THE OTHER MAN
By vstone
@vstone (69)
United States
September 4, 2006 1:47pm CST
Your married for 2 years, but you meet a younger, more handsome man at the car repair shop, who gives you a ride home, compliments of the shop. He flirts all the way to your home. He also calls you a lot, do you go for it?
3 responses
@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
12 Sep 06
No, no way. He is just working at the car repair shop. Personally I have no problems people working at the repair shop, but I wouldnt go for it. He probably thinks "okay, she looks like easy target for me to get laid". If anyone goes for this person, she will ruin her marriage to her husband.
@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
12 Sep 06
Well, this is complicated.If you love your husband you tell the other man that and you tell him to leave you alone. On the other hand if you are not in love with your husband and you plan to get out of your marriage than if you think he is worth it go for it. Just remember it is not always greener on the other side.
@Cheesehead06 (219)
• United States
5 Sep 06
NO!!! Your first commitment is to your marriage. You did know prior to getting married that your husband would age, maybe lose hair, gain weight, etc???? I mean, that tends to happen in a lifelong commitment. You did know this, right????
You also mention that the man is "younger, more handsome". Is he interested in a commitment or does he just want to plant his seed and move on?? Is he in love with you or infatuated??? Is he financially and emotionally prepared to handle a commited relationship???
If you go for it, ask yourself; Are you ready to spend the rest of your life sneaking around and telling lie upon lie??? Are you a convincing liar??? Is he??? Will you be able to keep all of the lies you tell straight so that you don't get caught in one??? Will you be able to lie in the bed with either of these men and say "I Love You" and your conscience not bother you??? Will you be able to sleep at night????
If you have children have you thought of how you will explain "Mommy's friend" to them??? Can they keep secrets???
Another issue to look at is divorce. Can you handle the financial and emotional impact of a divorce??? Is the younger man a better provider than your husband??? How will your children, if any, handle a divorce???
If you cannot give positive answers to the above questions (I realize there are a lot and I am sure that I missed a few) then no, don't go for it. Let this man know that you are married and tell him to stop calling. If he does not stop calling, let hin know that you will talk to his boss and take your business elsewhere.
