isnt that bad as people think. Singles enjoy life more than the committed ones. U dont have to stick over the phone for long hours talking to your beloved and also u save your pocket money by not spending on your partner. Doesnt that sound promising? Ha ha ha...
@GemmaR (8527)
31 May 12
There is nothing wrong with being single, but I know how you feel because I felt the same way before I met my boyfriend for the first time. It might seem as though you are being left behind by other people who are choosing to go faster than you, but this is no reason for you to worry. There is plenty of time for you to be in a relationship when you are older, and you should enjoy being young and single while you have the chance. Go out with your other single friends and have a good time, as this is something that you might not be able to do when you have a family and responsibilities of your own.
31 May 12
is it really normal if sometimes you feel ugly & unlovable whenever you're not getting involved into a relationship?
31 May 12
is it really normal if sometimes you feel ugly & unlovable whenever you're not getting involved into a relationship?
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
wow..I hate being single! But as time pass by, I just realize how luck you are to be single. No one is going to nag or shout at you when you did something wrong. You don't need to worry much on how you spend your time with him. I've been hurt and I think I have moved on already. I don't care being single now. I just have to wait for the right time. Now, I'm going out with my friends and meet guys. wew..
1 Jun 12
I wish you good luck my friend. I pray that God will help you find that special someone who will really make you feel special and won't ever hurt you.
@bond027 (107)
• India
31 May 12
Hello Friend ! Having boyfriend or girlfriend is natural,you can't help it.This is natural only if you are talking about serious relationship. And moreover being in a relationship or not has its own merits and demerits.I mean having BF/GF have some advantages and also some disadvantages and same with the case being single you have some good points and some bad ones.So I think whatever is the case we should concentrate more on the positive points.I know its very easy to say and listen stuffs like these but equally difficult to implement. So I wish you all the best and hope you achieve success in implementing difficult things like these in your life. :)
1 Jun 12
Thank you very much :) What you said really encouraged me to always look at the positive side. I also wish you all the best in life my friend. God Bless you
@nerein (283)
• United States
31 May 12
I would definitely agree with you on that. For along time I thought I was alone and being left behind. As well yes it was because everyone else had someone. Then I started taking a look around, when I saw everyone, I saw most of the couples arguing about one thing or another. That is one reason why I think that people in relationships have more problems than single people. As well I to have a few good friends and other things. As well I feel that I do not need a relationship to validate my self worth, I am content with being alone when it comes to the romantic relationship aspect.
31 May 12
Thank you ;) Sometimes I just really get curious why people need to get involve in a relationship.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
23 Jul 12
It doesn't matter whether have a boyfriend or a grilfriend. Just be yourself and your mr. right will appear at a right time.
• India
20 Jul 12
That is ones own choice. Nothing wrong. Have faith in God till the end..
@lady1993 (12523)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
Yeah, i feel that way sometimes.. my high school friends before have boyfriends.. but my close friends still didn't have so i don't feel so let out.. But then now we are in college most of my friends have boyfriends and girlfriends.. But i do not really feel that i am missing anything too... since i have close friends who always have time for me and my family.
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
Being single bring shame for me..
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I also have the same situation and i was almost look so desperate to find special someone for me too. Well good thing i wasn't really tempted. Haha! For me it's really important to have someone special but we don't need to look for it, let it find you.
@chiyosan (29394)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
People should not really focus on their life being complete only when they are with a partner, when they have a family of their own. such a bad thing to equate happiness with. I know that sometimes we do feel empty, but i would say it is really not the longing for someone that is making us empty but not to know that we are complete without anyone else. when you are happy about yourselves, you won't need anyone else to fill in the 'gaps in your life because there won't be any gaps at all.
@sukumar794 (5048)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
1 Jun 12
There is an old saying "If you are really great you must be standing alone" .While the loneliness caused by being single is sad it is best not to have unworthy friendly alliances.
1 Jun 12
You are right and wrong at the same time. It is important to note than I've never had a boyfriend before and I'm 20! :) However, 5 of my college best friends never had boyfriends either but some really made it so close. It's even a friendship secret that as long as we're happy together the curse will always be binding and that curse is staying single but that's just an inside joke. Don't get me wrong, I love my best friends so much and we've had so much fun being together. It's like being in a relationship with friends but it's still important to have someone special. You can never really explain what you will miss out on until you've tried it. If you have someone, the world will feel so much better. Trust me, I just know it. :)
@toniganzon (31947)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
When i was a college student all of my female friends have boyfriends except me. It made me feel insecure to be honest, and yeah i was hoping that i would find my special someone. I wasn't desperate though and despite of that i was even choosy and ended up not having a boyfriend till the right one came along. And i married him. What i'm saying is, it doesn't matter if your friends have their special someone. Yours will come a the right time and you don't even have to exert an effort in searching for one.
@bharsil83 (114)
• Indonesia
1 Jun 12
Have that special person is my dream, because people are privileged to be happy while living life despite many trials, but it becomes a trigger to strengthen a love.
@ryanong (9697)
• Vietnam
1 Jun 12
When you are not interested to be in relationship, just be single and enjoy your single life. Don't need to force yourself do what you really don't want. Currently i am in relationship but i used to be single for a while and i was happy with it.I could go to meet guys, going out or do whatever i want and no one blame about it...that is what i can't do now when i am in relationship. My bf often blame if i go to meet male friends, for instance.
@adforme (2116)
1 Jun 12
I can really appreciate my single status. I am a single lady, and I have the freedom to come and go as I please. I do not have anyone waiting on me or telling me how to look. I can be myself, and take my time to do whatever I want. Can I settle down? Yes. Would a boyfriend that turns in to a husband be nice? Yes. If it will happen, it will happen; but now, I am not going to rush something or find being single a problem. Having friends that let you be you is a blessing; and your spirituality will give you peace of mind.
@bjc66bjc (6746)
• United States
1 Jun 12
Hi whateveritmaybe, I agree with you, one dosen't need a significant other to complete them and don't you ever be pressured into any other way of thnking....When the time is right you will know it an until then enjoy your life...if it dosen't happen anytime soon don't stress it.. Be your own person and until the time for your to share your life with another, JUST DO YOU!!!!!! After all being single is not the worst way of living.....Good luck!!!!
@kun2349 (23477)
• Singapore
1 Jun 12
There are pros and cons to remain as single. U need not feel jealous or left behind just because u dun have bf/gf Singlehood has its troubles while relationships have their problems too. Whatever we see are usually on the bright side of it, unless one starts the dark side of it, we never know No matter what, friends and loved ones are different from each other. There's only so much our friends can do for us and in times of need, who can really be there for us? Love is unconditional, and who's capable of giving it to us? Though we share our problems with our loved ones, but there are times, it's easier to share it among friends. So, it's important to have both friends and loved ones by our side, we can't do without any of them
@shansavy (172)
• Jamaica
31 May 12
to me single life is awesome, it keeps me more focused i feel the the commitment that i would pay that individual i can redirect it towards self development. I think that, depends on the sage that one is in, sometimes relationships are a slight disadvantage because it comes with too much drama and distractions.