Odds are against us?

July 20, 2012 11:04am CST
Hello friends! Before I started dating my current beau I found out that his mom was really cool about having his ex coming over to the house. Also at the time , his mom and I have been introduced and talked , even had dinner the three of us but just friends at the time plus I would come over and chill there after class. After we started dating, I realized we had been hanging out less and less at his house. Then one day, he told me it was because I have a different religion and his mom did not allow it, his whole family didnt. Because in the past, his uncle converted and it made a whole lot of drama then. He says his mom likes me a lot but told him not to date me. He even told me upfront that he will never convert because he is pretty devout. We have been in a serious relationship now for almost a year and his mom knows nothing. It does not seem like a big deal to me at the moment because I am still very young, but religion and mothers blessing pose a great deal of importance especially when next year both of us will be living in different continents. Have you ever been in a situation like this? How did it work out when the odds are against you?
1 response
@samd87 (327)
20 Jul 12
I haven't been in a relationship like this but I can imagine it must be quite hard, especially for him, having to keep your relationship from his mom. And after a year it must be quite serious for both of you, you obviously feel allot for each other. I think that it would be a good idea to tell his mom but maybe before you do talk about your future together, things could change between you when you move apart. If you both agree its for keeps them I think he needs to tell his mom.
21 Jul 12
Hello friend! Thank you for your response. It is true that we both do feel allot for each other and I can only imagine how he is feeling as well! I feel optimistic about this and will have to figure it out if this is what we want for the rest of our lives. Have you ever had a serious relationship?
@samd87 (327)
23 Jul 12
Yes I am in a serious relationship now and have been for the past 6 years, we have two children, but I have never been in a situation like your's so can only imagine how hard it must be.