still single at 20

Philippines
September 3, 2012 8:19pm CST
for as long as i can remember, you see, i have been a hopeless romantic girl. i'm a huge fan of love notes, poems, stories and roses, even if the flowers are for someone else. i read love sections in a magazine for the reason that they bring me joy, and i am convinced that nothing is more fun than thinking of the man of my dreams. but until now, he never came. i do have a lot of suitors but they doesn't seem to fit my taste and sittings. i wanted it to be so romantic though i know i'm living in this world without fantasy. anyways, how would you know that a certain person is what meant for you? do you recognize it automatically? how do you know that a person loves you back?
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@toniganzon (47891)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I was 20 when I saw this cute teenager. I found him attractive and I felt the need to get his attention. But I didn't because he was too young for me, or I thought he was. A few months after, i finally got to know his name and who he was from a friend. We also became friends then but we really didn't get along that much. We hardly talk. Two years later, I met him again and we became close this time. He no longer was the cute teenager, but I saw him as a man. Unplanned, I fell for him. After a few months, I took the courage to tell him because I could no longer hold back what i felt. Turned out he felt the same way. I married him. He was my first boyfriend and first everything. You see, I was a hopeless romantic like you. I had other men lining up to ask me out on a date, but I just felt it wasn't right. I guess there's really no telling who's the one. He'll just come and you would just sort of feel it.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
wow, you just did something that makes my little heart happy.. at least I've known someone just like me. thank you and you've given me courage to go through life happily.
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@toniganzon (47891)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
You're still very young. Enjoy being single while you can. It's more fun!
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
When I met man that I've treasured in my life, the man who completes me and solve the mystery within me (my husband) I have a feeling in my heart. A feeling that comes from within a feeling of admiration and hoping he would be my man. My love story is like a novel. I was like you before keep on longing and hoping for a perfect man (a man that we thought perfect) but when I met my man everything changed. My husband is a widower I met him when I visited my friend. When I saw him there is something in my heart that admires him not because of his physical beauty I just said: He seems to be a nice man, but my friend (she is 10 years older than me) called him.Then my friend told me that man is my brother in law, and we passed by in his house. So I thought, oh Lord sorry I admire him. After that day I never remember him anymore thinking that he already have a family. Few months after we met again, he's the one bringing the personal refrigerator that I bought ( I don't recognize him anymore in this time) till one day I have to move to another apartment near my friend's house. Their I met him again but I didn't pay much attention. There I have a close friend a young girl she's 13 years old. She likes me so much, maybe because she lost her mother when she was young she's 8 years old when she lost her mother. So make the long story short, I've found out that the man I like before is the father of young girl. I've found it after a month of staying in that place. We never became boyfriend and girlfriends we just had a relationship after 6 months of staying there. When we became one he confessed to me that before he met me he already saw me and when he met me he said, he would be my girl. Yet, he felt hopeless because we are too far, not only that I am younger than him for 10 years and other thing he thought I have a good job, I am a professional but he isn't. Yet, God is so good, we became near with each other because I have to move to another house. The point of sharing you this is this: When I was like you I wanted to have a man who seems perfect to me (stable job, very smart; at least smarter than me.. and everything) yet my man is totally opposite, I think the only thing that makes me lucky to have him is he loves me so much and everyday our love is burning... he is also smart regardless of using the universal language, he's a good cook and very responsible another thing that makes me lucky is he is a man who fears the Lord.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
you've really touched my young heart. i cried after i've read this comment of yours. i didn't saw it coming. it's so romantic though you're right at some points like the one you've mentioned a man with stable job, very smart smarter than me and everything. the one i love most in your story is that he is a man who fears the Lord. so, you guys, have kids already on your own?
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
As of now we don't have kids yet. We got married just this year June 20, and we are planning to renew our marriage vow next year. We only have one daughter (his daughter) Maybe I will have a baby two years from now. When my husband accepted Christ as the personal savior, (my husband and I have different religion before he's a catholic christian and I am a Pentecostal Christian a Born again Christian as we are called) he lost his job. So now I am the bread winner in our family yet I'm not worried for my husband is gifted with a lot of talents he do carpentry and cooking so he can earn money even if he's just in our house. He's a househusband now yet I'm so proud of him I know God is building his faith to make it strong. I'm also excited for our baby to be how would he/she looks like. :)
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I guess you have to give them the chance to show their love to you. If you'll see their true feelings, maybe you'll fall in love too. Your heart will tell you if he's already the right one. But you have to be careful. Use your heart as well as your brain. Sometimes things go beyond our control. We have to be prepared. Love is like gambling. You'll win or you'll lose. Happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
it seems like I don't have any interest for them to let them show their love to me any longer. i think i'm just too young.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Yes, 20 is still very young so you don't have to worry if you're still single. If you're not interested so don't give them any chance. You just have to wait for the right one to come. Happy mylotting.
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@Melody968 (124)
• China
4 Sep 12
Hi young girl, my dear friend. It is a good question that how we can know that a person loves you back. It is something that depends on different persons. It just like a chemical reation. Two persons in love may have feelings about each other. They can feel this love from the eyes, the face expressions of their lovers. Maybe when both lover meet, it is no need to talk at the very moment, they know they are in love to each other.
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• Philippines
27 Sep 12
it's like a piece of you that a person eventually knows he's the one right?
• China
4 Sep 12
Love is blinded and lover is in the eyes of beholder.So dear Rxpertsven,when your lover comes,he comes. by the way,you only 20 and I am 27 still single,How hard it is for me to take this.So my friend,you are very young,pls keep this in mind and no need in a hurry.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
thank you for your advice. i'd really appreciate it. you are right there's no need to hurry.
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• Greece
4 Sep 12
You are not on the shelf at 20, so you have lots of time left in which to find an answer to some of those questions and also Mr.Right. I was also romantic, I inherited it from my father. So rather like you I loved romantic songs, poems and stories. I imagined life was going to be romantic. My parents said that my first experience of love was 'puppy love' that was a new concept to me so I dismissed it and married my first love. I think there was an element of the 'puppy' in it but I grew up, as puppies do, and grew out of it. Forget about romance, think about loving a person in a grown up self sacrificing way and you will enter into an adult relationship that stands the test of time.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
i wanted that too but i've never found the person whom i think about loving in a grown up self sacrificing way as you've said. but anyways, he'll come... later.
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@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Love just happens. Your Mr. Right might be just caught in traffic! But, seriously, you are still young. Enjoy life! Don't go looking for love. Let love find you. Cheers!
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
yeah,he might be caught in traffic and even stop over with some beautiful ladies. hahaha
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@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I honestly have to say how do you know that someone is the one I'm going to say that first you may not realize it, like I didn't at first realize it and then after spending time with my husband and getting to know him more I knew he was the one. Its true when people tell you when you ask how do you know the person you are dating is the one. Well you just know and that is what I am going to tell you. Then I'm also going to tell you don't rush into finding Mr. Right, you say you are only 20 years old. Enjoy your single time for now. Go out and do the things that you want to do whether its pursue a career or whatever or travel. Do all that stuff now. I didn't get married until I was 26. I am now 30. And yes its the best thing that ever happened to me and was well worth the wait. So just wait and then he will come along and all the romance will follow.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
i'm not into rushing things to find Mr. right. i wanted to fall in love with someone. I've never been in love. sometimes i would think that it's cool to have a bit of experience the finally to settle with mr. right. maybe I have to wait a bit longer.
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4 Sep 12
You'll know it, you'll feel it if that person is really meant for you..You'll understand the word "soulmate." You dont like any of your suitors because you really dont feel any romantic connections with them..You know what you are looking for and you'll definitely see and feel it when that "Right Guy" is in front of you..I also believe in that Magic..You have your standards and you know the characteristics of the man that you want to meet and love..because he is also out there looking for you..:)
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
you are right and thank you so much.. all i have to do is wait a little bit longer.
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• China
4 Sep 12
When it comes to love ,we always have a standard in our heart.Such as romantic,humorous and so on.But if someone catches our heart by their own way,so called romantic ,humorous are not important anymore.What matters is that you know waht you want. Maybe it needs to experienced ,as for me ,i can recognize it by intuition.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
so you're saying that all these romantic stuff will be gone and become useless as long as the person who catches your heart makes you that happy? ohh.. i hope this could really become possible. i'm scared of the thought that i don't really have the experienced yet i do have some knowledge but experience is much better. i'm scared that when I fall in love, I don't know the next step.
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@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I guess I'm too young for this but, I have something to say... You're 20, that's still young. (I'm 18 and still single, as well) Like you, there are guys out there who shows their interest to me but I just don't feel like that they're the guy for me... What I mean is, if I would fall in love, of course I would like it to be the ONE. I don't want to engage in a relationship to another. It seems tiring and all! I want to stick to one, the one who's right for me. Don't worry, God is still busy writing the best love story for you! :)
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• Philippines
4 Sep 12
i would love that too. but I don't want to wait for the One and make him my last.. or maybe i'm just envious with my friends because they have boyfriends and stuff. i really hope that God is making the best lovestory for me.
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@iola2012 (172)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
You will see love in a magical feeling. You don't need to look for it, it will come int the right time and place. No doubt, you are still young. Be patient enough.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
thank you.. you give me hope.. i could still hope for the best.
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@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Good day Rxpertsven, Honestly, being single for me is such a blessing. Although some people get sad and a bit depressed when they have reach the age of 20 and above. As they starts to worry about their age, why are they still single. For me here, its fine, I am just thinking, perhaps, God has a better plan for me that is why I am still single. A single-blessedness they call it.
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
When i was about to enter my high school year, i told myself to focus on my studies and enjoy my high school experience. But as I met new faces i think gradually my feelings changed.I never had an ideal man in my dreams. I never expected suitors will come in. As early as my elementary years I already had experience that suitor thing but i just ignored it. Never entertained. I can't recognize it automatically but from the saying "Action speaks louder than words", that's how I can say that, this guy is true to me.I could say this guy loves me and is sincere if he stands beside me even if all are against to us.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 12
is it wrong you are still single at 20??
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@Jezabeth (82)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I can really relate at your situation right now.I am already 22 when I entered into a relationship.We've known each other coz were high school classmates before but his the only male classmates I don't really talk to.Just a year after we graduate from college we get in touch through texting sometimes.We never did expect to be in a romantic relationship with each other.It just happened unexpectedly & it felt good.Even our classmates were surprised that were together.We are not that familiar w/ each other from the start but as our relationship blossoms we get along so well.We have our own differences but we respect each other. Sometimes you just have to take a chance and believe something wonderful will happen.Just wait,be patient & he will come unexpectedly into your life.You too will have the sweetest love story ever!
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4 Sep 12
I'm also single with my age today! He's will be done in my life if He will give a lifetime partner for me to share my joys , happiness, in health and in sickness and everything to have a normal family life.. Praise be to Him! But, if He wants me on my single blessedness, Praise be to Him! God knows how I tried to be glamorous and ladylike to be admired..but, then i didn't find my right man yet! I sometimes asked myself who is my right man? Am I setting a standard that's why I'm single until this time????
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• Italy
4 Sep 12
Dear, Its been said where I come from, that couples are created in heaven. They meet one way or the other. I am 24 years old and I am still single. I was once in love back when I was 16 and it ended really bad. After that I decide that I will not settle for anything less than I deserve. So I am still hopeful, i will find that guy someday who'll make me complete :) You will know when you will know. You'll be happy around your partner, there would be less fight and more understanding. You will start loving yourself for who you are and you wouldn't care what anyone else thinks as long as you have your partner :) Good Luck
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• Western Sahara
28 Aug
I met my boyfriend is a involuntarily chance, He is a little more than me as my schoolmate. We are in the not same major and not in the same class. But we met each other, than we chat everyday. We find we have the same interests, it is very incredible! So we got together, and now we still feel that regret we didn't meet sooner! Don't worry, the best will always inadvertently show up! My friend recommended a dating site to me before, hope it helps you. Try out the first step bravely. If you need, you can try Good luck.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Being a single at the age of 20 is natural. Because getting married so early is one thing that needs to be plan. It's hard to determined a person that really stay besides you until the end for better or worse.