I had to learn that everything is not going to be perfect.

United States
June 19, 2012 1:16am CST
Being a mother i want everything to be in order,so i missed out on alot of things worry if ,all things were in their place at all times,if the kids always had what they needed,making sure my husband had everything he needed.In doing all of this i forgot about me,till one day i sat back and noticed that if all the dishes were not done on time no one notice,if i didn't have dinner ready on time no one cared. I think when we become mother we get so busy with everything that we forget to take care of our self,when you just take a step back you will see that your kids,husband,family and friends love you just as you are and everything will not be perfect.So take so time out for you enjoy live with your family.
7 responses
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
20 Jun 12
Nothing is perfect and no one is perfect also so that we can't ask another person should be perfect. We should live with it and make an imperfect part becomes a part of our life.
@Ixodoi (445)
• Israel
20 Jun 12
I agree that nothing is perfect and we shouldn't kill ourselves trying to make it perfect. Yet, I don't think that we *should* accept imperfect into our lives as a fact and just know that it is impossible to do better. We should do our best and try to make things as good as possible. However, later we must be able to live with the results and we shouldn't kill ourselves keep trying to improve it. When I noticed that I can't be the perfect mom and perfect employee I compromise for being less than perfect. Yet, I do my best in each area.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
25 Jun 12
Ya, you are right...you do your best in each area. it is perfect already...
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
Being a mother is really hard... thats why i salute all mothers that are working hard for their family.. i salute you maam. but also dont forget to treat your self...
@Bhebelen14 (5206)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Yes, everything is not perfect but as wife and a mother we have the right to seat back and relax. Being a wife and a mother was very hard because your the light if the house were all the things and people in the house depending on you but we should realized that were a human being need to pause for a while. I think you should go out and relax, give yourself a reward for the job well done in maintaining the house properly, go to the salon to pamper yourself. Even though were busy taking care of our family we need also to think and take care of ourselves.
@ShyBear88 (18148)
• United States
19 Jun 12
For me I never just keep doing and doing. I have a 17 month old and in 13 weeks or so I'm having my second baby. I never try to do it all ever I feel once your married and even when your not married but living with someone that it's shared everything meaning all the way down to house chores. I don't care if my husband has been working all day but when he gets home dinner is never done there is no real set time for it but it's always before 9pm which is our daughters bed time. Yes I'm home all day and I could probably clean the whole apartment when I'm not pregnant, but I never do it. I'll clean here and there but I make hubby help out as soon as he gets home or as soon as our daughter is in bed. I don't like perfect I like imperfect things. Nothing every really has to be in it's place or have an order. I like a little mess or I go crazy in my house.
• United States
19 Jun 12
I think if you strive to be perfect you are going to be very disappointed. No one is perfect, even if they think they are. I think you should work hard at being the best mom and wife you can be, but not perfect.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hi there! I will really agree with you. When we became a mother we became selfless and the words me, I and myself will be out of your vocabulary. I am a working mom and most of the times I feel guilty being not able to take care of my son full time. That is why I see to it that when I am at home, I'll give all my spare time to him. Thus, I forget about myself most of the times. I am so busy with my work, my husband and my son so I forget about me and my me time. I know I should take care of myself too and if possible have a me time because I need that too. I need to be refreshed and healthy so I could take care of my family also.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Nothing's perfect, and the good thing is that we are able to learn and realize the value of everything around us including family, friends, etc. Priorities would really influence our way of life as we need to focus on these depending on its importance, and probably having time for yourself should be one of the top priorities as this would seem to make you more aware of yourself as a person, of what you want in life, and this would eventually make you a better person.