how would men feel if they are the ones being cheated by their gf's or wives...

@kayoks (26)
Philippines
July 29, 2012 5:54pm CST
my husband is always out on his day offs instead of spending his free time with me and his kids, then it came to my thought that maybe my husband is having an affair AGAIN... now im thinking of getting even.. how would this cheaters feel if they are the one being cheated...
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@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
A mistake cannont be corrected using another mistake. If you are doubt that your husband is cheating on you, talk to him sincerely and ask about it. Cheating your husband is a very wrong move. As what you said, you are not yet sure about this one. What if you cheat him but your doubt about cheating you is not true? How do you also feel about it? Sometimes, it is really much painful to men being cheated rather than women. Maybe because their ego are being affected.
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@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
29 Jul 12
Correct! Sometimes, we have to reassess ourselves also. Like, how do we treat our husband? Do we still make effort so that we appear to be more beautiful in his eyes? Are we still sweet to him? These are only some of the things that we should take into consideration when getting married.
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Your point is good Aries. Maybe, there are something missing not only as ife but as husband too. This issue can be greatly resolved thru making a sincere talk to each other. Try to be open to your partner. If you feel that you are cheated, just tell him and wait for the answer not by cheating him also.
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@kayoks (26)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
the world is not fair... why does women have to bear all the pain when it comes to relationship... and speaking of making yourself beautiful in his eyes, "i am not ugly, i am physically fit, i do 5k jogging twice a week. and base on my friends comments " they keep on asking why i fell for him when he is not really good looking". but i really do not care if he is good looking or not, because what i fell in love with is his kindness and sincerity. now it has all change... i just can't understand why? and when it comes to bed, well he doesn't ask for it a lot anymore, now we only have it like once a month... he even gave me an STI last three years ago, i have to bear all the sufferings and undergo treatments... my goodness, i just really want to hurt his ego.... the face.... grrrrr.
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@BabyCheetah (1913)
• Australia
30 Jul 12
Well stooping down to his level and cheating isn't going to help the situation. If you say cheating again and he's done it before, chances are he is doing it again but you need to be 100% sure first. Once you're sure get a divorce. Take your half and demand he pays child support. You need to get away from that situation!
@kayoks (26)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
we don't have divorce here in our country we only have annulment... i have always thought of getting out of the situation but im afraid our kids will be affected.
• Australia
30 Jul 12
Wow really? That's interesting but if he is stuffing around it's best to get out and take the kids. You said that on his days off he doesn't even spend time with the kids anyway, they need someone who will be there for them.
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
30 Jul 12
Hello there! Do you have a full time job? There are times that women who stayed at home are thinking of so many things against their partner. When we got married, we should give our trust to them. Although, there maybe some instances that this trust had been lost due to some mistakes committed in the past, yet we should work out to keep our family together. Thinking of getting even, will surely ruin your family life. Just take a look at our self first before making any decision. Maybe we also have to reconsider our actions and behavior. Men usually want somebody who is sweet, caring and pretty sexy. Act like one to him. Act like you are a mistress to him. By doing that, I don't know if he will still look for somebody else.
@kayoks (26)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
hi there aries. yes i have a job, im a nurse... i like your comment. i have probably done everything for him already, he didn't even remember our 5th wedding anniversary last 28... before we got married i already gave my full trust on him but after two years of marriage he cheated on me and he himself confirmed it... i just want to let him know how it feels to be cheated...
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@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
30 Jul 12
Well, he should feel lucky. I know nurses are the sweetest women. But still, I would not suggest that you do that thing. Try talking to him first about this matter. Maybe you can settle everything through a heart to heart talk. But if he still continue with his extra curricular activities, well, leave that son of a b*** man behind. Make everything legal. But doing something like what you are planning is a big No No.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
Just don't get even coz he will get very angry. Don't make the same mistake. If I were you, you should just leave him if he is cheating.
@kayoks (26)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
well the thing is i really want to hurt his ego... the option of leaving him is not that easy, we have two kids, i don't want my kids getting affected.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
I understand. I've done that! Honestly, when my husband cheated on me 2 years ago, I wanted to let him feel what I felt, and I did it! But, it didn't help especially to my daughter. My daughter suffered a lot after that coz we really broke up for awhile coz he got so angry and couldn't accept me anymore. Just think about it for awhile.
• United States
29 Jul 12
Some men are still growing up even though he has kids of his own. Did you marry young,were you preggy when u got married. Maybe he feels kind of trapped. Revenge is not the answer because you would hate your self and it would show to the kids. If you seperate the you can do what you want. with a clear conscience.
@kayoks (26)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
you have a point. but if he feels that he is trapped or feel that he is not ready, he shouldn't have proposed to me in the first place... this is not fair....
• United States
30 Jul 12
But what you girls have to understand is he was in"LUST" and he wanted to make love to you. You were in love so you said ok.
@Jshean20 (14373)
• Canada
30 Jul 12
I don't think I could ever forgive someone for cheating on me, it's the worst kind of betrayal. Getting "even" with him is really not going to fix anything. I would say success is the best revenge, you leaving him and moving onto someone who treats you well would be more of a life lesson for him.
• United States
29 Jul 12
men can't take being treated the same way they treat their woman when they are cheating. I know my man would have afit if i were to think about cheating on him. but,I also know this will not make things better if you did cheat on him. when he did it before you should have left. his tail might never have tried it again.