How would you treat others people who are rude to you?

Philippines
July 12, 2012 5:37am CST
As I am pissed with other people in our workplace who emphasizes that they are of higher positions and should be look up to, I came across to this sayings a friend posted in FB: "Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rue to you - not because they are nice but you are". This made me ask myself "Can I?" Well maybe some time when I have enough time to cool down but not now definitely. A position is just a position what matters is how they would treat their subordinates. I remembered two or three of my former direct supervisors who taught us to treat everyone even the one with the lowest rank/position level nicely. "Respect them if you want them to respect you. You don't have to brag your position because they already know what you are in your workplace but instead mold them to be one of you because what they become in the future reflects the kind of boss that you are". Once she got her promotion she gathered all her friends who happens to be her soon subordinates. Tells them that its just a position and whatever happens she would still be their friend and will treat them the same way as what they were before. A week came and she started to complain to her boss that she would resign because her staff do this and did not do that. She even came to the time that she asks them "WHO AM I? DID YOU KNOW I am this and that in this office?". Well I'm glad that I was not in her department or I would be out the first week after her promotion.
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@else22 (4319)
• India
12 Jul 12
You will always find yourself among people who are rude or even hostile to you.They are everywhere.They are intolerably proud of their position,physical strength or money.I have come across many of them and I tried to be as polite to them as I could be,but they were too recalcitrant to change.Finally I had to change myself.I made it a point to maintain a distance from them.This I did not because I was less strong or less resourceful than or afraid of them,but because I did not want to get into an unnecessary brawl and waste my time.I distanced myself from them.This worked and I got rid of them. Such people are actually positioned at heights they don't deserve.
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
I totally agree with you about those people who are put to a higher positions when they do not deserve it. I'm not even in the position to say these about her but she just proves me right. Good for you that you can still be civil to those who are rude to you. For me, I tried to as civil when I have to since there are times that I cannot avoid her but that's all because we are of the same company and I do not want any conflicts between us specially in the workplace.
@else22 (4319)
• India
17 Jul 12
You did the right thing.After all you won't be able to make her mend her ways.Instead,if you had tried to do so,the move would have boomeranged on you.Better avoid such uncivilized persons.They are actually lower than the positions they are in.
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
You are right that you should treat your subordinates with respect in order to respect you too as their immediate supervisor. Maybe the one you are talking did not respect her subordinates since they did not respect her. Remeber what you said that she is just one week rom her promotion but she really acts like that. On the other hand, you mentioned that her subbordinates are her friends, maybe this is one of the reason why they did not follow her because they treat her as still their friends at their level and not as their immediate supervisor. Good day!
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Yes they are friends before because they have been working for the last 5 years until she got her promotion. I have known them since I have been in this company for almost 7 years now but on a different department. They were on the same position/level before. When it comes to work I know that her subordinates do what they are supposed to do. Comes to work 30 minutes earlier and the last to leave the office.
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
you are right, the other one might not yet absorbed that she was already on higher osition that's why she is not givign respect to them. However, as supervisor, you should not remind your subordinates who you are and what is your position in the company. She can say it in a nice way or not in obvious way.
@ARIES1973 (9437)
• Legaspi, Philippines
13 Jul 12
If they can not do the right thing, at least you are trying to make good and treat everybody fairly. Just remember there is always a harvest time.
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
Thanks ARIES I really believe on harvest time. Right now her subordinates goes out for lunch together, took the 15 minutes break together while she was being left alone in the office and have her lunch break alone unlike before when they hardly goes out with out the other. She might have sensed the difference. I just hope it will not be too late when she realizes what she had lost.
12 Jul 12
For my experience, there is a schoolmate who hates me a lot but the fact is I never met him before. The reason why he hates me is because I look ugly in his eyes. Even though he always says some bad bad thing to my friends or classmates, I never treat him badly. I am still myself, no matter what others done, all you need to do is be yourself. I think you should be open mind, whatever other done or said, all you need to do is be patient and gentle. After all, luck will come to you.
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
It does not really matter how you look to others as long as you did not do anything wrong to them. No need for you to worry why he hated you when you don't even know him before or have done anything wrong. Thanks for sharing and you are right about being open minded. I just hope she too will soon open up her mind and come to her senses soon for she is losing her friends that's been with her for years.
@riyauro (6431)
• India
12 Jul 12
such type of people are proud of themselves. but one should not be proud, or else one day you will be put to disgrace. Don't bother about them ..just ignore the people who are rude to you cos time will pay them..all heaven and hell are both here.. I would like to share an intant in my life, one day when i went back home during Uni break, it was school day for primary and secondary school. my mum was a kindergarten teacher then and she comes home at 1pm. me and my granny had come back from town and just went to my aunt's place which is on the way to my house. because we were sitting down on the floor, when i got up little tummy of mine showed up. and we were all ladies there. i dress fine, no sleevless and no mini and tummy covered. other neighbor aunty was also there, she saw that little part of my tummy showed while i got up to go home with my granny cos it was time for my mum to come back from work. My aunt started saying, ohhhh see your tummy showing, you dont have manners, this is what you must be doing in the city.. all that... I was very depressed..her words had hurt me, i had not done anything wrong. I told my mum and she said just ignore her, you know you are right, dont bother wat she says, I God is watching, that same day her daughter ran away with some boy, and she started crying out out. we went to help, my bro helped them find her daughter. Am writing here and tears have filled my eyes..god is their to do the justice to those who are rude to you.
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
I understand the feeling when you are put to a shame on things that you did not even do or intentionally done. And yes it is better to ignore them than to get back at them. It feels good when you are at peace with others whom you will encounter often and is healthy for you too.
@Fishmomma (11617)
• United States
12 Jul 12
Life is to short, so I would suggest just being nice and avoid the person when you can at work. Do your work and don't worry about this person. I know its easier said then done.
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Yes fishmomma it is easier said than done. I try to avoid as much as I can to avoid conflicts. As much as possible we avoid talking about her ways of dealing with people who are of lower position levels.
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
hi bluerain, I talked to our client once I asked him what position you have here he told me position is just a ranking but for me everyone is just the same what matters is you do your work and you always stay your feet on the ground I was amazed when he told me this then later on I found out he is a manager but he doesn't look like one, he don't act like one it seems he is just simple man who works. You can rarely encounter this kind of person some people get blinded by their success and this is so sad. Just be broad minded and think how lucky you are that you are able to understand such person. happy mylotting
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Hi bhabycatch your client is much the same with my boss, when there's no special occasion he looks casual just the same with the rest of us. We can only see him in suits and tie when he has a board meeting or going out to meet some clients. And he treats us equally not like that we are hi subordinates but just like his friends. Only we are very careful and sees to it that we met all the deadlines and deliverable on time.
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
there are people who will treat you that way because they are insecure. it's not that they think that they are better. i have deal with people like this but then again i did try very hard to be civil. in the end i quit my job because i can't take it any more.
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Yes I agree with you luntian_grace, I also got a feeling about her thinking she is far more better than her subordinates. But it should not get into her head just because she got a promotion. I also understand why you quit. I would do just the same if I'mm with her department.