Due to our misunderstanding, I really feel depressed.

Philippines
August 23, 2012 7:44am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters, For the past weeks, I was so depressed. As me and my brother had some misunderstanding that resulted to a big arguments. That he didn't respect me at all being his older sister. As a result, I can't help but cry. Days have passes by I can't stop my emotions. As the incident always flashes on my mind. How he disrespect me, always reminds me. And due to this, I feel so sad, since my father told me that I should stand firm for my siblings. But, to this extent, how can I do that, as my brother don't give me any respect at all. And even disobey the good thoughts that I always tell him. Hence due to that issue, I really feel depressed.
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• Philippines
23 Aug 12
Good day airasheila hope you feel better soon. How old is your brother by the way? I understand how you feel but sometimes we cannot force them to do what we tell them to do. We cannot put it into their their heads what we think is right for them. It is how they think and how they take things their ways not ours. We cannot force them to follow us what we wanted them to do. Maybe your brother respected you only that he does not want to do things how you wanted it to be. Even though you did not tell us how it all started your age and your brothers age and the gap between your ages. There are times that we let emotions rules us that will lead to heated arguments and depressions but do not let it pull you down instead take the lessons you can learn from it at use it to correct the misunderstanding and bring you and your brother back in good terms.
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@dfollin (12733)
• United States
23 Aug 12
I agree BluerainI am an older sister too.But,I cannot and do not to make them feel the same way I do.The best that I can do is give my opinion and if they don't follow it and it turns out badly and that I was right then I can only say,"I told you so."
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
23 Aug 12
Elder sister-- you have not given your age in profile --In case your brother is married , it is better not to give more suggestions to him. also we should be aware that we have a right to suggest. it is for others to accept or not to accept. same is the case for the words of your father also. so please do not feel bad. he is normal. your expectation is probably more. reduce that. then problems will not be there.
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@dfollin (12733)
• United States
23 Aug 12
Yeah,if he is married that does make him more independant from his siblings.But,even if it is just that he is an adult as do believe as you said,she should just suggest.
@dfollin (12733)
• United States
23 Aug 12
I don't know how old you are or your brother or what you were fighting about.But,if you are both adults then that does not mean that he disrespects you just because he does not follow your advice.;
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
23 Aug 12
Nowadays we cannot impose our views on our spouse, children and anybody for that matter. Even a child of 3 or 4 years takes decisions by itself. so we can only suggest and no impose or thrust our views on others. This is a universal problem.
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@dfollin (12733)
• United States
23 Aug 12
ravisivan,I totally agree with you.I am finding that in my life too.
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
No matter how we fought with members with our family , at the end of the day still , no one is there for you but a family. Have a heart to heart talk with your brother, speak so gently slow but stress those important point , now if he still remains disrespectful to you , don't force him to follow you , leave him ! That bother will realize sometimes to the things thet he been doing. Sometimes also it is a stage of teenager being so hard headed and attention seeker. Sometimes no matter how you force and insist things , still they remain as is . Be patient for its a phase , that stage will pass.
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
Hi there Angelpink, You have said it very well. As I really need patience to deal with my brother as he grows immature. Aside from that, I am also praying that one day, he will realize the good things that we are trying to imply to him. As its not only me who find this situation stressful but also my other sisters that they find the odd attitude of our brother.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
23 Aug 12
dont be pissed off in first place and dont feel sad or upset,just try to sort out the misunderstandings and talk out your mind to them and as time goes by ,they will be back