motivating oneself

@annavi23 (6302)
Philippines
August 31, 2012 4:35am CST
Life is like a movie scene where you are the lead star. Though, it doesn't mean you are always doing the big part. It depends on how you look at things in life. It's always a play button. We can't pause, cause if we do, we'll be left behind. We always have to move forward. But there are times we end up like being and living in the past. we can't also fast forward cause there are things neededto be appreciated and can't just pass by. We all face life in a different way. Problems come and go, it is just up to us how to handle it. How do you handle pressure? What do you do to motivate your own self?
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Sometimes I break down to tears with too much pressure. I silently think of things on how to go on with my life. I try to brave myself for my kids. I keep my thoughts busy with things that will actually help me and my kids.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
crying can help us somehow ease the pain. we are just human. we can feel hurt and pain as well. but like you said, we have to be brave and face life and focus on things we want to achieve. by being positive and focused, we can make things happen. no matter who or what blocks our way. it is indeed hard being a parent and you have to be strong not justfor yourself but also for them. you are not alone anymore, though you have to kep the faith and face problems your own. if you believe you can make it, sure it will happen!
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
Thanks for the boost! I really needed that!
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
you are not alone in this matter. all people may feel weak or tired of their own life which they may think of giing up. but then, if you see things clearly, you can see bright things ahead. just be strong.
• India
31 Aug 12
Hi friend, We all have lot of dreams and desires and working hard to achieve them. Some of us achieve our dreams with our hard work and luck, some other tried our maximum to achieve it, but we don't have the ability to reach it due to our luck. Since luck is also an important factor which determines our life. Not all the talented persons have the ability to shine in their life, the person who had luck and got a chance to express his talent as well as expressed it in a good manner and succeeded with it will shine in life. Some people will get continuous failure in all their attempt due to their luck, but we don't give up our try. We must try our maximum with our efforts, surely we will get luck one day and achieve our dream with it. We must get motivation from our failures, don't get depressed with failure and give up your try. Our efforts, hard work, determination with luck will help us to achieve our success one day. If we give up our try, we don't have the ability to get success. Some times it is really hard to accept our failure, if we lost it in a little margin, but we must be sportive and learn lesson from this failure. This kind of failures are our experience which lead us to do our work in a good way. Cheer up and get motivation from your failures to achieve your goal. Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
hello vidya! very well said! i like the last line you post here. cheer up and get motivation from your failures to achieve your goal. nothing is impossible to a willing heart. we really have to trust and believe that we can make it happen. eventhough we feel like it is impossible to reach. if we just think of posssibilities and hy do we have to do it, we can make it happen. it just needs a lot of courage. I believe God has better plans for us and if we can't find success now, we have our time for it. i guess we just have to face failure first to know that we can't get success easily. time will come we'll reach it. just be patient.
• India
9 Sep 12
Self confidence is the great wealth of every person, we must believe our self and face our challenges with our self confidence to achieve a lot in our life. We can do anything and every thing and a lot of power lies with in us. This kind of challenges are the key to find out our real power. Thanks a lot for the BR
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
you said it right! thank you for your opinions, very well appreciated. sometimes, people don't have it, or they haven't achieved self confidence yet. like you said, it is important for every individual to achieve what they wantin life. without it, they may seem to fail, but then after al the failed attempts, they will soon realize how to achieve their goals by having confidence and believe in their ownself...
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
3 Sep 12
I totally think so. I always motivate my friends because i saw them so upset and need my advice, i think good communication between friends definitely works, so this is cool for everyone to find suitable place and to make you make it. I still tell myself what i really need no matter what happened.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
absolutelt riht!we need friends to help us mqke things through. if time comes we get too upset, friends or people around us cqn make positive thoughts and hlp us b motivated once again and put our feet to the riht direcion. yes, good communication is really important for us to realize what mistakes we havemade and to solve the problem fast before it gets worse. staying focused on our goals can help us make it throughand get throuh the goal we want to reach.
@elsino91 (443)
• Poland
31 Aug 12
well if you are experiencing pressure in work than what I always find that works for me is to take a quick break to get away from it, at least mentally. I agree with you that we can't hit the pause button on life because life doesn't stop for us but we are entitled a break from what we are doing when it becomes too much for us. I don't see the sense in letting life drive me crazy just so that I can accomplish something. What I use to motivate myself is keeping my eyes on the goal that I'm heading towards, I envisage myself achieving it and tell myself that what I'm doing even if it may not be as pleasurable is worth doing it to achieve what I want and then I can be proud of myself. Because the way I see it achieving what you want means succeeding in life and there isn't anything else that feels better to me than knowing that I'm living the way I want to be.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
nice words, elsino! it is true. life can somehow bring us stress and pressures which we have to face and learn to be positive as well. if we keep on having ngative thoughts or let anger ate us, too much problem will arise. and having that kind is bad for the heart. we can be really proud of ourselves if we keep focused and aim our goal no matter how hard it is to reach and no matter who blocks our way to achieving it, if we are strong-willed to fight and keep the faith. we can make it throug. by this, we can be more proud of ourselves. and succeeding in life comes along the way.
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Aside from my family, I think one of the best motivator in our life is money. Many may raise an eyebrow on my reply, but really, how many among you had never been tempted to make more money here in myLot (for example). I would be very happy to see my pay slip every pay day which makes me work harder so that I would see again the same value of money if not bigger. During my earlier years in in myLot, I would spend 8 hours a day here just to make a couple of dollar here. And now, it is still money that motivates me to answer many discussions here.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Oh, so you are saying, your reason didn't change when you joined here? Yeah, I do join here because i want to earn money of course but then when i started to like here is that i made friends whom i didn't expected to and i just share the real me. though sometimes i don't really express my true self here, i was after for money as well. I guess it's my first time seeing you here. well, do you always have time for mylot? For sure you have to type quality ones to earn more. Plus, the enjoyment, don't forget to have. cause if you are not enjoying your stay, most of the time, you will feel bored easily. just like what i feel at times. But there are times even if I am really having head ache, like now, I still am hooked in here cause I have to reach the earnings, you know. It is the last day of the month. Meaning whatever we will earn here, we'll get next month.
@SIMPLYD (78765)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
I am always a dutiful worker. When i do my work, i always want to do it excellently. But i must admit, when the work gets tough, i already ask my boss and tell her about it, so she could give me an idea on how to lighten it.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
well, it's good to have a boss who is easy to approach and can ask for help to. but if not, it will always be you who will have to learn how to solve the issue. sometimes, it is really hard facing problems and solving them in your own. but it is a thing to be proud of when you have solved in your own. makes you more responsible and mature person. causenot all people can face problems their own...
@SIMPLYD (78765)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
well, yes it's good if you are always able to deliver the job in a way that you don't have to ask for your boss' help. In my job, sometimes, i have to ask her of some decisions i do in her behalf, because i was unsure if it will also be what she would like. I just always want to play safe.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
yeah, play safe not to get fired as well. of course, we have to be careful in things we are unsure of, we really have to ask our superiors.for us not to get do mistakes
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
I have a day job that takes up most of my day, and just to share, my life may be boring in terms of social life and having a bit of fun, since my work is pretty demanding in so many ways, like, there's so many deadlines, too high standards and a lot of pressure from people above, meaning my bosses. Anyway, pressure is always a part and in life and work, self-motivation comes in handy. Sometimes, I feel that motivation is a must and a necessity what with all the stresses and problems that we face in all aspects of our lives. I'm not sure if I'm really good at handling pressure but I must say that I have learned how to handle them in my own way. I don't easily give in to pressure. If something seems impossible and someone or something stresses me out, I pause, take a deep breath and start from one small thing to another and end up finishing everything in due time. When feeling lazy or de-motivated, the best way to deal with it is to just keep moving. That way, I know that I get to accomplish something even though how small it could be, and before I know it, I'm actually done. You're right. We must keep moving and bring the lessons from our past with us to guide us on moving forward.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
you are not alone on this one, prc! most people who are busy with thier lives making money can't have time for socializing. you know, i only have mylot for socializing. and a few friends to talk over the phone and chat online whenever i see them. even if i want to see them personally, I can't cause i don't have money. It's good that you can handle pressure your own way. Sometimes i do tell myself I have to get through this and don't let it eat me. I have to be strong and do things i have to. even if i don't feel appreciated. but really, it is important to be appreciated. you may lack faith at times when people don't appreciate you. i have read a sayiing before that you have to stop doing things for others when it is expected and not appreciated. do you believe in this line? appreciation is helpful and it gives you more motivation to do your part. but then, we can't always feel that. most of the time our efforts are expected, so people won't care how much we feel deep inside of us. Taking a deep breath and thinking positively, we can make things little by little. Yes, no one can help us but our ownselves. so, whatever it is that we have to accomplish. we have to face it our own and learn to be strong and brave enough to face all those. Sometimes moving forward is really hard to do, but we have to, for us to be a better individual. Just think of it as a challenge we can't avoid. and no one can help us, but our selves. Motivating oneself by thinking of the past and how bad we are back then, we have to fight and don't let it happen again. For every fall, we have to be strong and learn to fight for our own good.
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
Very well said! And yes, I do believe in that saying that [/i]you have to stop doing things for others when it is expected and not appreciated[i] This would just result in abuse of your own kindness. I've been in this situation many times and I must say that it really is so frustrating how people would just expect you to do something, especially since I'm female, like simple household chores, and not get appreciated for it. It's like teaching them how to be lazy and it's never a good thing. And when you stop doing something just for once, you'd get blamed for it. That is why we only got ourselves to push us into doing things that would makee us happy and to stop doing things that make us miserable.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
so, what did you do when you didn't do the household chores? what happened then? did they learn to help as well? cause this is always my problem. no one bothers to help. it seems like they are counting chores they would just do. if so, it will be only one thing they have to do for the whole day. nothing else. how about if the parent itself is not helping? how will you explain things to them?
@tedifa (1235)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 12
Sometimes we feel our spirit has down and have no motivation for life.It was normal as a human being.Some people has own ways to motivate their self.first you can look around of you with poor people,if you wanna help them so keep spirit on your life.Then you can see mark zuckerberg or bill gate.The rich man who success with their creation.Motivate your self and said in your heart : i wanna be like them.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
no matter how down you are, there are still pople who are unlucky compared to you. so, having said that you have to think of people who you want to be like helps you make it through. But then, whatever you do, be humble and focus on what you want to achieve. it can help also if you do one thing at a time but still focusedon what you want to accomplish..
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
4 Sep 12
I also think that we cannot change the present or the past in our lives. The only thing that matters most is the present. We must always try to do our best in the present. We should try to decorate our memories and should have great hope and faith for the future and try to think only about the present. I think this will help us to do better in our lives.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
we can't change what already happened and we have to accept past is past. what's done is done. but we can make positive ones in the present and it is called present because it is a gift from God which we have to value and do things with His help. If we live withHim, wecan make things happen , even if it is impossible...
2 Sep 12
I have always felt that life is full of hopes and surprises. In fact, to me life is a field where we are all players. I mean it is like a playground. The motivation that life gives me is the hope for better my life even more and it makes me look at life in a better way.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
life is a field where all of us are players. it's like a movie where we are al actors. it just depends what role you choose to play. agree? i guess all of us hoped for brihter tomorrow. where there's no problem at all. we feel at ease and nothing to worry about. but life isn't like that. problems always come along and pressures as well as stress come along. it is just how you choose to handle it. we are all human bon tomake mistakes but we have to learn fom them to be able to understand how to act positively towards another problem. just hope things will turn out good.
@blinjk (613)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
You are right,we are lead stars and we make our own movie.My motivation is my one and only son who makes me strong and gives me happiness.I wanted him to have a good life that I never had.I handle all the pressure by being strong and thinking how to make our lives in order by learning from other people, learning by mistakes and doing what I have to do.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Hi blinjk, yes that's right. Findng motivation and happiness makes us strive more and be strong. If we stay focused and remind ourselves why we need to sacrifice at times, and learn from our mistakes, we can see things clearly. We just have to have a lot of faith and trust ourselves more to achieve our goals and soon find success.
@vipline (134)
• Greece
31 Aug 12
My motivation is money and becoming famous in the Virtual-World.The thing i call virtual world is all the games that I play and generally speaking everything that has to do with electronics!Money was always my n1 motivation in my life which helped me achieve many of my goals and till today that thing still hasn't changed!Money also helps me with my problem as well!So for me money makes the world around ;)!
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Vipline, what sites do you actually earn money online? yes, money is really important in this world but it doesn't mean that is all that matters. Sometimes people take advantage and do bad things to others for the sake of money. There are people who chooses money over friendship or love, or to other things needed to be considered. It can help us reach what we want, but always remember,there are more important th8ngs in life we need that money can't buy.
@caopaopao (7232)
• China
31 Aug 12
Hi, Sometimes when I feel tired, or when I am under pressure, I think the most important factor that motivate myself is my family. And my husband and I are always making our best to make the family happy, especially my daughter. So my daughter's happiness is my motivation.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
Hello caopaopao, good for you to always think of your daugher's happiness. Cause you know, i met a person who seldom goes hom3 for her daughter and when she does, she most of the time argues her child and act like she don't care at times. Maybe too much stressed out on her job and bf. But i know, when you are a mom, you have to calm down and understand your child. Be there evebn you are not always together. She's not doing it...mostly.. It's true that family should stay strong together and be motivated by one another. They say finding your purpose n life can help you get moving and strive harder.