How to approach a stranger?
• United States
3 Aug 12
I know this may sound very cliche but just do it. Believe me, it's hard, it sucks but it works. I work in retail and I have to talk to strangers all the time, just doing my job that I get paid for makes my hands shake and my forehead bead into sweat, but over the years it has been getting easier. My hubby helped me too by making me go do things by myself, with out my cell phone (so I couldn't call some one like my mom to calm me down). He made me go shopping in stores I wasn't familiar with so that I had ask for things, and call to pay bills, fix issues to make me talk to complete strangers for things that needed to get done. It worked, and helped a lot. Now we play games when we go out- and I even do it alone, just make eye contact with some one and smile. Genuinely smile. And normally the person will smile back. From there you can talk to them, start with "Hi" or just know that you brightened some ones day by smiling and walk on. That one simple exorcize helps getting past the wall you've put up around yourself, and it actually makes you feel good. Now we've turned it into a game by seeing how many people in a row we can get to smile back, with out saying a single word. It's not as nerve wracking as opening your mouth and speaking but it does make that initial connection. I hope this helps! Good luck!
3 Aug 12
It is very important to be open to make friendship with the people after you enter a corporate world. in order to spread your network, you should approach them first and then start with a general light discussion and then asking their likes and dislikes and keeping the conversation gripping. But for that you have to loose all your inner inhibitions and fear first.