Being taken Advantage of?

favouredmost, this case is a situational. If you don't have a job and your sister has a job and it's very important for her to go travel then I guess you can grant your sister's request. But, if you're heart is not into it then you should tell your sister, and also see if your sister's reason of leaving her kids is valid then you can hold your horses for a while :) but if not then don't let her leave. And if she will then she can hire another person.

Hi, I really feel for your since I am also an introvert. The very moment I am writing this, my husband's nephew is starting to scream again downstairs and my head is really aching. They are so early today and I was not even able to have at least a cup of coffee. I really cried as I am not feeling good since last evening so I did not come to work today but I think I will be more stressed at home. Some people do not really realized that we don't need money. For sure that we wanted to help but we have limitations. Yes, we may think sometimes that they are taking advantage of our kindness as we have already told them we're having the hard times doing that but they will still insist. I personally do not like being offered money after I said No to something. My privacy is something very important to me. Just tell her you can't really do it now and repeat to her that you did have the hard time the last time you did it. Be firm with your answer so she will get the impression that you are not really doing it. I once had that kind of situation when my mom in law went to the province and since my sister in law works night shift, she asked me if I can go to their house every weekends to take care of my sister in law's son. I really thought that it would be just for one weekend because that is what they said to me. But I was so annoyed when my mom in law stayed in the province for more than a month. And I did not received any explanation what so ever. But I never said a thing but surely learned from it so that the next time, I won't say yes to them again. Learn to say No sometimes if you feel that it will only makes you stress. You know that stress isn't good for our health right?

Yes, that will be another burden to you. You have your own life and as long as possible you want to have a peaceful and stress-free life. If she can hire a nanny, then tell to hire one. It's such a big responsibility to take care of her kids. Happy myLotting.

I would say the same to her too. I wouldn't trade in my being stress free for money. She can hire a babysitter instead.

well if is it really stressing and you can't handle it, it is good you said no because you also have a life and your own things to do. She just can't up like that and ask you to sit her kids. If she is willing to pay you, she better get a sitter. I know some family members start taking you for granted and for a ride. It is good that you declined her. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

I would say thanks but no thanks. She can keep her money or better yet hire a baby sitter. I wouldn't mind helping family but I have to help myself first I think.