Have You Ever Wondered If Your "Friends" Are Real?
By janiece
@janiece (55)
United States
August 4, 2012 11:43am CST
Lately, I've been wondering if my friends are true. I have a few friends that I've know for 5 or 6 years and we hang out sometimes and talk on the phone. But one time I was going to meet them for dinner and I started feeling sick in my car and I told them that I thought I might have to go to the emergency room instead and they just said OK and stayed at the restaurant and I drove to the emergency room. They didn't call to see if I was everything was OK. If it had been one of them, I would have insisted on meeting them at the emergency room to be sure they were OK. Since then, I've notice that they really don't ever really go the "extra mile" in friendship with me. Does this mean they don't really care or am I expecting too much?
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4 responses
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
It must have been so hard on you going to the hospital all by yourself. I wonder why they allow you to go in the first place. At least one of them should be with you especially that you're not feeling very good. I don't know, they probably are not the best to keep. It makes me remember how my friends took care of me when I was in a hospital. I miss them so much. We're not seeing each other regularly but I know they're always there for me.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
28 Aug 12
I don't think you were being oversensitive. It is at times like that you realise what a friend really is - someone who is there for you. From your comments I can see that you know how to be a good friend. I think you should look around for some new friends swithout totalling giving up on the old ones. After all people can change and even thoughtless friends are better than no friends at all.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
4 Aug 12
Well, in your case I think something is really off with your friends. I'm sure they can tell by your looks that you weren't faking it. As friends, they should have shown you concern and even done something about it. I know I would be upset if I wasn't able to help a friend when I am well able to do so. Especially since you said all they have at the moment is that trip to the restaurant.
Have you tried reaching out to them, or did you sense like something is off? But then even if there is, you will help a sick person, more so if that person is a long time friend.
Sometimes, we expect too much from a friend. But if our expectations is something within the boundary of just good old plain consideration for another person, something that you would ahve done even if the person isn't your friend, I think it's pretty reasonable. And should they fail, then maybe we should re-think about the whole friendship deal.
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
4 Aug 12
Hello janiece,
I think they should have called you at least if they could not come to see you there.
It is expected in friendship.I have friends whom I know who won't let me down but who knows what they do when the situation comes.
But seriously there are few friends of mine who won't hesitate to help me out if I call them at night too.
It is expected in friendship.I have friends whom I know who won't let me down but who knows what they do when the situation comes.But seriously there are few friends of mine who won't hesitate to help me out if I call them at night too.