To Accept or Not
By yuekim123
@yuekim123 (161)
Philippines
August 20, 2012 5:42am CST
My mother had a friend and her friend asked me whether I could render some services for her regarding designing and planning stuff in which I also enthusiastically agreed. After working, she gave me a financial incentive in which I accepted. When my mother had known about this, she got angry and scolded me saying I shouldn't have accepted the money for she is a friend and has done a lot of deeds to us. But I defended myself saying I didn't asked for it, she just gave it freely. But my mother insisted that I shouldn't have accepted it. Oh well, am I wrong to accpet the payment? Why does my mother doesn't want me to accept any payment for the services I had rendered? I'm totally confused.
7 responses
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
Well, my father always says that I should accept whatever that comes infront of my door. However, with regards to your case, maybe your parents just want to maintain relationship in the absence of money.
@coelenterata (188)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 12
hello yuekim.in my opinion your mother just bashful because maybe she is her bestfriend and already has a lot of things to help your family but it is still wrong for her to scolded you just for that.you do not demand a payment and she is willingly give you money because of your hard work.and sometimes it is also wrong to not accept a kind gift of someone as a token of thanks you know.have a nice day for you
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Oh you know how old people are...they feel embarrass to ask for payment if its a favor from a friend. I'm pretty sure your mom is being nice, thats why she didn't want her friend to pay you in any way. And I'm pretty sure, she asked you to return it...
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I guess there's nothing wrong with it because you have rendered your services. If her friend helped your family a lot of times, it was her decision. She's a friend so it's her choice to help a friend. She's also helping you now. She asked your services and in return she paid you back. That's another kind of help.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
20 Aug 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, there is nothing wrong in your activity, as you got money for your work as well as you don't ask it from her. She give money to you with her willingness and you are deserved for it, don't worry about your mother
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
20 Aug 12
If what you did for her is what you usually do for your real clients, amount of work and work provided all the same, then I think it's just right that she pays you for your professional fee and just give her a discount for being a family friend. But if it's just a small thing, something that you can do in no time, then I guess you can just do it for free. At any rate, the decision is still yours to make. You alone can decide if you deserve it or not. If what you did makes you feel bad, then it must be wrong. But if it makes you feel good about yourself, then I don't think there's no harm in it. As long as the friend gets what she wanted, and is happy about it then everybody should be happy.
@maya5291 (3)
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20 Aug 12
- a simple thank you will do if it is only a one/two time favor from a friend..but if it's what you do for a living,then it's just fair to accept it -
