Having an affair with the BOSS!

Philippines
June 18, 2012 7:41pm CST
Have you heard cases like this? Like one of your co-worker is having an affair with you boss? What do you think about it?? Does it distract you? Some colleagues are opposed on them but some don't mind at all. In my case, I think it is not wrong as long as they are both responsible on their actions. Like they won't create something that cause trouble or there isn't any unfair treatment. But sometimes it is not good to look at them dating in the office. It doesn't look unpleasant. What's your opinion on this?
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@cttolledo (4105)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
hi Good environment in the office couldn't be the same if 2 people in the office have intimate affair, more so if the persons involved is the boss and staff... I think it is more appropriate, if one of them resign from that office or ask for transfer to other department.
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@BabyCheetah (1913)
• Australia
19 Jun 12
It depends, if they are both single, and during work hours do their job and not be all over eachother then it is OK. And as long as there is no unfair advantages. But sometimes sleeping with the boss really does get you that promotion. My now ex for this obvious reason slept with his boss and surprise surprise got a promotion. They obviously didn't care that she was married and he wasn't single at the time. That's an example when it is not appropriate, I know people in the office knew about it and were disgusted and think he's a pig :D
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@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
If they are both singles and don't hurt or mess up with work it could be okay.But still, some people will say and talk about it and try comment about it.There will awkwardness maybe on both parties.
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@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
You are right, it is some kind of unpleasant. For me, I think it is alright to have a relationship with the boss as long as they are both single and available. Also, relationship must be set aside first during work time to avoid unfair treatment with other staffs.
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@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
My previous employer and my latest employer both have their gf's work for the company. Well, it doesn't bother me as long as they are professional enough and separate their personal thingy with work. And yes, I agree, they should also be responsible enough with their actions. My previous employer didn't handle things well with his gf and the gf was a bit bossy, hated it much but you just can't complain if you want to stay in the company
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
I have someone I knew who quit her job it was because she couldn't stand seeing her boss and the other employee dating in the office. The woman was bossy too so she hated it so she quit.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
21 Oct 12
If the boss is single and the attraction is mutual then they can do what they want . Whatever two single adult do is up to them in my opinion . I would not be caught in such situation but I know some people dont mind . I have heard of some boss that pray on their young female employee .
@GemmaR (8526)
21 Jun 12
I don't think that you should ever even think about having a relationship like this, because it goes beyond the boundaries of the office, and this means that if you should ever break up you might end up losing your job. Also, it might make things awkward for you in the office as the other people might think that they are getting left out because of your special relationship with the one in charge. I would never want to be working with somebody who I was in a relationship anyway, as I think that spending that much time together could just make everything far too intense for me.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
20 Jun 12
There are often situations where people find that they are attracted to someone at work. This is not something that can be helped. We do not determine who we are going to be attracted to or fall in love with. However, there are certain things that need to be kept in mind and considered before entering into a relationship with a co-worker specially with the boss. Interoffice relationships are forbidden, she could be putting herself into a bad situation before she have ever done anything and it interfere her work. She could also have problems with other co-workers who may not approve of the relationship. Her boss could start treating her differently due to the fact that their into a relationship. This is the most common reason for a relationship to be frowned upon at work. It is also likely to result in negative repercussions.
@dansazz (1059)
• United States
19 Jun 12
I think that any affair is wrong. And it would be more wrong if you are doing it for special treatment or a raise or something. In any case, if you are with the boss, they are going to treat you differently, and it is unfair, and there is a reason that it is not aloud at work.
@Bhebelen14 (5204)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Having an affair with the boss kinda unpleasant but we cant deny the fact that its happening in some companies. When I was working in a car manufacturing my boss has an affair with my co-worker most of us knew it but we ignore it because they both single, they love each other and the most important thing they doing they job very well. Also inside in the office they acted normal and you dont even notice that they have a relationship because the way they talked and treat each other during office hours. I think there nothing wrong with having a relationship with your boss as long as you both know how to handle it and no one can get hurt. I think is is more one balancing between relationship and work.
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I don't mind at all as long as both of them are single. Or as long as that co-worker of mine won't act as if she's the boss coz she's not! I'll totally get mad at that..
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
19 Jun 12
I think, if the boss wants to have an affair of some office worker, it is their problem. As long as they responsible for their actions. And as long as they don't date in the office and show affections in front of other coworkers.. it is okay with me.. moreover they are adult that responsinble with all their actions
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 Jun 12
I think that having an affair with your boss just complicates your life. If a promtion comes from the affair, you will never know if it came from a job well done or the relationship. I don't see an affair with your boss as a stepping stone in a career choice. When your coworkers learn of the relationship they tend to look at you with different eyes as well.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
19 Jun 12
I would never have an affair with my boss or one of my colleagues. I have some cases at work, though, and I find it very unpleasant. Whenever there is a situation, the person my boss is having an affair with is preferred and gets help, while the others, though they work on the same position, are not. I think it is very unfair to the others.
@succeednow (1636)
• Singapore
19 Jun 12
Hi tess, Having affairs in the workplace is rather common. It could be just a fling or it could be a long term relationship. Personally I don't think having an affair is a good idea whether it is with someone who is working in the same office or not. I guess it's worse if this is happening in the same office. Sooner or later they'll get found out and everyone will know and it can be extremely uncomfortable.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
19 Jun 12
Hi! Our office is meant for business (work) not for dating or for love affairs. If anyone wants to entice his/her own boss for some unexplained motives s/he should do it after office hours not during office hours. Exchanging notes/mails/messages during office hours could be troublesome and romantic gesture by the boss and his/her subordinate could distract others.
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
19 Jun 12
I am the only woman in my department so that...i haven't seen any colleague become an an affair with a boss.... however, i think it is ok for both of them if it happens as long as the office is the office, not a park for their dating...
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
An affair is alright as long as it does not lead to the part where he/she is like asking him/her to have a higher position or something. And also the boss is not married or something like that, now that would be very disturbing.
• United States
19 Jun 12
That's a touchy situation. The relationship could escalate to the workplace which would affect everyone. It goes bad, then the work relationship could go bad. But then again, if it's something serious (love) then things may work out but I still don't think that having a personal relationship add well as a work relationship would go so well
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
19 Jun 12
Yes I heard this type of cases but really amazing if you fall in love with your boss. My boss age was 50 years and my age was 20 years hhah.....so no chance. But if boss and employee age is not more difference then may be chance of this.