Have you ever lend money to a friend?
By velentina
@velentina (891)
Mauritius
September 2, 2012 2:36am CST
Sometimes you have to help a friend in difficulty. But when these friends forgets you when they are well-off then you feel really hurt. I have a friend who once took money from me when she was going to work abroad. I told her not to return the money because I wanted to help her as she was one of my best friend. Now she has come for vacation in my country but never came to visit me nor did she talk to me when she saw me in the market. She reacted as if she does not know me. It was very shocking and hurtful. Have you encountered such a situation in your life?
16 responses
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 Sep 12
Well, forget that friend and i think better you feel lucky because she is not your friend anymore. She is so bad and not deserved with your friendship.
In fact i used to lend some guys money but they never return it to me and right now i just ignore them as if they never exist in my life...Even with friends, we should choose friends who are nice in friendship.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 12
I have a friend whom have the same attitude like your friends. She lend money from me and promise to return to me once she received her salary. But, i never seen my money return to me anymore. Even she started to avoid me, whenever i am asking for my money. Seems like i am doing some sort of charity, so unable to see my money back anymore...
Then you should ignore her as if you don't know her also. They have to pay something later for what they did i think...
@jugsjugs (12967)
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4 Sep 12
In the past I have lent a friend money, but it took ages to get it back, so now i do not bother lending money to people.
I try to keep some savings as that way if I need money I do not have to ask anyone for any.
I do feel that some people do take advantage of other people when they lend them things, also if you say no, they tend to be offish with you.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 12
Velen, don't feel sad too much about that kind of friend. In my life, i ever came across that type of friend. You are a very kind person and willing to lend money to your friend without asking her to pay back. I ever had a friend whom lend money from me and promised to pay me back after getting her salary. I lend her my money but never see it returned to me and she tarted to avoid me whenever i am asking her about my money. Very disappointing to see this type of friend. Now, i accepted my loss and forget about her.
@sarlyntenerife (326)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Did you try to greet her? Or started a conversation? Well, I did not encountered such a situation in my life however in your case, are you sure that she saw you? Because I am thinking she might not recognized you or she might not saw you. Try to greet her the next time you see her, you are friends.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hi, Velentina! I am so sorry about that. You must be still hurting till now. I think your friend was so ungrateful for not even thinking that you have helped her in her lowest point in life. I guess, there are just friends who easily forgets. Cheer up! You deserve better friends than like her. Just pray that she will continue to achieve that status in life and be happy that you have somehow helped a friend in need.
@Pale_moon (98)
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4 Sep 12
I haven't met such a situation.It is hard for me to be so good to a friend as I haven't met an intimate friend
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
3 Sep 12
I have lend friend money but I have not had that kinda reaction from any . I know what you are talking about though , my mother lend her best friend money also to go work abroad and she never give my mother the money and she never talk back to my mother . After she lose everything she try talking back to my mother but my mother haven't talk to her since.
Some people forget who help them along their journey .
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
2 Sep 12
Yes I had but I will never lend money to such friend again. When they are in need or just claiming to be in need of money they come with all the excuses to asked for the money. But once they get the money they forget that they have to return it back also.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
3 Sep 12
This is really common between friends, i will definitely help my friend out if they need my money. Everybody may through difficulties, just have more understandign and decide through the situation. This really depends on what personality your friend has, just do not upset.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
3 Sep 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, but some fake persons are in this sort, i too have a good friend in my school days and i helped him a lot, once i met him in a shopping center after a long time, i think he will come near to me and talk with me, but he moved away soon. I forget about him after this incident, better you too forget about your fake friend
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
2 Sep 12
I have lent money to some friends. Some returned the money while there are those who few who didn't and they stopped talking to me altogether after they got what they need from me. I've learned not to trust them again, while those who have proven that they are trustworthy will not have a hard time asking me for help if I am capable of helping them out.
@chuchaibugoy (79)
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3 Sep 12
Yes, oftentimes especially if they really need it to buy medicines, food tuition fees of their child who cannot take their examination. This was also my problem before, I believe in give and take. So this time I must have a helpind hand to share if ever someone would ask or lend money but of course without interest. In my experience its not easy to asked to borrow money. So in return i have to give back to others what I had experienced with the generosity & kindness people to me before
@tsingorchid (39)
• China
3 Sep 12
In my life, I always make it clear to both how much money you want and when you return it to me, because any vague in money between friends is possible to produce gaps. If he is difficult indeed, the money cannot be returned, however, all of which must be clear. I have never come across the similar thing with you, but I have had my idea, which is that the money is the value of that friend and now he is sold out of my life. The degree that when a women is cruel-hearted is not second to that when she is kind. Have a happy time.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
hi valentina,
Yes this happened to me many times but since they are my friend I always give them my trust and money like what the saying says If you want to decrease the number of your friends lend them money and it really works for me.
happy mylotting
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Sep 12
You are a good person for helping her to pursue her goal. Are you sure that she recognized you? Why not pay her a visit to be sure. There must be some misunderstanding between the two of you.
