My Attempts - Are they Wasted?
By echoforever
@echoforever (5180)
United States
July 31, 2012 12:01am CST
I am by no means a big contributor to the world. I am just a small individual in this whole world and in the scheme of things. I can not do much to change even my own life because usually I let fear over run me when it comes to change. But for me I am all about small things for the individuals around me that will be consistent and hopefully a future ' life change ' for their individual lives.
For example I have come a long way from who I once was. I used to be a much angrier individual. i would fly off the handle sometimes or even just that anger that I would hold inside - would show on the outside in ways that would make everyone around me miserable. So I am a lot better inside, it shows outside - I hope?
I believe that by me changing, things around me will. Not that I need to force change on others but through the spirit of goodness and of God... within me... things around me will start to change when I can touch them in a more positive way. (I hope this is making sense)
Well for example I have not felt jealousy in areas of my life that I used to etc. I don't get upset about certain things the way that I used to and I am more gentle when trying to correct my nieces (except for some times but less often). I am seeing some things that are changing with these people and things... I may be imagining this but I think it is true.
Do you think my efforts are wasted? Is my own position within myself what is going to help change a situation or must I practically try to force others to change around me?
I hope this post is clear and not too confusing!
6 responses
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
Well, we could not change things around us for our good, that would be manipulating others. If these give you some problems, the best thing is to accept them for what they are instead of changing them. We are different from the others and some will also resist change, so why just accept that fact so you can live a happier life. You don't have to fear change too. Take changes as a challenge, face change because it is the only thing that is constant.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Ah, manipulation is not something I would like to be practicing. I have seen how badly this can go wrong and flip around for you so that you are the one who is hurt. Also I don't agree with trying to make people do things for my benefit, that's their choice.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
31 Jul 12
It is very clear. You have expressed yourself quite well. Your efforts are worth it in that you have felt and noticed a positive change in yourself. Some people do respond to this. You may well be creating change for the better in the world around you. It is a good thing that you are doing. I read something once along those same lines. I can't remember where, but it was very similar to what you are saying. As time goes on I believe you will see more change in the people around you. When you give off positive energy it is felt by others and, like laughter, it can be contagious. As for forcing others to change? Mmmmm....I don't think so. I've tried. Some people are what they are and good or bad you can't change them no matter what you do. By doing what you're doing I think you will find much inner peace. And so, too, may the people around you.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Thanks for the encouragement. I think you are correct that I will soon be feeling better and that it will help change things around me. When I stay positive so will the atmosphere around me I hope.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
There are things we cannot change in our lives and also htey are those we can change it freely and we are accountable for the consequences of our choices. As I can see it, do not push yourself too much by changing some of you. I think, when we have the will and determination, it will come naturally. So there, life is too short, just enjoy our lives, share it with others and strive to be happy and contented. Good luck and thanks.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Yes most of these things are not a "forced" change. I feel that when it is forced then it won't be genuine because then you're just struggling with yourself. The things I've seen have come naturally so far and I don't plan to try and force anything
@debbygirl (213)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
oh no it's not!
Don't worry, i think your just doing the right thing for changing for better.
Things may not change around you but at least you made the first step to it!
and i salute you for doing that.:)
I believe your efforts will not be wasted. In time, you will see the good results of what you choose to do. :)
God bless your good heart!
@Axai2012 (371)
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31 Jul 12
I hear you and I totally understand you. It does make sense. But you cannot make the people change for you. I think you are doing a good job in changing your ways because it will show and manifest on how people will treat you - that is with more respect and love. I've been angry before and take that out to my loveones, inspite of that they're still there for me. and that made me realize that I should change because I am the one who is on the wrong, not them.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
1 Aug 12
I feel the same. Even though our anger can be one of our most strong feelings we shouldn't let it over take us to the point that we show it to those we love in a harmful way. I have done this too many times in the past. Now I am able to control it better most of the time and it makes me feel better when i can.
@sunshine007 (100)
• United States
1 Aug 12
It's the little things that count. Remember that. Loving everyday and living life to its fullest is what life is all about. Yes. It is contagious. Don't expect others to change though. You are seeing things most likely through a different perspective. I always like to hand out rose colored glasses because that's how I see the world. We're only on this planet a very short time and so why sweat the small stuff? Jump in those mud puddles (I'm 55 years young) and I'm not old -- everyone else though is. If I have a bad day I don't dwell on it I embrace it and let it go. Just like Annie "The sun will come out tomorrow bet your bottom dollar they'll be sun -- it's only a day away. So remember every little thing that you do that can brighten up your day or someone else life is not done in vain. Love and kindness is the answer. Spread your love through simple acts of kindness -- it goes along way -- wonderful medicine for your soul. That's what your soul and being one with the universe is all about. Loving life and loving yourself. Don't worry about those around you. Some people grow and move on while others won't. Best of luck to you on your journey of life -- you'll attract like -- that is one of the major laws of life "Laws of Attraction"
