how can you tell a guy that he should show his love more?^^

pair of lovers - boy and girl in love
Portugal
August 13, 2012 8:37am CST
hi guys sometimes i dont understand. boys say the words i love you but then they can be like one day or two without being with the girl he likes. how can we girls tell him that we would like at least that he said the words i love you even if is in a message? bcs sometimes i feel if i say something he will think i am a pain in the as* and stop liking me. boys how can we girls say this to you? and girls how do you say this to the guy you like? please share your opinions
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
Men are more reserved when it comes to showing their feelings. Although some men are showy and very open sometimes- reserve for special occasions I guess. I don't know how to encourage a guy to show or display his feelings. I believe it comes naturally and not forced or by command.
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• Portugal
13 Aug 12
yes jai sure it has to come naturally^^ but i mean what if the guy likes the girl but dont know how to show it? we should tell him how we feel right? of course you cant force someone. i just wish that a guy that says he loves me could do things that really show me that what he says is true. words arent enough always. after some time you need actions that show that your words are real. thanks for sharing your opinion^^
@marguicha (215808)
• Chile
25 Aug 12
Although you cannot force anyone to say or do something he doesn´t like, you can tell him what you expect of him in sweet words. I see no harm in telling a man that you feel very happy when he tells you that he loves you and that you would be very happy if you heard it every day, even in a message.
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• Portugal
16 Mar 13
yes marguicha. for me you are completely right. if we feel sad with something we should always say. for me isnt good to pretend that things are ok if are not. if it bothers him then is because he isnt worth of me. but im not someone who pretend to be happy if im not. thanks so much for your advice.
@giex22 (273)
• Cebu, Philippines
3 Mar 13
As of me, i didn't directly tell it to my Bf that "its nice to have a message that full of love" it just happened that he hear it, that is one of our conversation with my friend. Now, he seems to like saying "I LOVE YOU" every now and then also in text it always ends of it. :)
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• Portugal
16 Mar 13
im happy that your boyfriend is romantic. and reminds to say that he loves you often. its always important to feel loved by the person we love. if we feel insecure all the time is really bad and the best is break up.
@giex22 (273)
• Cebu, Philippines
17 Mar 13
Yes you are right, He is not that so romantic... he just act the way he want it. and that he takes times to be with me in those times that we are not together.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 12
welcome back.. it is long time you never comes here.. how are you?? how are portugal?? several boys sometimes are too shy for saying "I love you" to the girl
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• Portugal
16 Mar 13
im fine thanks^^ and you? yes i guess some guys are shy to say their feelings. but i think some guys just are too relaxed sometimes when are in a relationship. and forget to say that care for the ones they said they loved.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
14 Aug 12
Hmmm... we can't force.dictate demand a guy what we want them to do. Most of the men are not expressive but it doesn't mean they don't love you. We girls should also understand their nature, we are totally different but feel the same when it comes to love. We women love to be with our partner for entire day, they become our world. Men love to mingle with friends and do some errands.
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• Portugal
16 Mar 13
simone i think it depends of the personality. there are some guys that are the ones that want to be always with their girlfriends. and they dont want to. i think we should addapt to our lover. if we love him we should make him happy. and care for him as much as we can.
• Mexico
19 Aug 12
Hi sweet love forever: Communication is always the answer. Maybe you should try to say it in a cute way, or after making something special for him. Another way would be with a letter where you mention the positive things about him and your relationship before mentioning that he should try to show more his love. ALVARO
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• Portugal
16 Mar 13
thanks for your idea alvaro ^^ anyway i always tell to the guys i like what i think. the problem is that guys are not so romantic anymore. i think guys i like never care much for me. and i should be more careful when i fall in love.
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
For me, if the guy is sincere with you and faithful in your relationship, it's not important that you have to always heard him telling he's deeply in love with you. There are some guys who are not expressive when it comes to their feelings, instead, they are always finding a way to make a girl smile - in their own way. If you think that guy is like this one, then, it's okay to remain as he was. But if he doesn't like that, you have to think now if you are happy with what he is doing for you.
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• Portugal
16 Mar 13
thanks so muchy for your words. for me is very important to know about a guy's opinion. you more than us girls can know what is in a guy's head. i think you are right that some guys just dont say the words but show it. but sadly many ones dont say the words neither show it. just from far to far. thanks so muchy for your advice. it made me think about my situation
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
hi sweet, uuhhhmmm.......actually even how much I like the guy I still don't have the guts to tell him to honestly tell what he really him for me. Well love comes out naturally I believe on that happy mylotting
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• Portugal
13 Aug 12
yes love comes naturally. but if a guy tells you he loves you and then dont give you much attention what would you do? i mean i think its a nonsense. why did he say the words if then doesnt care much? what is people will to say things without feel it? i just think that say the words i love you is too easy. but show in actions your feelings is a complete different thing. thanks for sharing your opinion^^ have a happy day.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
In that situation, I ended up not telling him but for sure I will knew that soon. My silence is his biggest fear hehehe.
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• Portugal
13 Aug 12
ahah yes abigail maybe you are right^^ some people say that guys like challenges. that means they like girls that dont give them much attention right? if they start to get much attention they will feel tired right?^^ thanks for what you said abigael^^ your reply made things clear in my head. you were a big help really. i will just stop giving attention when i like a guy. i will stop showing it so much. when i see that he really likes me then ok i can do the same^^ thanks