How much jealousy is enough?

Girls are always jealous but i am shocked because you have been together for four years. Jealousy is only for new relationships because of adjustment period. Jealousy is a sign of love but sometimes too much love is not good. Im not talking about obsession but im glad you can handle all of this because it easily gets in my nerves. You should tell her all about this, in a relationship we have to accept but make sure that she shows an effort to reduce this kind of attitude. Good luck !!

Sometimes I got jelous with my husbands friends because they very close, they together during weekdays and planned to each other on weekends so sometimes I think that he might want to be with his friends than to be with me. There are times that I dont get jelous because I am more on insecure because lots of beautiful, slim and young around us and my husband look at them of course and i wanted to be like them too so that many people can recognized me too. Usually when i got jelous with someone I never discuss it to my husband, I just kept it by myself because I avoid any unnecessary arguments which leads us to a big fight and although jealous is normal but if its too much it can be harmful in a relationship.

I think she should seek help, it's a little too much. I was bothering my hubby about his annoying ex because she was actually seeking a fight with me, but I stopped with that like in the first 8 months, the time she remained like this haunting among us cause that's what she is. It's been also 4 years (congratulations!) and she stills wants to talk to him...

My jealously level is pretty much next to none. I don't get upset if my husband looks at other women or thinks they are good looking. I know pretty much every girl he knows and most of them are his ex's and we are all good friends. I know my husband in my heart is a good man and would never cheat or anything on me. He has seen what that does to people. He doesn't mine me looking at other guys or talking to them either because he knows I wouldn't cheat either. But I think I would handle it okay all the way up to if we kept fighting about it all of the time.

I am also a jealous type of girl. But I have a different story behind my jealousy, every person especially couples have that. Well, mine is that my guy did something before that made me super jealous that until now I can still see and feel that he still does until now. Meaning he did not learn from our past experience as lovers. So the reason now why I am jealous is because he is not learning, he does things over and over and hurts me in ways he said he doesn't know because another issue that comes in is about being sensitive, no woman would get jealous if you just treat her well, make her feel like she's the only person around when you're talking especially in public places, because remember, it is always rude not to look at in the eyes of the one you are conversing with. So we women, notice just a slight movement in your eyes if we are talking. So just be sensitive and she might not get too much jealous now.

Hmmm...jealousy is a hard one. first of all, how do you feel when she chats with another man? How would you feel if she had photos of male pin ups in her bedroom? If the answer is, that you'd be o.k. with it, then I think you have to speak with her. If, however, you would get jealous, then that is a different story. For example, is she going out of her way to stay away from other guys in front of you? If so, she is showing her love for you by making you feel as if you are her one and only. If that is the case, she would be very hurt if you were not voluntarily doing the same thing. So, here it is important to watch her, to see how she performs in said situations. If she works hard not to make you jealous, if she does not flirt around with other men just to 'set you off', and believe me, there are women who do just this. then the problem could be she expects you to do the same. However, there is always the chance that she is a controlling and possessive person, who just wishes to control every aspect you do, and will use everything in her power to do it, and that includes guilt. Only you know the truth to this situation, only you know the ramifications of the actions. Only you can judge. Hope this helped a bit. Take Care :D

My hubby and I have been together for 12 years total 7 years married. Before we started dating I hung out with a lot of guy friends and still do because most girls cause too much drama for me lol. He trusts me completely and does not get jealous which I love cause I would never do anything to hurt him. I completely trust him too. The only time he or I gets jealous is when I have the day off from work or vice versa. Jealously can cause a lot of stress in a relationship and I couldn't handle that. I have dated jealous boyfriends in the past and I kicked them to the curb!!

Hi. Emotional jealousy will always arise between couples be it in long term or short term relationships. Especially in a new relationship, being jealous is common as one is still feeling insecure or fear that the relationship might not work. In older relationships, sometimes jealousy can strike because of anger. Angry when your partner who has been with you for many years suddenly pay attention to others or talk nicely to others, but not to you hehe. It's common right when sometimes you don't realize you raise your voice when you thought it's okay or you help others to carry their bags, but not your partner. All those small things can actually become an issue and sometimes, it can hurt your partner deeply. Being married for 5 years, I admit, there were moments when I couldn't handle jealousy and it's quite stressful where it overpowered my trust, but I'm also thankful for each time I feel jealous I learn to reflect and see why it happens or am I over reacting... I think too much of jealousy can make a relationship turn sour. So, communication with your partner is fundamental. Discuss any underlying issues that are not discussed in the first place.

I am extremely jealous. But lately I have learned to control it, and not to show it, though inside me there's a hurricane every time my boyfriend talks to some other girls. But I prefer to hide it, and I do it quite well, because it might be disturbing for him. On the other hand, he is not the jealous type, and I preferred he was. I truly believe that jealousy is the best sign that your partner loves you very much, and he/ she does not want to lose you.