our anniversary was one of the worst days in my life

Philippines
August 12, 2012 10:50pm CST
i did not really expect so much from him that day. my expectation was just so simple. to have that date exclusively ours and we will be together for 24hrs but then he chose to spend his almost whole day in net cafe playing online games! i really don't know what to do with our relationship
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@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
13 Aug 12
Most people think or complaints in such a way that their partners do as and how they likes and never give much importance to our wishes or desires. Here you can divert a little bit on his nature. In most of such cases, you can just consult with him or find out his plans or opinion on your suggestion. In such cases, he will get an idea on what you are thinking, and you can understand how he reacts, plans, thinks etc. So, if he comes up with his opinion, you can discuss or modify or alter the plans according to your wish and suggestions. If it works this manner, you will get a better understanding about his plans and also do not interfere much on his exclusive personal matters where most people won't like it. But he will get a feel that he is free with things. Also, if he is leaning to a wrong path, you can advise with a positive approach where he should not feel that you are controlling, but he should think that you are inquiring. Think a better way to bring him more close to you by open discussion and more pure love and closeness towards him. Here also, you can openly tell him that you got disappointed on what he did and it could have been so and so... and explain what was in your mind...
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• Philippines
13 Aug 12
sigh! i already did that my dear and everytime i ask him his plans he speaks like he really has a plan and is mature enough with his life but when it comes to his actions, he seems like he don't have a plan at all. he's so inconsistent with his words. you see, he's 4 years older than me and he seems like he's still a happy go lucky young adult
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• India
14 Aug 12
Aha, so what do you think, you can adjust with him for the rest of the time? Or on the mid way, look for something better? In these days, this is one of the major head-ache for other to make passive with the young adults and they are always thinking that what they are doing/thinking/telling are the absolute and final. Anyway, it is you to decide upon the things as long as you know him for a period of time and from your observation, you need to come up with a decision which keep your future more safe... I hope you understnad me.
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13 Aug 12
Try to confront him. Tell him all about your heartaches about him.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 12
i've tried to confront him many times. but every time i start a serious discussion with him he seems to make a joke out of it
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@debbygirl (214)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
oh :( sad to hear that... i remember i had my worst birthday this year, but not because of my husband. Anyway, forget about it. Maybe he don't mean to do that... that's really mean if he did it on purpose. You can tell him about how you feel so that next time, hopefully he will not do it again. I know we ladies feel loved when we are given much love and attention, and that day was your anniversary! so why did he spent with the computer? just forgive him, and stay in love.. i think that's not enough for you to give up! :) stay the way you are.
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
that was really frustrating. i've planned so much for that date but just to keep me waiting while his enjoying his clan war. so i wandered alone and left him 2 pages love letter filled with so many exclaimation point! when i got home he said he's sorry well, i already forgave him but im keeping the distance hoping that it would make him realize what's really happening in our relationship.
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• United States
13 Aug 12
As bad as that was just be glad he was not with another woman. I know people who have it worse than you. those gamers are crazy for those games. I am glad adrain does not play them. heis the one that would want me to be with him all day. he is like that. I am going to surprise him tonight and sleep over his house. good night. welcome to mylot..
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• Philippines
13 Aug 12
good thing really i that he's not into another woman. so far we haven't encountered such issue in our relationship. it was just so disappointing that he chose to have his clan war instead of having that day exclusive for us. he did not even put to consider that we seldom have time for each other due to hectic schedule
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