Friends moving on

United States
June 18, 2012 8:55pm CST
Do you ever feel like Your friends are slowly fadeing away? Like you dont talk as much and you arent as close. I graduated high school a year ago and i feel like me and my friends are more like strangers. we hardly ever talk and we rarely see each other, Its so diffrent from how we used to be. it seems like our paths are just going diffrent ways. I miss them and sometimes it depresses me a little bit but, i figure if they want to talk to me and hang out they should put in a little effort to not just me. I feel like i bug them, they say i dont they just been busy but, i dont know so i kind of gave up. I pretty much now only hang out with my boyfriend and his family and friends. Its fun i just miss my friends and having good times. Its not bad with him but, i have always been shy and they are all older then me so its kind of werid i notice i am mostly very quite.
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@BabyCheetah (1913)
• Australia
19 Jun 12
I've been out of highschool for 10 years. Yeah I know giving away my age here HAHA! But I have a few on Facebook but before that it was the same. We kept in touch for a little while about a year or two and then life just got in the way I guess. My closest friend in school I don't even see anymore. Sometimes it does make me sad and wonder what has happened but we all grow and change and go our own ways. I would recommend to bug them just a little more to see if they want to hang but I have found that real good friends do make the effort to see eachother and stay in touch. It's been harder for me atm because I don't have a job so no money, they know this so when we hang it's often at their house or somewhere that doesn't cost a lot.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Yeah, i know what you are saying with the no money thing. I have anxeity issues so i had to quit my job a while back and i just recently have gotten a job but, its cleaning and its only 3 hours a week so its not much at all. Basically just a little to be able to save up. My best friend was over the other day, she was looking for scrubs and i had some from when i worked as a cna and gave her some she only stayed about 5 mins and we hardly talked like we were strangers it kind of depressed me.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Yeah i am glad i have at least a little bit coming in. Yeah i know i wasn't to happy with my friend that day, i highly doubt i will see her anytime soon:( she actully came over to give me the necklace i bought from her jewelry party about a month ago which i didnt even have the money for but, i bought it to help her out. And another friend of mine drove us there and when my friend was introduceing everyone she goes to the one girl said her name and said shes my best friend then she said me and my friend who drove me there and goes i graduated with them, like we arent even friends. I was pretty mad.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Friends come and go in our lifetime, as they would seem to, as you said, create their own path of life. There are a few who would stay for keeps until the very end of your life, and to me, i considered them as friends forever. Those who have left would still be a part likely of memories that are worth reminiscing.
• United States
19 Jun 12
That is very true. I left Cooper City High School in 2006. I added friends that I know from facebook but don't seem to get together at all. I just have e-mail friends and just comment or talk about what you are doing on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. So, what I am doing now? Adding new friends into my life by using social networks.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Yeah, I think you are right obe212003 and jessim21 I know what you mean you know a little of whats going on with facebook, but my friends rarly get on.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
It is always been said that distant can make us strangers to people we have connection before. I also experience this and yes it hurts. i have bunch of close friends during schooldays that seems strangers to me already. I still saw them in facebook and have a little conversation, but the feeling is not the same anymore. People changes thru time and only rare remains the same.
• India
19 Jun 12
It is very usual and common that people will have changes have in their life and this changes results in the distance between the relation which was really close.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Yeah i agree with you both. when i talk to them on facebook i feel the same way like were not even close. It hurts me a lot, the whole senior year and exceptionally at the end of the year we all said we would stay close there was 4 of us and i barely talk to any of them. I know me and then one talk once in a while the other 2 stayed really close but, for some reason the rest of us just all fell apart i think its because the 2 that stayed close go to college together and shared some classes they also drove together.
• India
20 Jun 12
Hi friend, why you are having shy with your own friends? as you mentioned you had hangouts with your family and your bf's friends. Just consider your friends in the same sort, you mentioned that your friends are older than you, this kind of age factor is not a great thing in real friendship. Don't worry, surely you will have a good hangout with your friends in the near soon and my wishes for it
• United States
20 Jun 12
Actually i meant i am shy with his friends. And his friends are older then me. I haven't talked to my friends much in a while.
@Bhebelen14 (5204)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
After high school all of us has a different plans in life incluidg our friends. The last time I saw my two best friends in high was 5 to 6 years ago, I rarely take to them because I am busy with my work and I know that busy too taking care of their family. Sometime we just leave a message in facebook or yahoomail just to get into touch to each other. In you situation now, I think you friends are not fading aways, they just busy concouring the dreams. You should also try to meet other friends and hang out with them and dont get depress. About your boyfriend family I think you need to go out with them without your boyfriend so that you will know and become comfortable with them.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Yeah i know what you are saying and no i wouldnt really go out with them without him i am too quite and it would be akward i think. I have anxiety issues too, i dont want to act them up.
@skyfury (36)
• Indonesia
19 Jun 12
After high school graduation, I rarely met my best friends. Most of them are in other city. But we still keep in touch via Facebook and other social medias. But I still miss the time when we can hang out together :(
• United States
19 Jun 12
Thats nice that you still stay close by talking.
• India
19 Jun 12
I had faced the same when I was in my higher secondary section. During my higher secondary studies I had a lot of good friends. I loved them and I had a lot of good time. For many months we enjoyed and we were in touch later I feel chat I was having something troubles between my some of my friends. The troubles mean the simple tasks and plays had decreased a lot and I feel my good friends are moving far away from me but later I realized that If I allow it I will surely miss them. So I decided be like the same as we were in the past. Now I have a great touch with them. I miss them a lot
• United States
19 Jun 12
I am glad you were able to stay in touch.
@syramoon (655)
• United States
19 Jun 12
I've noticed this over the years. Me and my best friend from high school haven't talked in over two years now. Even my room mates (I'm hardly ever home now, so I don't know if I can even call them that) and me used to be close, and now I feel like I have nothing in common with them. I used to be more social in person, not online, and then I went to being really social online, but now there is very few people I feel close to.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Yeah, i know what you are saying. I havent talked to my friends too much at all since graduation and the first time we all hung out was at a jewelry party the one had and it was kind of akward like me and my friend who drove me stuck together kind of away from everyone and our 2 other friends one of which was my best friend we barely talked at all.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
19 Jun 12
I have lost many friends on the way, too. Each of us has their own life, their own problems and less time for hanging out. But true friends always stay together, at least that is what I like to believe. For instance, my best friend and I live in different cities, we see each other quite rarely, but we talk a lot on the phone, we trust each other completely, and we can count on each other. Moreover, each time we see each other, it's like nothing happened, like we were close all the time. I think that is the most beautiful feeling you can have.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Thats great you still remain close!
@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I have graduated in high school for almost 7 years now and so far I'm still in touch with my h.s friends. I mean those friends i chose to stay with me and i guess i was luckily coz they let me stay in their life. At first, I felt like we are drifting away since we were starting to create a new life in college but every one of us made sure to give time for each other regardless of our busy schedules specially that we were in different school. I learned that every person in our life is there for a reason. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself what feels right for you. You may feel happy or bad about cutting your friends loose, however if you are not really happy with where you are and who you are spending time with-It's time for change. It takes a lot of courage but sooner or later it has to be done and you have to let go.
• United States
19 Jun 12
I am happy for you that you got to keep your friends. Maybe when mine have there lives settle down we will talk again.