love is blind

@prashu228 (37526)
India
August 4, 2012 5:51am CST
hello friends, People say many things about love such as love is life and what not, and added to this people also say love is blind. I wonder is love really blind? Is it true that people cant/dont see the negative aspects in a person when they are in love. If love is life then how come so many differences arise between the people who love each other ? Any opinions and ideas from mylotters?
16 responses
@svjomboy (873)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Love is blind its not true, love can say but they don't mind. Why some people said that love is blind?On my view if two lovers get fall inlove whatever negative characters of someone she/he don't mind as long they love each other. Love could always say but they don't mind and that's correct....
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
4 Aug 12
hi, thanks for the response yes love is eternal and we all experience it in life
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
I agree love is not blind rather lovers are blind because two person are falling inlove by choice and not by chance. But I guess love is like that it's really amazing and how great to fall inlove to a person you really love thats why I don't believe that love is blind. If love is blind how could the two Person fall in love. I think we can say LOVE IS THE EYE OF THE TWO LOVERS .
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
4 Aug 12
well said, yes love cant be blind . It depends on the people,who react . thanks for the response and beautiful words
4 Aug 12
I think this quote is now applicable to all people who are in love. There are people that really love so blindly that no matter what's the mistakes, the flaws of the one s/he love, that person will gonna accept it all. There are even people that can't seem to have a life without those people they love even though those people they love are hurting them so badly either physically or mentally. On the other hand, there are people, who sees even the tiniest negative aspect of the person s/he loves. This negative aspect of their loves ones sometimes disappoint them.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, well said. thanks for the response
4 Aug 12
I think this quote is NOT applicable to all people who are in love. Sorry for the typo error...what i really mean is NOT not NOW!
@chrystalia (1208)
• Tucson, Arizona
5 Aug 12
Infatuation is blind-- love sees very clearly :). When you have a crush on someone, you often deliberately avoid dealing with any aspect of them that displeases you. When you love someone, on the other hand, you see them as they really are-- and love them anyway. This is one of the fundamental differences between love and infatuation.Even when you love someone, however, your relationship continues to change over time, because people never stop changing. Going to school, changing careers, having children, kids moving out-- all of these milestones are part of change, and sometimes, partners grow away from each other rather than closer. The important thing here is the quality of love they had in the first place-- how honest were they with each other? A relationship based on honesty, respect and mutual trust will survive almost any normal personal growth.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, yes, you explained the line line between love and infatuation very clearly. many people are not able to recognize it, so the problems arise.thanks for the response.
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Literally love is not blind. However this idiom "love is blind" makes sense because real love accepts everything, even the faults of the person you love. It is not blind because it sees everything yet it acts blind because it choose to accept. In a sense it means that if you truly love a person, you accept him 100% unlike another person who do not love the person you love, he sees the faults in him thus he thinks you are blind for accepting him when in fact you just love.
• Philippines
6 Aug 12
No problem, you have a nice day! Cheers!
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, yes, we see all the truth about the person, but still accept, may be thats for love thanks for the response
4 Aug 12
sometimes the people who say love is blind are ignroant. For example if you married someone with a facial disfigurement some cruel people may say ooh how could you marry someoen who looks like that....so in that case they may say love is blind. I personally dont care what someone looks like, I am attracted to them for their personality and humour, kindness and caring. it is a cruel world and some peple are crul
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, i agree, i have seen some people of that kind,thanks for the response
@hinitin5 (12)
4 Aug 12
as said love is blind is very true, coz when you fall in love its not by choice..and when you do things for your love, there's no reason to deny..surely love makes us accept the person the way he/she is. As per the differences, the living style of an individual is different and he/she can bear interference to a limit after that you react and difference arise, but love remains in the heart intact.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
yes love surely makes the people to accept everything
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
Love is not blind, lovers are. Recently i'm a witness to this blindness. My friend is being treated like a crap by her boyfriend and she still chose to be a doormat, a second girlfriend, a mistress of some sort. She knew what she's doing is wrong and she knew that he's not the right person for her. Nevertheless, she chose to be with him and ignore our advice.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, oh my, some people behave so stupidly, we cant help it, even i have seen some of my friends like that, they wont listen to us. thanks for the response.
• Indonesia
4 Aug 12
love is blind because it doesn't have eyes, that's why sometimes people change, go mad, happy, sad, become religious & thankful, become sad and moody just because of love. it's too complicated to describe, we just can feel it inside
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, yes its a feeling, but very strong one, can make or destroy a person. thank you for the response
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
I don't believe in this. For me love is not blind and lovers can see. It's just that they both accept each other's differences and negative traits. That is what is always what we heard that the reverend said to a couple during their marriage vows. That each would understand each other.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, yes and if they cant accept each other with their negative traits then they cant stay together , love teaches us to accept the person with all the positive and negatives , but as i see many lack this thank you for the response
@riyauro (6421)
• India
4 Aug 12
Love is blind for some people where they do not care about where each other comes from and also what is the behavior pattern of each other. But for me love is not blind when it comes to choosing a partner. Today most people look and the family background and the bank balance of the person they want to get married to. I know most of my friends who wish to get married to some millionaire. So I guess everything is thought for and sorted. I believe motherly love and from father and grandparents is blind because no matter what their kids are always right..lol good day
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, can we call parents and grandparents love as blind? i somehow cant agree, or may be i didnt understand your point. thank you for the response
@Axai2012 (371)
4 Aug 12
Let me start by quoting Will Moss, "Love is not blind. It sees more and not less. And because it sees more, it is willing to see less." I think it explains, true love not just infatuation or lust. It explains why people who are married for a long time love their partners in spite of their shortcomings , not because they are blind but because they know the person so well and not focus on the flaws.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, yes ,problems arise, when its infatuation and people dont realize it.thanks for the response
@paulli3 (312)
• China
4 Aug 12
i disagree love is blind, sometimes people say love is blind becuase they didn't meet right people in their lives. when you meet a wrong person and fall in love with her, maybe some people gain nothing if they don't meet right people, but love is life and love is so beauty , so love is not blind.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
thank you for the response
@Amil99 (29)
• Sri Lanka
4 Aug 12
well i think love is blind.it is very natural feeling and when we fall in love we do not care about society,parents,friends at same level we feel before we fall in love.if you think honestly,think back,we do not feel much wrong while we miss our school work etc..by experience ;) i state love is blind..i think other my lotters also agree with me :)
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
i agree with you, i have seen many of my friends, in such state.
@vaericke (162)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
First of all, Love is described in the Bible; Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not envy, It does not boast, It is not proud. It is not rude, It is not self-seeking, It is not easily angered, It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, trusts and hopes and it always perseveres. This definition can be found at 1st Corinthians chapter 13 verse 4 to 7 which is a complete and honest, and a concrete definition for Love so "the Love is blind" statement is a bit absurd since it has no basis and is a product of human emotion.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
hi, Every religion teaches love to be pure, but people wont follow it the way they should, thanks for the response
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
4 Aug 12
prashu: You may be young. you will learn it slowly in life. experiences will make you learn and unlearn things. Love is blind - when we love a person -- it may be love for kids, grand sons -- all our reasoning mechanism stops. we decide based on love only. In fact I am reminded of 55 years ago - my grand mother use to discuss with other parents favouring us only -- for her --her grand sons are right always. Among married people differences come because of expectations and also extra interests in marriage.
• United States
4 Aug 12
I think for some people "love is blind" because they don't see the hard cold reality of what they might end up dealing with down the road. An example is a couple who might run away together to marry but neither of them is employed or realistic about what is required to create and maintain a successful relationship. When 2 people are in love with each other they view each other through rose colored glasses. A year later, after they've been in a committed relationship, they begin to discover certain things they don't like about one another. We all have flaws and we can usually put it all into perspective unless we spend too much time with each other.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
5 Aug 12
well said, yes most of them don't realize the life after marriage, they only see, the enjoyment and don't realize the reality, then definitely people wouldn't continue their relationship further.