My mood is really off.. i dont know what to do?
@goharthegreat (51)
India
July 7, 2012 1:45pm CST
My parents gave me money for my education up to my class tenth.
After that he gave no pocket money or anything else with me. i did my own job and gave my own fee of tuition of higher college and now i am doing my Job and Masters as well..
My university is very expensive and i pay every month almost 80% of my salary in my university.
than after this i had loved a girl for last 6 years. I kept telling my parents to marry me with that girl but there is a tradition here in my country that when you marry you have to right some security in the name of Girl, for example some part of the house for the girl. But they didn't. and that girl left me alone..
Now she has no contact with me.
after that i was really unhappy all the time and my parents engaged me with a girl in April.
ONE MORE THING
Here in my country the tradition is very different from other western countries where as soon as boys and girls are adult parents tell them to get out and earn your money.
Here parents give complete support till you are married. they pay you for your studies till you have done masters, and then after you get married they leave you that now you earn your money and live your life.
but now as i have told that i have earned before i had done masters. and also trying to save some money.
now i am almost 26 years old and the old girl friend keeps coming in my mind and i am getting hurt day by day. what should i do?
i have told my parents that please i dont want to wait any more if you want me to get married this is the time for it.
but my parents now keep telling me that if you want to get married PAY us Rs 2 Lack
almost 2500 U.S.D.
which is a very big amount to earn.
what should i do? i am fed up of my life.
Please tell me what should i do? tell me?
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4 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
8 Jul 12
I wish I could help you but I really don't know what to say since my culture is very different than yours. I don't understand why they would want money from you before allowing you to get married, unless they do not have much money to put the wedding on.
@goharthegreat (51)
• India
10 Jul 12
Hello Winterose, thanks for your response
but there is a hell of a difference in your culture and our culture..
regards
gohar
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@aliqasim94 (255)
• Pakistan
8 Jul 12
Aslam.o.alaikum Gohar dont be frustrated as frustration is one of the biggest sin in Islam.Just believe in Allah.Allah will meet you with right person for you.May Allah bless you and you live prosperous and happy life.
@goharthegreat (51)
• India
10 Jul 12
walikum asallam, i believe in ALLAH my dear brother, but the thing which is teasing me is that when they say JAHEEZ IS HARAM why do they try to force guys to right this and that for security of women??
is it HALAL?? its also prohibited, only Haq e mehar is allowed, it must not be too much... but they only follow that islam which is good for them,,,
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
7 Jul 12
Hi, Goharthegreat, don't be so sad! You are a brave young man, you've done so much in your life and you are only 26 years old. I know that in your country you have strong traditions and bonds with the family. But as I see, you can be already an independent person, you could live on your own. Why don't you try to do it and make a family? You should also try to forget that girl who has left you. I wish you to find another girl who will love you and will work with you. If two people love each other they fight together to make a family, this should be a common responsibility. So don't be sad and go on with your life, you can do it.
@goharthegreat (51)
• India
10 Jul 12
Hello Fannitia, you are right
i am trying to do the same too.. but here marrying someone is very complicated you know you have to go through a proper channel with your parents than you have to write security for girl before marriage and every thing is to be done with respect to tradition.. too much money is required for marriage here my friend...
and i trying to save as much i can.. because i am studying right now as well. i am DOING MBA its my last semester and i am looking for M.S as well or may be PHD. but that also requires lots of money.. i am earning but i am unable to do all the things at once.. i needed their support which i didnt get from them
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Hello goharthegreat
You are in quite a dilemma, my friend.
My advice to you is this: You will never be happy in life as long as you are living according to other people's expectations of you.
Peace
@goharthegreat (51)
• India
10 Jul 12
yes, you are right.. please pray for me that what ever happens is good for me..
take care
