Only children will show how honest they are.

Philippines
June 4, 2012 3:41am CST
Hello Lotters, Do you believe that Children are honest? because I remember being honest during my earliest phase of my life. there was a time where I was honest as a child, so honest that my brother's and parents were mad when ever i try to talk things to do much. But when you get disciplined and then being told what things aren't supposed to do. even though you like it, that's when the Lying process starts, so that you want to avoid being punish, you have to lie. It would be hard to believe as you grow into teens and adults to really Know the Difference from the Truth or Lie. Most of the time, it's Lie though
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@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Hi Letran...I never punish my children for telling the truth, that is just wrong. Instead, if they were talkative and speaking out of turn, for example I remember one time I was with a friend whose daughter was very vocal and while we were out, we saw this woman who was quite overweight. This girl was about 5 and she yelled out, "Did you see how fat that woman was?" The mother took the little girl and quietly explained that there are some things we don't say because it can hurt someone's feelings. That was when my oldest children were little, so I teach my boy that though some things might be true, it doesn't need to be said.
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Carmelanirel, That's right there are truths that doesn't deserve punishing. in fact, during the earlier childhood in my case, I get punished when ever i do something wrong or lied about it too. so, therefore, i think the fact that we lie about our wrong doings caused us to be punished. indeed, discipline is necessary to correct our kids into making them good grown ups. have a nice day.
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• United States
5 Jun 12
Actually, anytime a child does something wrong that they didn't know was wrong, then punishment shouldn't really be given. But if the child new it was wrong, for example if a few weeks later this girl again yelled out something about another person's appearance, then punishment should be given.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
5 Jun 12
though that is partly true not all teenagers lie, I never did, I said more little lies as an adult than I ever did as teenager. I was afraid to lie because my grandmother told me if she caught me lying and she would find out in the end I would be in big trouble
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello winterhouse, good for you that been honest is something you had been consisted at. unfortunately most of the kids aren't that much gut when it comes to being honest with themselves. I actually came form societ where most people actually lied about something to prevent myself from getting punished.
@sus1024 (24)
5 Jun 12
yeah i also believe when i was kid i couldn't lie to my parents..no matter How much i did i always told them the truth...:)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Sus1024, Unless they are influenced into something that changed their behavior and wants or needs that makes them to do something in secret. most often they would lie for their own benefit but punished if they are busted for a reason there.
• Mexico
5 Jun 12
Hi Letran Knight: Same happened here. I remembered when I was a kid I always tell the truth but as I interacted with other kids they taught me that I could lie to my parents. We lose our innocence and then we could never recover it ALVARO
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Starsailover, I think when ever we are influenced by other things and friends or classmates bad things. but we really don't think our parents agreed to things that may caused us harm in the future. but we don't know that and in return we end up lying to them in so amny occassions. have a nice day.
@ElicBxn (60185)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I don't think all children start out honest. I've met deceptive little beasts that seem to be lying from their first words...
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Elicbxn, Of course, not every child is honest as they grow up. i still think it has something to do with the environment they live in. Some kids are like that because of lack of Adult's parenting skills and some are even abusive causing the child to be a lot more abusive to other children. Have a nice day.
@louievill (16657)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Yes children are the most honest beings on our planet but their honesty is hindered or limited to what they see in adults , most exemplified in children in our informal settlers ( squatters), they remain pure and honest until adults contaminate them. ah I have always been honest as a child up to the present (modesty aside)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Louievill, They are indeed that is good to know that children are shelted from being known too much in the outside world. you gotta teach them things that will make them handle about things in life. when you're adult you feel fear and probably not being honest all the time to fear being rejected though. Have a nice day.
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Hi Letran! Oh yes,I do believe you! even the simplest thing like who farted(lol),my daughter will truly say it's her if she does it,haha! If only all of us,adults,are like children,I guess,there'll be a ore peaceful world.
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello MtrGuanlao, I don't think Adults will ever go back as the innocence like the children because of the Human nature that we usually possess when we grow up. bad traits like levereging, humiliating, conspiring against, or betraying the other person.If some one starts this dog eat dog thing policy, then it follows and then others follows it until it never ends. so sad but this is the reality now. have a nice day.
@Mashnn (4503)
4 Jun 12
All children are very honest and they rarely lie unless when instructed by an adult to do so or after they are punished after telling the truth.
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Mashnn, they are usually honest most specially when they are sheltered in our own home. well, if honesty has something to do with harsh words or hate or physical abuse then there is no doubt that they are punished and then tell us later that is wrong. sometimes, we had to take hard disciplinary action has always been the right course to correct the childs mistakes.
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Children are rather scarily honest at times, bring up points that no one should in polite company. No matter how true they might be, you really do really need to look around and cringe. There are times where their honestly accurate and sometimes harsh observations are rather something that are on the mark. Naturally they have no sense of politics or diplomacy. Of course, they may get disciplined when they are a bit too honest and thus that is when the process of being careful what they are saying. Then the process of lying and then the process of being careful not being caught lying. Honesty is something that fades a little bit, when we get to the point of shaking hands with someone, saying it's nice to see them, when in the back of our mind, we want to slap them across the teeth for being obnoxious.
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Megamatt, Yeah i think the innocence of the child doesn't make them differentiate between information needs to be told or information needs to be kept. when they just see things, they just say it unless we are told that it should be secret though. i think parenting still holds a greater responsibility of what or what not to be said. in the end, we learn to keep secrets to ourselves.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
dear LK, Exactly! I feel the same way too- I can still remember that I tell lies to avoid punishment or being scolded. But still, the kid's innocence is far different when it is an adult who tell lies. Kid's are reluctant while doing it- while adults are too well phrase when saying it.
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Jaiho-sis, I always feel that most of the time during my childhood. it felt like am chained some how, when you are into something that is not approved, you have no choice but to lie not doing about it. i think if there is no parent child talk regarding these things, the child will grow up just lying to himself or herself.
@toniganzon (42814)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
I miss being too honest and not having to lie to get away from being reprimanded. I miss my days of innocence! But to survive in this world, sometimes we need to lie a little. We just have to remind ourselves now and then that living in a lie will not do us any good. Too much of anything will never bring us good.
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello TOniganzon, I agree that we have to lie also in order to survive and gain some of our friends. most of the time, being honest can really hurt other people and make them sway from us. too much of our honesty can give any of our enemies an advantage to hurt us or destroy us to boot. well, we can only tell things common to people not to rumored about
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
having three kids i know! lol... my daughter is usually the most talk - active among the three as she is the oldest and is quite mature for her age. Sometimes i would hide something or facts from them and when she knows about it she would often tell everyone about it! i could not even hide a chocolate bar from them as when she sees it she will really blurt it out and all three will know!
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
Hello Jazel_juan oh, my i bet some time you would have to innovate yourself from hiding things to your daughter. well, it's natural for the elder women to get mature most early than men. probably you can talk to her out of hiding things that are not into public knowledge i think. thank you for sharing, have a nice day
@neildc (17257)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Jul 12
it's a story or belief of the past, ryan. if you have your own family now, you can tell and will agree with me. even a three year old kid nowadays lie or know how not to tell truth. they could be naughty or they just learned it from the older people. you know, wrongdoings of mature people make right in the eyes of the children?
• Marikina, Philippines
13 Jun 12
Oh. That is the reality. Remember what the bible says. It is better to be childlike innocent. Children are honest because they are innocent. They talk without thinking. They express it from their heart. They do not know what is right and wrong. Clear conscience, but when we grow up, adult acquire knowledge and that is right and wrong. They already knows what is good and what is evil. We know everything. The bible is true about Adan and Eve where Eve eaten an apple from the tree of knowledge, but it is not literally interpreted. It is more on metaphorical meaning. It means we acquire too much knowledge and disappear our childlike innocent. That is the reality. We are all sinners and we really cannot escape that kind of reality we had in the society even the children in the society, they would grow up and become an adult and someday they will be like us All of us lied even smallest thing we do, we still lie. We really can't escape the reality we had in the society