how to align myself

I have problems saying no to people as well, and because of that I always find that I am too busy to get everything done that I would like to be able to in my life. I get asked to help people out at the last minute, and I will always drop everything if there is a chance that I could make things a little bit easier for somebody. But I know that I need to learn how to say no because it is now getting to the stage where it is having a bit of an impact on my relationship, and I just have to be careful that I don't lose my partner because I can't say no to anybody else.

Me too, it is quite hard for me to say No to someone...that's why i used to open a topic ask people advices when i had a small amount of money for living but there is a guy who asked to borrow money. Right now i know We should think about ourselves first then then think of another.

It's okay to be giving and helpful as long as you don't end up being resentful or feeling that others' take advantage of your kindness. It's called "being a doormat" for others if you allow them to a walk on you. You demonstrate self love and self respect when you decide to say NO to certain things. If others' ask you for something you can always tell them you'll think about it and let them know if you're interested in fulfilling their request. It's a good idea to give yourself time to decide if you want to "give" or if you're feeling obligated to meet their demands and expectations. Once you learn to set your boundries other people will learn that they can no longer walk on you.

Hi nita welcome to mylot community. I was like you earlier and by hard practice and many bitter experience I changed myself a lot. I used to help a person whom I thought to be friend. But she totally used me which started to change me almost. I understand it is hard to accept or follow. Only when you think it is they are using you, you will try to change. I read an inspirational message somewhere. It is to say 'NO'. We have to learn to say 'no' to people. It will avoid harming ourselves from doing those acts which we wont like to do. You have to do it, or else it will harm you more emotionally than in any other way. Take care.

Love is doing good to someone even if that someone doesn't do any good thing to you. You're a kind person. You are not abused, i guess. You are blessed with that kind of attitude. Only few people are given with such kind of behaviour and you are the chosen one so don't waste it. Even though, you can always say no as long as you know it won't satisfy you anymore. It won't make any sense at all if you are forced to do so. Being nice is so much far in being forced.