Creating a "Will"..Not Easy but Probably Necessary...

@Jshean20 (14374)
Canada
September 2, 2012 7:03pm CST
Most of us don't like the idea of creating a "will" because it just reminds us about how short life is, however I think it needs to be done. I've heard of sad stories of people losing a lot of their possesions just because they failed to create a will so their family was left with basically nothing ( I know that money isn't important like memories but wouldn't you rather your money goes to your children than to the government?). I'm only 27 years old and don't have children yet, at what age do you think I should start thinking about a "will"? Have you created one? What are your thoughts. Thanks in advance.
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6 responses
• United States
3 Sep 12
I've really got to get with the program and write on. I only have my daughter as an heir, but I want to ensure her father (my ex husband) doesn't get his hands on anything I leave her. Plus I'm planning to remarry next year and Jim also has a daughter. My parents are gone and my sister and I inherited dad's large train collection-I want to ensure they'll stay in the family and I want them to go to her after my and Jim's passing, not to his daughter. Her father's collection of trains can go to her.
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
I don't blame you for wanting to ensure that your ex husband doesn't get anything that you don't want him to have, only way of ensuring that would be to have an up to date will.
• United States
4 Sep 12
Well, now that she is an adult, I can only write the will and hope that she doesn't allow him to benefit from my final gift. But if I'm marrying again, I want to truly make sure that certain things that were from my family go to my daughter, and not to Jim's daughter (who does not care for me).
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
You're right, there is only so much you can do in assurance that things turn out how you hope.
@jenny1015 (13395)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
I think there is really a need to draft your will as soon as you have properties or a large amount of money kept under your name. It is very ideal so that it would lessen disagreements among family members, too.
@Raine38 (8910)
• United States
3 Sep 12
I agree. Even if you're still young but you have already properties and bank accounts I think it would be Practical to draft a will. You worked hard for what you have now and nobody should have any right to it but your loved ones.
• United States
3 Sep 12
It's terrible how greedy people get when there's the possibility of an inheritance. My parents had wills drafted on e my sister and I were born-in 1974!!! They never updated them either-Mom passed in 2002, and my Dad promised he would update his to include my daughter, who was his only grandchild. Then he passed in 2009-turns out he never updated his! We weren't even named-we were merely "issue"! And we are still untangling his estate over two and a half years later!
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
Thanks all three of you for sharing. Scorpio- this must've been such a sad and stressful thing to deal with and I cannot imagine.
@daisy777 (217)
• South Africa
3 Sep 12
Yes, it is very important to have a will no matter what age you are or whether you have children or not. I speak under correction, but I THINK you can have a will from age 18 (Please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong). It's also important that one updates their will when necessary. For example, when you get married, have a child, have a second child, it might be necessary to change ones will.
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
I think a lot of times, updating a will simply slips someones mind. When you give birth to your second child the last thing you're really thinking about is "what if I die tomorrow", well maybe you do think of it but you might not realize how crucial that peice of paper really is.
@daisy777 (217)
• South Africa
4 Sep 12
Oh of course, you're absolutely correct. It took us five years after the birth of our second child to update our will. Thankfully, it's all done now.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
3 Sep 12
I didn't ever though of such a 'will' earlier. But as you mentioned here, I think we need to prepare a w/l in all respects. Regardless of age and other matters, we need to go for a will if we already having properties, assets in any form. The will can be in any form and it can contain the basic thoughts. You said you don't have children and there is still chances. And if you have any kind of property and it is having a good worth or less value, whatever it is, you can make a will and register and keep it. You can mention the basic things and if required you can amend or can add clauses or annexes to it. I think this kind of precautions are necessary and we are not sure of anything and if it make some sort of sense, it can be done and it might have importance and a small effort can avoid so much of mess afterwards and also the confusion on the belongings and rights for the same for other people also can be settled easily. If we can clearly mention something in the will, it can avoid further problems among other people and also it will help to avoid quarrel, mis-understanding also.
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
Thanks for commenting. I think overall, taking the time to create a will would give me peice of mind knowing that things will happen fairly if I die anytime soon.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
3 Sep 12
Ishean20, I think that it is extremely inmportant to make a will; as without it (a will being done), too many persons -especially the children of the deceased- are forced to suffer the indignity of being deprived of wealth that otherwise should be becreath to them. In addition, the proceeds of land and property of the deceased -who has not make a will- are usually passed on to the Government administration department and their lawyers; instead of being divided among the relatives of the deceased.
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
It would be a terrible feeling to know that my parents things were distributed amongst the government, primarily it would be so terrible because I would know that it goes against what my mom and dad really wanted.
• India
3 Sep 12
It's true that money isn't everything, but the importance and requirement of money cannot be denied. Parents work hard and earn money for the brighter future of their children. If they die without making a legal distribution of their wealth and money, their children might quarrel over it or probably due to the lack of knowledge regarding the property and investment, after a certain period, it may be taken away by the government. So it's wiser to make a will so that your hard earned money goes to your family after you pass away.