Got the call but it didn't make me feel the way I expected...
By courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
United States
June 26, 2012 9:19am CST
After a month without talking to him, my boyfriend was finally allowed to call. He talked to his mom first and then called me. Throughout the day I thought of so many things I wanted to say or ask but once I got the call things were so different.
My boyfriend went on and on about everything they've done and I barely got to talk. He asked me what I've been up to and that he thinks about me a lot and misses me. I started to tear up a little on the phone and he asked why I was crying and if was happy or sad. I told him it was both and he asked why I was said and I told him that it's sad he's not here.
That phone call didn't help me at all. His voice sounded deeper and different, he said he gained 15 pounds of muscle, and I just don't know how to feel. I think I'm just scared that since everything's so different now, that I'm worried he'll be different too. He said next week he'll get about an hour of phone time. Yesterday I only got to talk to him for 5 minutes and it made me feel worse than I did without a phone call.
There's so much I wanted to say and ask and I didn't get to say any of it. Even he said he thought of things to say to me but once he was on the phone he froze up. It's been so long without talking that I really hope things haven't changed. He seemed to be the same, he talked on and on, but about everything he's done. I just wish I had more time to say what I had wanted to say. Maybe next week I'll be able to
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
28 Jun 12
Hello courtknee525
I am sorry to hear that the telephone call didn't go as you had expected. I know how difficult that must be on you.
Remember, your boyfriend has a lot going on right now, and the two of you didn't have much time to talk, so of course things went by in a bit of a blur. I imagine that he has his own set of worries about you since he's been away from you. After all, he's stuck in one place, and you're out in the real world. He may also be nervous worrying that you may have changed or met someone while he's away.
I am hoping the best for the two of you as you await his next telephone call.
Peace
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
29 Jun 12
That's definitely something he worries about. I could tell he was also excited about all the things he's been doing and i'm sure he was excited to make a call to me, he did that a lot the first week he was gone. This week he'll have more time and I'm hoping to be able to say more to him
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
29 Jun 12
I hope that this week's call brings both of you a measure of comfort.
@syramoon (654)
• United States
26 Jun 12
First of all *hugs*
. I lived with my best friend while her husband with through basic training, so I know how hard it is for the person waiting at home. She had the same problem, but they got through it. And when he got to come home from basic briefly they were okay again. I hope you do get to talk to him longer next time. All I can say is to take it one day at a time, and try to spend time with your friends and family if you can, because I know how large the gap is, while they're gone. Best wishes.
. I lived with my best friend while her husband with through basic training, so I know how hard it is for the person waiting at home. She had the same problem, but they got through it. And when he got to come home from basic briefly they were okay again. I hope you do get to talk to him longer next time. All I can say is to take it one day at a time, and try to spend time with your friends and family if you can, because I know how large the gap is, while they're gone. Best wishes. @courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Thank you :) It's definitely been hard but it's almost over, I get to see him graduate in exactly a month. I think things will be the same between us, I just can't help but worry. He's still really sweet to me in his letters and he said he has a surprise and a big question when he sees me next. I think that being away from me has really made him realize what he has with me.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I don't really think he'll be too different. If anything, he's actually gotten sweeter to me during our time apart. He says really nice things in his letters and I even think he's thinking about asking me to marry him. He kisses all the letters and he told me that he says I love you and goodnight to me every night. I think he was just excited to have a phone call and couldn't wait to tell me about everything.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Jun 12
I am glad he called you. And I'm sorry that things were so different when he called. I am not trying to worry you or make you think bad things but I want to be honest with you. The military absolutely changes people. My brother was the most emotional guy I ever knew before he joined the army. He came back from basic completely different. He was tough, never cried anymore like he did, was not as affectionate with his girlfriend, just a totally different person.
But, my sister in law stuck by him anyway and she fell in love with the new person he had become. I cannot sit here and lie to you. I know it will make you sad and I feel terrible for that but everyone deserves the truth. The army changes people, I don't care what anyone else says. They teach you to be tough, not to cry, they tell you that you don't need your mother as much, if you show any emotion they will call you sissy and names like that. So of course any guy is going to start being tougher and less emotional...
I truly hope your boyfriend will be the same person as when he left. I have just seen what they did to my brother and it broke all of our hearts. His girlfriend and all of his family.
I hope in his and your case that I am SO wrong. I pray that I am wrong for you and not all guys change.
I hope in his and your case that I am SO wrong. I pray that I am wrong for you and not all guys change. @courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I'm hoping he doesn't change either. He's always been really sweet towards me but not overly emotional to the point where he cries. He's always been a tough, strong person but he's always had a sweet spot for me and I hope it doesn't change.
He really wasn't too different on the phone, his voice was a little different but that's probably because they work out all the time and now he has extra testosterone. He told me a few times that he thinks about me all the time and he misses me. In his letters, he still tells me sweet things and he's the exact same person. I really don't think he'll change, if anything, the time away from each other has made him even sweeter to me and I think he's really starting to think about asking me to marry him. I know that in a month when I see him at graduation I'll be able to tell more. But from his letters, I feel that he really misses me. lol He even said in one of his letters that he says I love you and goodnight to me every night. Sometimes I don't know how he's in the army and still acts like a mushball to me..he even kisses his letters and circles the spot.
I think I just overreacted to his call. He was probably just excited to talk to someone non-military that he just wouldn't stop talking about everything he's been doing. I just want to say what I had wanted to say, maybe i'll get my chance the next phone call
