"Pain will leave you, when you let go."

August 2, 2012 4:48am CST
This quote exactly describes what I am feeling. I've just realized that I wanted to break away from my past. I want to set myself free from pain and confusion. My ex boyfriend's family really means a lot to me, especially her mother. I am still in good terms with his mom and aunt after we broke up. Whenever I post status on facebook, they would like it and post some comments sometimes and that makes me happy. But just recently, I can't help getting jealous when his mother posted a comment on a photo of my ex bf together with his new girlfriend. (My ex bf's mom and his new girlfriend are also friends on facebook). I know that it is just so normal, but I just really can't help feeling jealous. It actually hurts. This made me decide to stop connecting with them on facebook. I never unfriended/blocked them, because they might found it out. I just made another account. I don't want them to hear anything from me. I know that I am no longer part of their family and I'm totally out of their lives. I never wanted to this. I actually want to remain connected with them, but I think, doing so will just make it hard for me to move on. I just hate it whenever I feel that tinged of jealousy. I'm not really sure if this is the right and best thing to do. PLEASE HELP ME GUYS! Do I really have to let go of them also?? Do I really have to disconnect from them even we are in good terms??
5 responses
@iamJB7 (123)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
I understand how u feel coz I'm also into that. I saw pictures of my ex-bf with his new gf on my wall. It really makes me hurt. In order not to be connected with him anymore it came up to my mind that I have to unfriend him. But I was afraid that he will find out and think that I still have a feelings for him. I didn't create another account instead I keep on adding people on facebook eventhough I don't know them. I wanted to have lots of friends on facebook so that I won't be able to read his post. Having thousands of friends on facebook makes my wall crowded with them and not with him.
@Jshean20 (14373)
• Canada
2 Aug 12
Well picturing myself in your situation, I would have to cut off contact with his family members in order to move on. I wish I could say differently because it's too bad that you have to lose a good friendship, but if the jealousy is affecting you it might only get worse in time. Imagine if your ex decides to marry this person, I'm sure you don't want to see the wedding photos posted. Maybe you should just be honest and tell that that you'd like to keep contact but it's hurtful to hear/ see things about your exes past, maybe then you can communicate somewhere other than facebook.
@GemmaR (8526)
2 Aug 12
It is very hard when you break up with someone who you're still in love with, as you have to try to let go but it isn't as simple as that. I was in love with somebody for four years when he wasn't in love with me, and it was very hard to be able to let go, but at the end of the day I just knew that it was something I was going to have to get my head around. Now, I am very happy that he is out of my life, but that doesn't mean that it was any easier at the time. If anything, it was one of the hardest times that I have been through in my life.
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
pain will leave you, when you let go? i will be if you are the one you let it reaim in your mind and heart, and hate is also there. i and i wish and pray that one day it will be gone. bec. hate or pain is like the give you stress. and unhappy. Help us God to let it go even i take years. and to find new love, and relationship i will help to recover the pain. but it sometimes i will remain the pain but it will go away but for how long.
@riyauro (6430)
• India
2 Aug 12
yes you should not be in any connection with them if it is hurting and affecting you. It is natural that you will feel jealous and you should get away from them. They are happy in life and have moved on, then why should you suffer. Move on with your life because you will meet many people like this and the you can not carry them with you forever. have to let go of them, Remember this, you meet people for a reason, season and a life time. This just was a season that they came in your life. let go and be at peace.