Why do we always hurt the ones we love?

Philippines
August 15, 2012 9:43am CST
Sometimes the one you love turns to be the one who hurts you the most, and sometmes the friend who takes you into her arms and cries when you cry turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted. Love, simple word but has many definition. It's beautiful but sometimes it hurts so bad. In life, we always wait for the person who hurt us and still hoping one day he/she will come back and you both can make a new beginning. What if you already lose that person, are you willing to wait or learn to let go?
4 responses
@dechinta (77)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
For me it is depend on the situation, If he does not want me in his life anymore why should I keep waiting for him? I think I will just learn to let him go instead. But if I know that our feeling are still mutual and because of something we break up then I am willing to wait for him, I will not care how long it takes I will wait for him because finding someone who makes you feel comfortable being around them is not easy for me.
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I agree with you dechinta!! It's really difficult on finding someone else when your heart's still belongs to the man who hurt you most becoz you're mind is saying that "if he will be going back to me again someday and asking another chance to make things right, i will give that chance to him becoz i am still inlove with him despite all the hurt that i've felt, I STILL LOVE HIM!!
16 Aug 12
Love is such an emotional component of our life that it has a long-lasting impact on your minds and life as a whole. We love, be loved and then get hurt. Then we forget again the hurt and start loving. Love can be lost and regained back or lost for ever. But the pain may still haunt us. If we get hurt from anyone we love we should tell them about our sufferings. If they love us then they will not hurt us again. But if you get the same treatment again and again, there is no point wasting your love on them. Life is short and there is too much to do. Instead of waiting for someone ages, who will never come back to you, move on. Make friends, enjoy your life. There are people around you who might fill your life with endless love.
@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
The intensity of hurt is more if the one who inflict it is someone very dear to you. On issue of choice between waiting for or letting go of the person who hurt you, decision should depend on the situation. If your love one showed sincere remorse and you still care for him then maybe he still deserve a chance. If otherwise, maybe moving on would benefit you more.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
What if you already lose that person, are you willing to wait or learn to let go? Yes I am willing to let go. I felt like I've been waiting for too long and I have missed a lot of opportunities. So I was sure about moving on and letting that person go... But we all have different situation in love. Both couple has to have a good part in the relationship. Both must work on how the relationship can be saved. If only one is doing everything, then I guess it is not worth to keep.