My friend says her neice has run away from home,,,,AGAIN...
By bjc66bjc
@bjc66bjc (6730)
United States
August 4, 2012 5:39pm CST
My friend called me today and told me her 17 year old
neice has run away again,,,She has been running away
since she was 14...She reported her missing the police
department in the state she lives told her that at
17 she was grown and not considered a child....I was
shocked, if anything happens to that girl they will
be knocking at her door,,,I just didn;t undetstand...
She gave her $50.00 to go to MacDonalds and get her nails
done with her friends...She left and never came back,,She
said the neice told her that she found out in their state
she could be with an older man and it not against the law..
Wow can you imagine...So my friend now think thats where
she is, with some older man some where...
She had treated that neice so good and she stated she
can not worry about her any more...each time she left
before, she was gone for over 2 months...the niece is a
really terrble liar and she has always made up stuff, for
years....
Can you imagine having to deal with this...
8 responses
@janiewhite35 (163)
•
5 Aug 12
I cant imagine going through this. There must be a reason she keeps runing away. BUt that is so unfair on her mother, and surely is jsut a bit selfish,
Her poor mother must be worried silly about her, wondering where she is, who she is with, is she ok, has soemthing happened to her?
IF that were me i dont think i could eat or sleep until i knew where she was and if she were ok. I would be feeling so scared and worried and upset. I would be beside myself with worry and feeling sick.
I really feel for her poor mother. I Have children myself and can imagine what she must be going through, although i have never experienced this.
She must be so confused emotionally, all mixed up and worried.
I do hope she finds her wheraabouts soon, so that she can relax a little
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
5 Aug 12
hi janie, my friend had all those hurts and emotions and worries when
she first ran away...but since then she is reacting differently.
Now people sayng she must have had a reason, well she is a pretty
good student, she has all necessary life items, and mor, she is given
everything,,she is just a child that just have need to do grown life
before her time...she came back the first time all on her own after
she had been gone for 2 months, she didn;t know why but she just
meet these guys on the internet and they convinenced her to run away,
After the return she was hospitalized, went through all the Aids testing,
treated for anxienty, everything.. she was ok, physically and mentally..
I don't intend to minimize the situtation, its really a sad one but
my friend is just tired of her nieces antics and her lies////
@janiewhite35 (163)
•
5 Aug 12
is her neice maybe a little insecure?
I hope i did not offend in my reply of there must be a reason, i didnt mean any ofense at all, and the reason could really be a deep rooted one, and was in no way meant as a derogitory remark against anyone.
I merely meant that maybe there are some thing bothering your neice that she could do with some help for.
I can understand your friends views, we can only take so much being lied to before we have had enough.
It is a shame this girl keeps doing this to herself. I know we all ahve to live our own lives and learn from our own mistakes, but actions like this can leave harsh reminders on our lives forever.
I just hope she is safe and well, and realises one day what she is doing.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
11 Aug 12
A girl of 17. She is not considered a child in the State where she lives. You cannot restrict her. Let her go and she will return of her own. This is the age where she will enjoy life with people who pay her money and give her all that she wants. Has she returned by now? There is nothing your friend can do except to wait for her return, if she has not returned so far.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
11 Aug 12
17 years old here in the USA is definately a child and the
responsibility of someone, parent or guardian..so yes she
ia a child...for sure...
My friend has reported her missing to the police and is totally
aware that there is nothing else she can do...
No she has not returned home yet...
@SJ112760 (132)
• United States
7 Aug 12
bjcd66bjc No I can't imagine having to deal with a situation such as this. But your friend needs to realize that she has shown her niece support and that's all she can do. You know as a child I was in a simular situation I did not run away from home but I got involved with a much older guy. And my parents had a fit. I truly believe to this day. That if they had not forbidded me to see him I would have left him alone. But kids are big headed and hard headed. I said that to say this. The niece will grow up one day and she will find out for herself that what she did was wrong. She will apologize for her actions one day. I did. So we all live and learn. And we are never to old to learn.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
11 Aug 12
You say you have learnt from experience. that is good. Similarly this girl will also learn from her experience. let us hope it will not be a costly experience.
@fencer07 (98)
•
5 Aug 12
I am so sorry to hear about your friend's niece. I am glad that she has you as part of her support system and that she can trust and vent to you about the situation.
I have learned in my life that there is nothing more difficult than having a family member who makes decisions that are detrimental to herself and those around them and the lack of control that family and friends feel.
As much as you may agree with your friend's perspective on the matter, try to be open-minded to what her niece may be going through. In my experience, people do not run away for no reason. Sometimes they are going through a very difficult time in their life that very few if any other people know much about. The best that you can do is be there to support all of them and to help your friend stay strong, but still be accepting of her niece and her needs.
I will keep your friend and her family in my prayers. I hope that all turns out well.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
5 Aug 12
Well thanks for your best wishes, but there is no tryng to be opened
minded as far as she is concern...I was raised where chidren stayed
in a childs place...we had no privacy in my parents, we had no bill
either, we lived in their home...we did what we were told...
I can respect your "experience that people do not run away for no reason"
She has a reason she think she is grown and she thinks since this
older man is in her life, she can lay up and be as grown as she wants..
So yes she does have a reason...AN d her aunt is not putting up with
that and I don;t blame her...A child should stay in a childs place.
that what I can be opened minded about...
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
5 Aug 12
Your friend has been suffering for 3 years, that is so unfair of her daughter. If I were your friend, I will have had enough and let her do things by her own and learn on her own. If she thinks she's old enough to live her own life without me, then fine. I will let her learn the bitter realities of life. I will just pray for her and hope for the best. I wouldn't want to stop the search but I have to for the sake of my sanity. She will always be my daughter, but I am also her mother and I deserve respect from her. When she comes back, her stuff will be out on the lawn or the garage. If she wants to go, then I will not stop her. Just let me know where she is, no more running away. And she can stay there.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
5 Aug 12
I am smiling Raine because thats just the solution that my
friends have concluded...she has had enough, she is leaving
this situtation in Gods hands...she is just tired of taking
care of her niece since she was 10 years and she feels like
if this is what she wants at 17 the so be it,,,,
@lonlyheart11 (49)
•
5 Aug 12
niece has left the home daughter or all this stuff specifically children int their teenage look and tries something interesting to do as most of the kids get diverted to Po** , Mast******* and some go behind money but I don't think that he or anyone else except GOD can to anything to her unless life teaches or gave lesson to her niece and being with older man this is completely lame story yes she can be with a older man but this is really shocking that she choose an old man instead of her family what were the reason behind that she was not cared that what your friend thinks and yes he can be right over this and what would i have done I might have tried years finding er and all that report in police stuff but when i got to know that she find an older man loving her more then me and she don't want to be with and that i might have let her go and would haven't tried to talk or to find her . Chats all
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
4 Aug 12
it really pissed you off to the fact that her niece is always running from her over and over again.She should not care to her anymore because her niece didn't appreciate it and she's already 17.Her niece should learn to take care of herself. If i were on the situation,i can't deal with it anymore.she already know what's right and wrong in doing things.she'll realize one day that everything she did in the past caused her so much trouble.
@deazil (4723)
• United States
4 Aug 12
I think the only thing your friend can do is hope for the best in a bad situation. I know she probably can't help worrying. An older man with a 17yr old is not good. At 17 you are too easily influenced. Any number of things can happen to her. Kids don't understand the ramifications of their actions. And once they begin to lie you can never believe anything they say. You end up having even more problems if you do. But your friend has done, apparently, everything she can for her niece. She needs to take care of -herself-. That kind of worry in your life can be very bad for your health. It's good she has you to talk with and be there for her. I think there are other mylotters who have had problems of this nature. Maybe they will respond with better advice, suggestions than I. I wish your friend well.
