how do you view this?
@jobfindonline (1744)
August 31, 2012 9:04am CST
you have a new thing and your friends noticed it. they mistakenly gave a comment that someone gave it to you? how would your feel or react? let's say your new thing is quite expensive and you bought it for yourself.. would you take it as an insult or would you be happy to hear a comment like it was a gift? an insult because, they maybe thinking that you cannot afford to buy an expensive thing like that.. but on the other side it could also be taken positively like you are so precious to receive a very expensive gift like that from someone.
whatever it is I will take it on a positive side but I couldn't help to think the negative side too. but for me it doesn't matter what they think, its not my job to let them believe what I can and I can't.
what's your view here, share it please. happy mylotting everyone!
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7 responses
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
Hi jobfindonline. You have a point for feeling that way. If I were in your position, I might feel insulted depending on the way they commented. If they say it was from a friend or boyfriend/girlfriend, they might mean it positively because just like what you've said, they view you as someone precious. If they say it was given by parents, and worse, handed down by your rich relatives, then I would definitely see it as an insult. If I had wanted something so badly, I would be saving up for that thing just so I could buy it on my own instead of relying on others. I wouldn't be so happy to hear comments that the expensive thing I've worked hard for came from others. But you're right, whatever they think, it's doesn't matter.
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@jobfindonline (1744)
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3 Sep 12
I guess they commented that way because they don't know anything and they were just curious about me and trying to get some facts.. I really think that they are guessing if it was given by someone special. it's okay all people have their own weaknesses. thanks for your well said respond.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Sep 12
Depend on the person told me. If she/he is my close friend. It's just only a joke but it he/she is not close to me maybe I can say back to him/her a bad words depending on the words he/she mention. I won't let people scrutinize me without a proof.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Sep 12
It is normal nowadays that people don't think first before they say something to anybody. They never mind if they say something below the belt already. What they want is to scrutinize somebody and they want to screw you. If you hurt, they don't mind. They are selfish human being. Keep away from them. Better to remain silent. 
@jobfindonline (1744)
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3 Sep 12
I don't think they were joking when I received those words from them. I want my privacy and there were details I feel I am not obliged to tell them. I don't like them questioning me of something too personal. Whether I bought it or a gift, it's up to me if I would tell them or not.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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4 Sep 12
yes, it's better to remain silent. it's not my job to make them believe. people can be like that, they see themselves as higher than anyone else. so for me what's the point? I am not even trying to make a competition.
@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
normally, you would deem it as an insult, but l like how you took it positively. you are right, they may have meant no harm in presuming that way. Anyway you can tell them how you acquire it and it they still won't believe then it's not your problem anymore. Real friends trust each other and if they won't believe you then be thankful that at least you've known who they are.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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3 Sep 12
yeah it's just a small thing for me. what concerns me is a friend of mine who also got involved in that conversation gave me the same essence in a different situation. but whatever it is, it's better to stay humble. you are right with what you said.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
31 Aug 12
it depends on what is the new thing which i have, if the new thing is expensive and i like it very much, but my friends abuse it , then i feel bad about it definitely, but only for a second may be, because , i liked the gift and so i will be happy , to have it, doesn't matter if they like it or not.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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3 Sep 12
in my case they like it so much but they are asking me consecutive questions. who wouldn't want an expensive gift from anyone? but it was not really a gift but I purchased it using my own money.. well, thanks for the patience that I have I didn't reacted something that would offend them. I think they are just so curious and didn't mean anything.
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
1 Sep 12
What is use knowing what they think about my new thing I'm carrying. If they think that that new thing, I got as a gift, they have to think that I deserve to have that.
People should think that my friends or kins have gifted me because I can afford the same to gift them too.
If people think that I may have puchased the new thing, then thats ok as well.
I personally never try underestimate any one or any one's personality. Rather I try to speak well to his or her face and out of his or her face.
If today I rear a good inter personal relation then other one will try to exercise the same relation.
Actually negative outlooks are kinda lethal weapon can crush inter personal relations extremely. People of negative thinkings are crap element of our society too.
@jobfindonline (1744)
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3 Sep 12
I don't try to underestimate anyone, I'm just trying to analyze what they were thinking when they uttered those comments.
well, before I speak to any one's face, I always think if it can offend them or if it is just better to leave the words unsaid for the sake of good relationship.
whether we are doing a good interpersonal to any one, we cannot expect that people will have the same respond to our kindness. in fact, we cannot please anyone, right?
I agree, negative outlooks can crush interpersonal relations but sometimes we have to take things in realistic ways. anything in excess is not good. Thanks for sharing your views here.
@melissa14344 (211)
• Philippines
1 Sep 12
It's okay even if they thought that someone might had given you that item. :D
@jobfindonline (1744)
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3 Sep 12
there is no problem with me too.. but you know when pride comes in, sometimes you think that your friend is viewing you as someone who cannot afford a thing like that. but anyway, it's not my job to make them believe or prove to them what I can and can't buy.
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
1 Sep 12
What is use knowing what they think about my new thing I'm carrying. If they think that that new thing, I got as a gift, they have to think that I deserve to have that.
People should think that my friends or kins have gifted me because I can afford the same to gift them too.
If people think that I may have puchased the new thing, then thats ok as well.
I personally never try underestimate any one or any one's personality. Rather I try to speak well to his or her face and out of his or her face.
If today I rear a good inter personal relation then other one will try to exercise the same relation.
Actually negative outlooks are kinda lethal weapon can crush inter personal relations extremely. People of negative thinkings are crap element of our society too.
