dealing with rude people

Philippines
June 9, 2012 9:59pm CST
How do you deal with rude people at work? If a co-worker annoys, repels, or arouses a feeling of disgust with a pushy attitude that shows no respect for others, will you put that person in his or her place?
7 responses
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Hello jcordova888 For most of my life, I tend to ignore the rude peoples. That is, if they are rude to me. If they are rude to other people, I am more likely to speak up. As I have gotten older, I am far less likely to put up with rudeness from anyone, and I will address the issue with the person.
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
That's true. I noticed that now that I belong to the older set, I am far less patient with people who don't show good manners and conduct, especially in relating with other people -- in the workplace or elsewhere. It's hard to put up with something that you know is wrong.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Jun 12
hi, I dislike rude people. They always think they are the best in everything which is not so.If my co worker annoys, repels or not showing respect to others or to me then i will simply try to show him his mistakes politely as far as possible. But then too if he continues doing so then i will put up the matter before my seniors for taking the necessary action. And unfortunately if my seniors too of his side then i have no option but to quit the job and hunt for other one.
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
I guess nobody likes rude people. Others just shrug it off and go on wit their own activities, but some coarse, rude people deserve to be put in their proper places. Sadly, some people -- like higher-ups and their friends -- may side with them. In their minds, it may be fair, but to others who see what's really going on, it is foul. As Shakespeare had said, "fair is foul and foul is fair." In this case, seemingly reasonable-minded people siding with rude people probably think they are being fair.
@allknowing (130292)
• India
11 Jun 12
There are always people at work who cannot stand others who are smarter than they and this rudeness is a situation one has to live with. Sentimental as I was I suffered immensely when this happened and my MD always said that if not for this weakness of mine I could have easily taken his place!
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Yes, it is quite evident in most workplaces -- having staff members who are smarter than their bosses, so what happens is the higher-ups assert themselves in an unfavorable way, rudeness being one of them. Rudeness, though, is one of those things that individuals can "unlearn" especially if other people are able to knock some sense into them
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
10 Jun 12
I work at Target. So I am in the number one place that a lot of people who don't have a lot of patience can't be. I deal with several rude people every day I am at work. If it is a customer, I try to be calm and collective, making sure that nothing I say or do with make the customer morw upset. If they are so upset that I feel that I cannot handle the situation, I tell the customer that I don't know how to answer their questions and I will call the manager over to help them. It is the same for coworkers. If I feel that the coworker is being offensive and it is making me upset, I would notify the manager. A work pkace is meant to have team work with everyone involved. And they need to understand that.
• Philippines
10 Jun 12
I totally agree that a workplace needs to have people who show teamwork and respect for co-workers. It's good that most companies have set up rules to preserve harmony and good relations at work. For the most part, though, it's up to individuals -- depending on their breeding and motivations -- to ensure that they do not stir up negative feelings or offend, upset,and create anxiety for other people. Does anyone here agree that being rude is a reflection of a person's breeding? Or perhaps it's an effect of peer pressure or some other factor like stress?
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
11 Jun 12
I can say I am a very kind and patient person. Even at times others are rude I just keep silent and continue with my everyday work. I am affected yes, but most often I just keep the feelings within me.
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Indeed, you are a very patient person, to be able to stay silent notwithstanding other people's rudeness. I guess each person has his own way of dealing with bad attitudes displayed by people around.
• United States
11 Jun 12
hello jcordova888! rude people are the worst, they disgust me...but mean evil people are worse, of course...when the psychoartist was younger i was more timid and tended to avoid rude people and i worked in an office situation with many rude people! now that the psychoartist has reached a more mature status i am not as fearful and just plain don't care anymore and will tell rude and pushy people what i think! i think it is especially important for us to stand up for the rights of others who are being pushed around by rude, mean , evil people!
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
yes, it's important for people to stand up for their rights. Rude, mean and evil people should not be allowed to reign supreme!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
10 Jun 12
A part of life that I would like to avoid but it happens. It is really bad when the rude person is really in a position of power and obviously uses their authority as a license to be rude. That is really just something that is the worst. A co-worker, you can kind of call out on their rudeness, a boss, you just have to sit there and grit your teeth and smile and just go with it. There are a lot of people who are rude to varying degrees. Perhaps there are people who have their rudeness as what they might feel to be a defense mechanism where they are unable to really function a lot of the time. Then there are times where people who are just rude, because that is really just what they enjoy doing. Class mates, co workers, neighbors, random people on the street, there is rudeness everywhere.