Feeling of forcing oneself to be happy

@vycess (1590)
Saudi Arabia
July 28, 2012 4:11am CST
Do you feel like this? I don't want to pretend and be myself but I just need to be happy and positive even inside I'm hurting and sad. It's hard but I always try because people around me will ask me why, they will avoid me because I'm too negative. So I need to be happy........
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@riyauro (6428)
• India
28 Jul 12
When I feel this way i try to be alone more, because I don't like people questioning me on my sadness. That brings unnecessary trouble to me. So I avoid it.
• New Zealand
28 Jul 12
i agree with you riyauro,i just avoid people when i feel like this,because they are not there to listen,they are just there to get something from you to gossip
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
hi, i did that before when my lived in partner broke our relationship,and of course i was alone when he left me,so in the front of my family i need to show that i am happy even my partner left but it was really hard to do,so when i was alone again in my room,i cant avoid to think of him and cried again.
@inertia4 (27679)
• United States
26 Aug 12
If you feel sad or down, there is something bothering you. You cannot force yourself to be happy. I have tried that and it does not work. You need to find out what it is that is making you sad and get help for it. Sometimes people do become depressed for no reason. Or at least it seems that way. I know all about that. I have been in therapy now for a long time. It seems to help to a point, but I would like to get to the root cause of why I feel this way. I know my marriage breaking up and the evil ex being a thorn in my butt is not helping matters any. Maybe its the kids I feel for and worry about. But maybe you should see a therapist. They can help you find the reason you feel like that.
• Indonesia
29 Jul 12
Don't force youself to be happy. But let yourself feel the happines naturally. Forcing something that not exist is fake, you force yourself to be happy then its just fake happiness. Life is not a drama where you are the actor who should acting as happy personality all the time. Dont think something from negative side 1st, but always think about the positive side. What we feel or we think will affect our aura. WHenever we feel sad, mad, or in bad time and reflect negatives aura out of urself, people will walking away from you. None wants to stay close to you with your negativeness cos people dont want to take part in it. People wants to be happy. When you forcing yourself to be happy you just forcing yourself to feel more suffer. What you should do is express youself in balance emotion. I mean when u r sad or had a bad day, you can just tell people around you what you have going through that lead you in that situation, if they give feedback or some support take it and leave the sadness cos people still care about you, they want you to be happy. And when you feel happy, you can share it aswell to others, maybe ur happiness can affct others to be happy and Im sure you will really great if some1 tell you that they thank you cos you make them feel happy today. Evrything is balance.
@dreyzars (10)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 12
It's very normal to be pretending to be happy. Like they say, even the happiest man on the planet has his worries. If you have trouble being yourself in front of your friends, it just means they don't understand you enough. Do you have a close friend to go to, and maybe pour out what's bothering you and making you sad? Don't feel bad if you don't have one. I'm facing the same situation too. My friends do not understand me at all, and I'm always just trying not to hurt them, without realising that I'm hurting myself at the same time. I tried to be selfish, but I couldn't because that is not me. So here I am, keeping pain inside, day-by-day, growing stronger and just living life as it is. Have patience my friend. Time might just change things.
@Shavkat (63616)
• Philippines
28 Jul 12
There are some people don't want to see negativity. But we can force ourselves to conceal the feelings, especially if we feel so blue.
28 Jul 12
I think we are feeling the same way. I'm trying to be happy and most of the time I'm pretending that I'm happy. This is because of what I am currently experiencing now. I think it is more better than letting people see you miserable. :-)